Who cares!? A relationship is NOT all about sex. And if you are committed enough to marry someone, then I'm sure you would have found out. It's not bad just to TALK about sex before marriage or something. The only way it'd be a problem is if they only wanted to have sex in really creepy ways, and I'm pretty sure you'd find out about that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Spoken like a true virgin.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

A relationship isn't all about sex (obviously), but sex is an important part of any healthy, satisfying relationship. Being sexually incompatible will only lead to misery, cheating, or divorce in the long run.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Well obviously you need to be sexually compatible, but you can know that without having sex. You can talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner without actually having sex. Besides, a lot of couples have waited until marriage and are still together.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If your love isn't strong enough to withstand something so stupid, you shouldn't get married in the first place. People obsess about sex way too much. Besides, it's not like the only way they'll have sex with you is if you do something creepy, so you can never have normal sex.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Sex is an urge as natural as the urge to eat or sleep (all three are evolutionarily programed in us for our very survival). So yeah, I think it's pretty important. Obviously there's no need to sleep around and have casual sex with strangers, but in a commited relationship headed for marriage I really don't see the harm in making sure you both are sexually compatible before you sign legal documents dedicating yourself to that one partner for the rest of your life. Also, I think the fear or whatever of having sex before marriage is a big reason couples rush into marriage, and then regret their decision down the road.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

" The fear", of having sex before marriage? It's not that big a reason people rush into marriage. Some people are afraid of losing them, one of them's going off to war, someone has a terminal illness(okay, that one's not so common), pressure from their families, just plain stupidity, the excitement of romance, or they want to get married before anyone realizes the bride is pregnant. If someone is "afraid", of having sex before marriage, they're most likely religious, or from a more conservative family. Or, they just don't want to give themselves to someone with no intentions of loving and caring for them for the rest of their lives. In any case, these type of people would not be likely to rush into marriage, just for sex. Hardly ANYBODY is going to get married just so they can get some.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

For all you know, the guy you've been having sex with doesn't love you for you, but for your body. Being a virgin is not a weird thing at all. Stop being so horny in life. What happens when you and your partner are old and can't move. Will you love him/her less?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

No, I've been with my partner for 6 years, and if something happened and we couldn't have sex I would not love him any less at all. But sex is still an important part of any relationship. Even when me and my partner are old, even if we can't move to have full blown sex, i'll still give him BJ's, and HJ's.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

How does this have negative points?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Got to test drive the car before buying it. You may love a car but if it drives horribly, well you're f'd, and no a relationship isn't ALL about sex but it is an important part of any relationship, that is how you connect with that person physically. It is in our nature, all animals do it, it's instinct, we are animals and our instinct tells us to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and trust me if you don't and he wants it bad enough he will go get it somewhere else. I should say waiting a while isn't a bad thing, you should have respect for yourself but i think having sex before marriage is extremely important, same as living with someone before your married. When you live with someone everything changes and you don't want to marry someone you can't stand living with, that's recipe for divorce. Really though it's your life, your opinion and what is right for you may not be right for everyone. There is no right or wrong, it's based on each personal relationship what you decide.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So true! Not to sound slutty, but before getting married I think people may be less pressed to cheat if they had more than one sexual partner, that way they would experience more kinds of lovin, and know what they want. My logic is extremely flawed, but it makes a bit of sence I think

by Anonymous 13 years ago

and 328227: TEST DRIVE?! when you are 15 or in some cases 16 years old and drive your first car anything will "drive good" to you bc you have no experience to compare, same with sex. if youve never had sex anything will satisfy you until youve gotten used to it which is where the experimenting with husband and wife begins. Therefore, both of you grow together (as having both been virgins previous to the marriage) and figure out what you like together.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

"if you've never had sex anything will satisfy you"? Are you even aware of how the female body works?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Until one of you decides you would like to find out what it is like to be with someone else, experience something else. Until you decide you don't even know if your sex with your husband/wife is good because you have NOTHING TO COMPARE IT TO.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

@alip22 there are many studies that show that people who have had sex/lived together before marriage have a higher divorce rate

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Thats because the only people who actually save themselves for marrige anymore are super devout Christians who don't beleive in divorce.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Not true actually, alot of non-christians do or plan to...

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Okay, link us to these studies then, because i know of 3 personal examples of couples in my life who waited, were high school sweethearts, only ever had sex with each other, didn't live with each other until after marriage and they all decided they needed to try other wines, and are now happily divorced.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

there are couples who don't have a strong sex life because they "didn't test drive the car beforehand" and are still happily married. I know these couples and they are probably happier than you'll ever be. Sex isn't everything.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

i agree with the comment for NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

by Anonymous 13 years ago

DO YOU GUYS NOT REALIZE THERE'S NOT ONLY ONE WAY TO HAVE SEX?? sheesh! You don't have to have sex before marriage to see if you're "compatible" that's just a cop out for people to excuse themselves having sex before marriage. There are so many different ways to make love and you work on it together. Obviously the first time you have sex isn't going to be the best sex you've ever had. Don't be so naive and ignorant.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If sex is such an important part of a relationship, then why are so many old people still married even thought they can't have sex anymore?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Because they were together when they were young and had sex all the time!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I'm going to say this. Mind your own business. Either you agree or you don't. I don't give a flying f*** whether or not you (being anyone reading this) decides to have sex before marriage. That is YOUR decision that YOU have to live with. I had sex way before marriage, that doesn't make me a slut, I have still only been with a limited amount of people. Sex is human nature, there's NOTHING dirty or wrong about it. So please, don't preach, live in your own life with your own decisions, stop concerning yourself with the decisions of others. Take a long hard look in the mirror and judge yourself, not others. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Now, I am not christian but that quote still stands true. I am going to do what i feel is right for my life, so why don't you go ahead and do the same. My opinion is just that, an opinion, just something stating how i feel, if you don't like it, oh well, you have your own opinion. For those who agree with me, thanks, if you don't, oh well

by Anonymous 13 years ago

First off, I'd like to say something that many others before me have said, Sex isn't everything in a real relationship. Plus, by the time you get married, shouldn't you already know or have figured out if the person you are marrying has a creepy fetish? Finally, if you really love someone, being sexually incompatible won't be as big of a deal as if the relationship is all about sex.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

That's so true, I'd rather check before than be screwed in the end

by Anonymous 13 years ago