+193 It's so stupid when people date in middle school. The point of dating is to find someone you want to marry. You're not going to do that at the age of twelve, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

love doesnt have an age limit, anyone could find it, besides dating at that age is all part of the fun of being a teenager.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

This comment wins.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

there is a point. You'll be able to find out what kind of person you get along with the best, and help you out in the future.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This is exactly what I was going to say

by Anonymous 12 years ago

How can you truly find love without having those other relationships to gain experience from. And you never know. Maybe they will one day get married. I know a couple who have been dating since they were in grade 7 and are engaged at 24

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What wrong with puppy love? Kids need to dream too.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I though the point of dating that young was just learn how relationships work and how to deal with other people so that when you did finally get to "the real deal" you would be prepared.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I met my boyfriend when I was twelve. I'm 23 now and we're getting married in the fall!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

did you start dating at 12? Or did you meet him when you were 12? But anyway, congratulations!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

We started officially dating 14-01-2001 and by then I was thirteen :)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

grats :)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You need to learn life lessons. Like some girls/guys are bitches/jerks and then you learn how to deal with it for the future. Otherwise you'll grow up thinking you'll get your fairytale straight away and be sadly disappointed. Anyway, some people are best friends with the person they will marry since they were young, and love can happen at any age in my opinion. Love has no boundaries as the saying goes :)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with this post, but I think all the comments above me make excellent points. It's stupid when middle schoolers date just so they can say that they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. At that age, it's just something that they think makes them seem cooler, their boyfriend/girlfriend is more like an accessory. Not saying this is true in all cases, but that's the way I see it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree. I personally think anything having to do with dating, as in an official relationship, should start in highschool. Kids in middle school hardly even know who THEY are yet. How can they be expected to know what they're looking for in someone else? Plus I think it's just another reason to be made fun of. "Wow, did you hear Stacy's never kissed anyone? Yeah and she's never even had a boyfriend! Isn't she so lame!"

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Some cultures don't even start dating until you're twenty. I never wanted a boyfriend in middle school, or even now really, but in middle school htey'd be all like "who do you like? Who do you want to kiss? Who do you want to be your boyfriend?" constantly, like it was more an obligation to get a boyfriend than a choice.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I know exactly what you mean. At every middle school sleepover I attended, there was always a point in the night where we'd go around asking who we wanted to date. I honestly disliked almost every boy in my school because they were obnoxious pigs.. Which most middleschool boys are. Someone even spread a rumor around the school that I was a lesbian because I didn't like boys. Middleschool was probably the worst time in my life thinking about now :/

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I know what you mean. And besides, it seems to me like all the people who date in Junior High are cheaters or they get cheated on. Also, sometimes you suffer for being mature.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Your use of the name Stacy managed to get Stacy's Mom in my head.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Haha. Sorry bout that!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's okay, I like the song, but I think it'll be stuck for a while lol :)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I remember being in like 6th or 7th grade, and these kids were making fun of me because i never frenched kissed anyone...o_O. I was like "lolwut are you seriously making fun of me for that?"

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's retarded. You should've been making fun of THEM for being such whores. Middle school is not the time for that nonsense.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You don't need to date a lot of people to know who you love or who you're going to get along with, so dating a lot isn't exactly neccessary. My mom only dated a couple guys before she met my dad and she didn't date at all in middle school. They're still together after 20 years. So, yeah you don't need the experience and it's really stupid to date someone just for the sake of dating someone. Personally, I dont' get why middle schoolers woudl do that to themselves. I've seen what kind fo crap relationships result from middle school, they always end with crying, regret, realization that they wasted their time making out in the hallways with and sometimes pregnancy. And this is from my middle school alone. You can understand what kind of person you get along with without dating. It's called being friends. You don't need a boyfriend to have fun, especially when you're still a kid, which middle schoolers are. On the other hand, some relationships in middle school do work out and that's...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

...pretty rare.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

1608- England "Hello Emily, my my look how you have grown up, turning into quite the young lady. How old are you now?" "I'm turning 13 next week!" "13 already?! Well, introduce us to your fiancee!" "But...I don't have a fiancee" "What? Haha...clearly you must be joking. That is not socially acceptable, darling. What will your peers have to say about this? You will grow old and frail all alone, without a single offspring in the world, By the age of 25, your life will be over." Emily walks away.. "Mum! I want a husband!" "You should have said something earlier sweet pea, you're too old now!"

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with most of the comments above, but obviously you shouldn't be trying to get in a relationship if you're 12 with a guy that's like 14+ because that's pretty much destined for diaster.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

then you can wait till your 20's when its appropriate to marry someone (also im wondering why this is only middle school and not high school. im assuming its because people like to rag on the younger generation and whatever excuse seems logical) and you can meet the person you want to marry, and you can fuck it all up because you have no dating experience and not know how to resolve relationship like conflict. and i strongly disagree that dating is to find someone to marry. dating is to find who and what works for you, to find a companion even for a short ammount of time to call yours, and besides that, i will never get married.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

haha I'm actually twelve and I totally agree. they last like anywhere from 4 months to a day. lol

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I say it all depends on the person.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And what if you do?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I find this funny because I know a couple that started dating when they were 12. They're now in their late 30s, happily married, with a child. Some people do find love at a young age.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What about all the people who find heartbreak at a young age instead? Speaking from my own experience here, that's much more likely.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Amen! High school too. I may be old fashioned, but I only want to date one person in my lifetime. I respect if you don't tho, that just my view.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"the point of dating is to find someone you want to marry" WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! Holy crap, I'm slamming my "wrong" button as hard as I can, and it's STILL failing to convey the wrongness in that sentence. Not only is the main point of dating (from an evolutionary standpoint) FAR from marriage, but you're trying to tell other people the reasons THEY'RE dating. YOU may be looking for someone to marry, but someone else may just want companionship. Take off the blinders and learn that other people have different reasons for doing things than you.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Hey, MrRight, I think you're very wrong. First off, what do you think friendships are for? Second off, Evolution? Dating isn't exactly a science. Third off, I don't even want to KNOW what you think dating is for.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'd come back with a proper response, but obvious troll is obvious.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't see why young people shouldn't be allowed to enjoy each other's company and learn about how relationships work, as long as they're not doing anything they're not ready for. Dating doesn't have to be about marriage. I respect the people who wouldn't date someone unless they really though they were going to marry them, but i also respect the idea that a relationship can be like a friendship: you're enjoying someone's company and learning to see yourself in a new light. The idea that dating is only a preparation for marriage is too restrictive for my taste. That's the kind of thinking that puts people in unhappy marriages because they thought that's what they had to do.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Wait do people seriously think that the point of dating is to find someone to marry? Seriously? I've been dating for years and I have no intention of ever getting married ever. People just date to date.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

this is so not true. while I think middle school relationships are kind of pointless, the point of dating at a young age is NOT to find someone you want to marry. the point of dating in high school (when dating actually becomes real) is to find out what you like, gain some experience before you enter the real world of dating, and just have fun. while some high school sweethearts do get married, the whole point of these relationships is to prepare you for the real thing.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Middleschool dating is nothing like real world dating. It provides no real experience at all really. It's just stupid.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Even if they don't all prepare you for the real thing, you're only young once. May as well have fun before you're tied down to one person!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

my great grandparents started dating when they were 12 or 13 and they're the only people each other have ever dated, now they're both in their 90's.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

They probably won't get married but kids do it for fun. They like each other and want to be together.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'd rather not have to deal with the MIND NUMBINGLY STUPID drama associated with Jr. High school dating. It's so stupid, painful, immature, and I HAVE A TON OF BETTER THINGS TO DO.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Agreed. No one in elementary school or middle school has enough wisdom to decide that. In fact, a study done by the University of South Georgia concluded that kids who "date" in Middle school tend to get into drugs and have decreased grades. It also can be socially bad for both of the kids because if they "break up" then the one who got dumped becomes very stressed because kids care so much about what other people think at that age. Then the one who dumped the other one usually has feelings of guilt and depression. This may causes troubles in the future such as not wanting to date or to or having troubles with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Lastly it is kinda pathetic because its really not real love. They just do it cuz everyone else does.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Not everyone does it because everyone is. My mate usually hates the entire idea of middle school dating untill one particular girl asked him out. They're always laughing or smiling whenever their together and are proud about it ( one thing they did decide was that they ever did break up, they would have to say why and in person so it doesn't become a useless mess) Also contrary to popular belief middle school daters do actually go places he's constantly raving his head of about were him and his GF went over the weekend or the holidays. It's changed him as a person and has lasted about 8-9 months. Personally I can't see any problems

by Anonymous 9 years ago

I'm actually a middle schooler, and I think dating at this age is stupid. I mean, there are those one in a couple thousand people that actually fall in love and stay couple at this age. I don't worry about dating even though some people I know date. I get some of the best grades in my grade and I actually learn and am not distracted from notes from peers that say, "Ooh, you're totally dating that dude you sit by at lunch, right? " I seriously sit by my friend at lunch, and all of a sudden, I'm dating him? And really, it's more hanging out than dating. A date is when you take someone out to a fancy dinner place wearing a tuxedo or a dress and paying for the whole dinner. I mean, what are you supposed to do, say to your mom, "Hey, could you drove Paige and I to the theaters to watch Robocyborgcopthingy?" That's not a date. That's hanging out. Eating pizza. Hanging out. Going to a restaurant that overlooks the sea. Date. I mean, in elementary school there were rumors that quite a few people had sex. I mean, I live in a small college town, and if this is happening in a small school, imagine in a

by Anonymous 9 years ago

Big city

by Anonymous 9 years ago