My dad shouldn't have a girlfriend 2 months after his wife of 11 years dies. amirite?

I'm sorry for the loss :(

by Anonymous 13 years ago

A man's got needs.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh, I didn't know every guy who had needs got a girlfriend. I just assumed that they watched porn, masturbated, went to strip clubs...OH WAIT.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I didn't say anything about sex. Maybe he just needs the companionship because he's not used to being alone after being married for so long.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Don't try to change your story because obviously you meant "needs" as something sexual.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I would love to know how you knew what I was really thinking and intending from a comment consisting of four words. If you want to interpret it that way then that's fine by me.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Because when someone says "guys have needs" on a post about a man getting a girlfriend after his wife died, it's taken sexually, considering that's really the only way you can interpret it. You get points for Anthony loving your comment, though!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A man's got needs.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What a stud. Apart from the fact that he has a kid (and probably more than one) and he's straight, this dude's my hero.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sorry for your loss. All I can say is everyone deals with grief differently. I wish you both well and please try not to be too hard on him.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

He probably needs someone to help with his loss, someone to fill the void his wife filled.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Your dad can do and feel whatever he likes, but if what he's doing is bothering you, then it's wrong. She was your mom, after all - she wasn't just a wife. I'm sorry for your loss :(

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think it's great that he can move on and get his mind off his wife. He can't just reminisce and be depressed for years, he has to move on eventually. And from where I see it, the sooner the better, for you and your dad.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Just don't go insane and start seeing your mom's ghost telling you to kill both of them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

People grieve differently, but he should have consulted his children/you first. Maybe you're not quite ready for a new motherly figure in your life. It's good that he's not letting it get to him, but it's not fair that he didn't care to ask you for your thoughts.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Your mom wants it to be like that trust me I know.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Wow. That just recently happened to a friend of mine and I was so angry when I found out, only because my friend's mom was such an amazing person. Still, it may help his grieving process, no matter how uncomfortable it makes you.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

SON, YOU ARE SO GROUNDED ONCE I GET HOME. JUST BECAUSE IM AT HER HOUSE RIGHT NOW, DOESNT MEAN YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO TALK ABOUT ME BEHIND MY BACK.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

LOL at the username

by Anonymous 12 years ago

haha yeah! thanks ;D

by Anonymous 12 years ago

WHAT?!? I'VE ONLY BEEN DEAD TWO MONTHS AND YOU'RE WITH SOME CHEAP FLOOZY?!?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

How old are you if he was married to her for 11 years? Or was she your step-mom? Either way, I'm very sorry for your loss. I agree with JimiHendrix and Brett. Being single won't bring her back, but 2 months is too soon. He should consult you and your siblings about how this makes you feel. A death in the family is very traumatic event. Perhaps, it's his way of coping. Tell him how you feel. I'd recommend following all the comments (except Simon, just forget him) and the advice they give you. (Unless it's stupid, rude, or useless, but that's kind of a duh)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"except Simon, just forget him" :( :( :( For what it's worth, you gave good advice, but this was posted August last year - chances are, this kid's not on the site anymore.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well maybe he is, who knows. But it can help if other people see this and they end up going through something similar or know someone who is.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

He is still on the site. I got a message from him (I won't tell you who, it was anon for a reason.) While it may be too late for him, like I said, it can be a good future reference for someone.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Honestly, he can do whatever he wants, whether or not you feel it's wrong. Maybe it's his way of coping, or maybe he really does have feeling for his new girlfriend. He shouldn't let the past get to him - he should move on and live his life. I'm not saying he should completely forget about her, especially because he was with his deceased wife for such a long time, and he obviously had strong feelings for her, but I'm saying he should try and move on. Just because you don't approve of his decision, doesn't mean that it's wrong.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Just think of the new girlfriend as a rebound. Your dad's probably in denial, and once he comes to his senses, he'll know what the right thing to do is. I wish you both well.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Same thing happened with my grandad after my grandma (his wife of 40(?) years died of alzheimer's at the funeral even he stated how he was going to start dating again, and within 6 months was married. Sorry OP, its a bitch

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The same thing happened to my family when I was 12 years old. Two months later he was with my mom's best friend. It was awful and it was way too soon and I'd never hated my dad so much before. But, you have to realize that he's grieving just as much as you are and the way he deals with it is personal. It took me a very long time to be "okay." I'm very sorry about your mom and if you ever want to talk I'll talk with you because I really do know what it's like.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol so this is obviously fake...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Call me selfish but I probably wouldn't want to be dating a guy who's wife just died. I'd think he couldn't be fully into me or else he's just an asshole for being able to get fully into someone else (wink wink) after 2 months.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm so sorry. But like a lot of commenter's have already said, everything handles grief differently. You should talk to your dad calmly about how you feel. Communication is one of the only ways to hold a family together.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Did he kill her?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with a previous poster. He probably found someone new that made him happy and filled in the sadness with happiness. You may want to tell him you aren't comfortable with it, but really I don't think your mom would want him to stay miserable for the rest of his life.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with the comments about him being happy, but after being married for 11 years and dating for who knows how long before then, two months is just too soon. My one grandmother was married to my grandfather for around 50 years. He died and she moved to an old age home. Six months after he died, she phoned my dad to tell him she's just gotten married to another man.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

am i missing something? one of the posts was by 'yourpissedoffdad', suggesting this is fake maybe? or is it just some random person messign around?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Maybe it helps him stop thinking about his loss. He needs something (or someone) to occupy himself so that he doesn't constantly sit around and wallow in despair.

by Anonymous 12 years ago