+77 Just because I don't agree with gay marriage does not make me a bad person, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It makes you a prick.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It does to me.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It depends on your reasons to oppose it. If you hold traditionalist views, where the bride should be virginal, it's a joining of two families, etc. etc, blah blah blah, then it doesn't make you a bad person. If you oppose gay marriage purely because you cannot support the love of two same-sex people, or any other judgemental views, then it makes you a bad person.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But WHY? Why does it make any sense that marriage should be between a man and a woman? And also, if the bride and groom aren't virgins, are they not allowed to get married? Because about 98% of people aren't virgins when they're married. So that's just fucking stupid.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I didn't say I agree with that. I'm all for gay marriage. But I know a lot of people who hold traditionalist values, and frown upon such marriages, but because they are traditionalists, not because they are homophobic. I'm just saying being a traditionalist doesn't make someone a bad person.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm not saying it makes them a bad person. I'm just wondering why anyone would think that way, considering it's so hypocritical

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well, it's not hypocritical if, for example, they oppose the idea of pre-marital sex. As long as they are consistent, there's no hypocrisy.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But they're not upholding everything that is said in the bible. If they do, true, it's not hypocritical, but almost no one does.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't support gay marriage, but I don't bash it. There IS a difference people!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

To me there's not. If you support someone else's marriage, you should support another's, regardless of sex. There's no good reason not to and I feel not supporting one's quest to happiness and love and being a family is a really shitty thing and it makes you a bad person in my eyes. Even if you don't publicly oust gays.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No. But if you put people down for supporting it, then yes you would be. Not agreeing with it and straight up being a prick about it are two totally different things.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If we can all live peacefully together and not shove our ideas down other people's throats and have no respect for others' beliefs i don't see why it's a problem to disagree with something like gay marriage. It doesn't make you a bad person solely for having that belief.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It doesn't make you a bad person; it just means I disagree with you. But, in all honesty, it really isn't a personal thing. I disagree with your views, not your existence, and I'm sure that there ARE heterosexual-only marriage supporters that are perfectly nice people. As long as you do not impose your view onto others (a different concept entirely than simply stating them) it should not be a factor in defining your character.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think it does; if you believe a couple doesn't deserve the same rights as other couples just because of their gender, it makes you a slightly worse person than someone who does. But I probably wouldn't tell you that. Also, not supporting it and not agreeing with it are different things. If you didn't think it was a negative thing, but didn't do anything to actively support it, that's fine because you can't expect everyone to be active with every cause, can you?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree. It doesn't neccessarily make the op a BAD person, but it does make me think less of him/her.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

In America, we are free. Gays can be gay. I think it is wrong, but if they want to do it, they can. But there is a reason why marriage is pushed to be between a man and a woman. And why it has been that way. Marriage was originally instituted by Christians and adapted by cultures thereafter with no changes: one man, one woman. That's what makes marriage: the commitment of a man to a woman and the woman to the man, for life. Gay people can go be gay and do what they do, but nobody can redefine marriage. It simply cannot be between two of the same gender. If gays just want to love each other and whatever they say, why do they insist on being officially married under the law? Jealousy anyone? They made their decision to be gay (or not whatever you think is true I think its a choice), and that is one thing you can't do if you are gay. Like having kids. You can't. That's how it is. Well, there you go. The non-jerk way of explaining why "gay marriage" is complete bullshit. I'm not super hateful, but marriage is what it is, and you can't change that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

So gay marriage is wrong, because they can't have kids? What about infertile couples? Should they be banned from marriage? And saying it's a choice is being a jerk. So, that's not the "non-jerk" way. Did you "choose" to be straight? Or did you just grow up to be attracted to members of the opposite sex? It's the same thing for gay people. They don't "choose". Their natural attraction is to members of the same sex. And that marriage definition dates back to times when slavery was acceptable. Our views on that changed with the times - why can't our views on marriage? "Originally", women were not permitted to vote, or drive. They were ordered to sign all their possessions to their husbands. That's all changed. So your "Marriage cannot be changed, because it was originally a man and a woman" is flawed. Why is marriage different? Homosexuality exists in over 1500 species. Homophobia only exists in one. Which seems unnatural now?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I've recently changed my views on this. I used to think "It's you're opinion that gay marriage shouldn't be allowed, and there's nothing wrong with having an opinion." But there's really no good reason to be against it. I wouldn't say it makes you a //bad person//, but it does make you seem kind of dumb and bigoted.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If you don't agree with it, that doesn't make you a bad person. But opposing it does. For example, I don't agree with smoking, but I'm don't think it should be illegal and I'm not going to harass anyone who does it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago