Thank God for small blessings

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I walked in on them once... Does that count?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Neverrrrr but all my friends' parents do in front of them and I'm like wtf? I refuse to believe my parents make out anyway.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's better to see that than to walk in on them doing the dirty deed. I'll never forget the trauma •_•

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've never seen them kiss or even say I love you.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Haha, now that you mention it I've never seen them hug either.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My dad is not an outwards affectionate person. I've seen them hug a couple of times but that's it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My parents are pretty affectionate towards me and my brothers, but not to each other. I've never seen them hold hands either, or even sit close together.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@LittleRed That sounds **exactly** like my parents... Weird

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That's actually really sad.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

...God forbid.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My parents had an arranged marriage. So no.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Mine too! The most I ever saw was a quick kiss on the lips. I've never even seen them hug.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've seen them hug during emotional moments, as moral support.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh. Yeah I've seen that, like when my dad's sister died my mom hugged him, but I mean like I've never seen it other than after a tragic moment

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It kinda sucks though :/ Makes me want to have what my parents refer to as "love marriage". To me, the term sounds redundant. Which is makes it even more sad.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Just curious, what race are you? And I agree. My parents marriage is totally fucked right now. After 15 years, you think you know a guy, but turns out he's a jerk. :/ My mom had to learn that, too late. I'm getting a love marriage for sure. I'm not putting myself or my kids through the arranged marriage kind of hell

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm from india, but born and raised in the glorious (yeah, not so much) land of 'murica. I have to wonder though, how could you have sex with someone you barely know? the way the dates are, my brother was conceived around the time of my parent's wedding. The one thing I worry about sometimes is not finding someone, and turning to arranged marriage as a last resort.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Same here! India, born and raised here. I'm from Punjab, what about you? You're so lucky you have a brother. My parents didn't get one and now they're trying for one. My oldest sister is 18. And yeah I know. Like why is it such a big deal for us to have pre marital sex with a boyfriend? I'd like to have sex with a man I love and trust, not some random guy I barely know. And same here. I'm giving up a Lot in the future for love. If God doesn't let me find love in this life, I'm just gonna kill myself and hope I will find love in my next life.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Cuz the thing is, if I'm not married by thirty, my parents will disown me. And it'd have to be arranged. So I'm disowned. I have nothing anymore. If I found love, that'd be great. If I don't, then what's the point? All I dream of is a husband I can grow old with and have kids with and cuddle with.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I know that feeling. However, I don't think you should kill yourself. Please don't. I know tons of people (well, people who know people) who found their true soulmate in their 40s and 50s. However, I do also understand the soul-crushing feeling of rejection that seems to always be served on a silver platter. It just never works out for me. Ideally, I would like to lose it to my husband. Not because of the way i was raised, but because of my own beliefs. If you find yourself stuck though, there's always online dating, or having your friends be your wingmen, or blind dates, or speed dating. I have heard that college opens all sorts of doors and everybody and everything is so much more social. There's a lot of ups and downs of being single. and I totally understand where you're coming from. oh, and I hail from the south, near Andhra Pradesh. More specifically, Hyderabad.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I guess, but I also want kids, and as you get older, your chance of having kids kind of decreases. And yeah I agree. I mean like, if I was okay with arranged marriage, I would lose my virginity before that, but I'm getting a love marriage, so I'm also gonna wait till I'm married. It just seems easier. :)

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I really really want that "average" upper-class indian-american lifestyle. That entails a love marriage with a husband who shares the same nine-to-five profession as myself (I plan on being a neurosurgeon), us living in a mansion with a little lapdog as a pet (i want a dachshund), 2 children, and having the grand parents (mine and my husbands parents) living with us, or at least visiting us. There will be one cook because I cannot cook and probably will never learn and I don't count on ending up with a cook, two to three servant maids who keep the house clean, and a babysitter for the children. Yep. There's my life.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My parents are from Punjab too. :) If I ever even mentioned having a love marriage to my parents they would be pissed. A few years ago they found out my sister had a boyfriend and there were weeks of lectures.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Wow. Your Parents won't disown you for getting a love marriage? After I get married, I don't want anything to do with my dad. But I love my mom. I want her to be in my life forever. :) My perfect life would be two girls, close in age, both a year apart, a husband who makes a 6 figure salary, and maybe a pet turtle. Or a giraffe. Either is fine. I want to be a child psychiatrist because psychology is the only thing that interests me. I can't cook, either, so I'll probably also get a cook. And when the children are young, I'll hire a nanny. I don't want servants because I feel like my kids would be all spoiled and stuff. I would want to live in a regular house. :) Where do you stand on your kids religion? Like, if your husband was a different religion than you, would you want your kids to follow his religion or yours? @mileycyrus, damn your sister is lucky. My punjabi family friend had a boyfriend who lived in India. Her parents found out and her dad beat the crap outta her. My parents are only okay with love marriage if he's Punjabi, handsome, has a nice paying job, his parents are nice, and he's a Jatt. -_-

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh wow, that's awful! You would think they would be happy since he's Indian. That's really dumb. You would think our parents would care more about their kids being happy than the "shame" of having an interracial marriage. Do you think you're going to force your children to have arranged marriages?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Hell no! After seeing my parents failed marriage, I'm not getting one, I'm not letting my kids get an arranged marriage, my grandchildren aren't, and if I live long enough, my great grandchildren aren't getting arranged marriages. My parents care more about society than our happiness. Do you know anything about castes? Just curious. Some don't know.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't know if I would call my parents marriage a failed one, they both seem content. I guess it's just luck! Are castes, like, how you rank in society? Kind of like how America has poor, middle class and the rich?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah kind of but there's like, a lot of them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm perfectly fine with whatever religion my husband would be. However, as long as he respects my choices and does not insult me, I'm okay with him. As for the kids, I plan on raising them in a Hindu household, but I will allow them to make a choice to convert (if they want to) when they are 18+. This is, only after thorough and careful thought. The servants were more of an after thought. When they kids are young, I have the servants. When they grow older, I'll start to wean off of the servants so they can do some chores too. I won't completely get rid of them though, because I won't have time to do them myself and I don't want to dump a houseful of chores on two children. As for the boyfriend issue, my parents are okay with me dating as long as it all happens when I am 18+. (of course my brother and I both secretly broke this rule eons ago. But I was 12 and stupid and my brother just broke up. So it's all good. And my parents aren't likely to find out, ever.)

by Anonymous 11 years ago