+747 Virgins: You're a little afraid to have sex. amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm not a virgin, but I was a little scared to have sex when I was. It's a pretty frightening thing the first time.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah the first time will be horribly awkward no matter how hard you try :(...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yup. That's why I think it's so important to be with someone you really trust and can be vulnerable with.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not true. My first time wasn't awkward at all.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

^ Why am I being voted down for being honest?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Which is awesome for you and quite lucky IMO. Still, the idea that one should be comfortable and trust your partner is valid whether it's awkward or not. My first time was a bit awkward but my bf was very understanding and comforting and waited until I was ready to give it a real try.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Ps. I voted you up.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Same. I was really nervous, and then afterward it was kinda like "That ... that was it? That was what everyone in the world has been raving on about?"

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Haha me too. Then I did it a few more times and understood lol.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I've had lesbian sex so I'm not a virgin, but I'm still scared to do it with a dude. I probably won't tho so I don't really have to worry about it..

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Great story, Katie Holmes.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't get the Katie Holmes reference..

by Anonymous 12 years ago

From a show on E! called "The Soup".

by Anonymous 12 years ago

As long as you're comfortable that's all that matters.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You'll cum around.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A round what? ...bubble?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Chauncy Pickles): You're trying too hard.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Maybe you're trying too flaccid!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

no

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Chauncy Pickles): I don't know why that got voted down. It made me laugh.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Haha. Hard.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I was the 100th person to vote that up, and I feel special. But I'm not. :(

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You're special in my heart.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

D'awwwwwwwww.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

One of my best friends cousin's girlfriend claims she won't sleep with him because she is scared its going to hurt too much. His solution: get her super drunk and sleep with her so she'll be barely conscious when they have sex and then do it for real later after its healed. He is kinda a man whore.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

He should know that in most places, that constitutes rape.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

True, but I don't see her reporting him as she does want to sleep with him, she's just frightened of it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's still rape - consent means that both parties are aware of what they're consenting to, and not under the influence of drugs and alcohol. And it's one of the stupid things I've heard. If you're scared sex is going to hurt, then maybe stick with oral sex or hand job/fingering. And, if you need to be drunk/barely conscious while having sex, then maybe you should sit down with your partner and discuss it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

First, It isn't me. I would never date him because A) he's and idiot b) he's a slut and c) he's an asshole. Please don't say "you". I'm not that kind of girl. And yes, I completely agree with you and teehee. Its a completely idiotic and not really legal way to go about it. And the real reason I suspect she won't sleep with him is that he has a tendency to sleep with a girl for a month or so then move on to the next virgin he can find. I would't even talk to this kid if he didn't live at my best friends house.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sorry, I meant "you" as to anyone reading the comment, I should have specified when I replied to your comment.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh, it's alright. I misinterrupted it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Which is why I plan to be completely wasted when I lose my virginity, so I barely even remember it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That will be waay special.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Totally. :)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I hope that's a joke. If not it's a clear sign that you're not reay.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No, I wasn't serious. Sorry, sarcasm doesn't transfer too well over the internet.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Honestly I wasnt

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's good :)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

kids these days..sigh !

by Anonymous 12 years ago

to all the guys out there, you're terrified that she will think you're not big enough

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Honestly, I'm completely freaked out. I know I won't be comfortable allowing someone else to touch me that way until I'm comfortable touching myself. I think girls should learn to love their own bodies before they share them. That's what I'm attempting to do right now.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I definitely think you need to be comfortable with your own body, but touching yourself isn't necessary. You definitely do need to know what everything is in that area as well, but again, masturbation isn't necessary. And I think a good way to feel comfortable with someone touching you that way is you have to want to give them everything, not just your body but every part of you. That way when they are doing physical things with you, it's a lot less scary.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"Give them everything"? You're having sex, not offering your body up as a sacrifice to the Gods. Your body is always yours no matter who you have sex with.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm not saying it's no longer yours, I'm just saying you're giving them every opportunity to take advantage of you, to use your body and mess with your mind. That's pretty much everything.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well, there's the whole fear of the unknown, and then there's deciding to wait for the right person. there are some things in my life that I am not proud of, and 'who i lost my virginity to' is not what I want to put on that list.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I wasn't scared until I read this whole string of comments.....

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(A-nun-o-mus): I like how your name has the word "nun" in it. =)

by Anonymous 12 years ago