+322 A relationship should compliment your self=confidence, not complete it, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I forget the doctors name, but a book was just published on the fact that the opposite of what this post says it what makes a relationship last, apparantley the "clingy" relationships are the ones that will last a life time based on this need of eachother to survive.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's absolutely wonderful. Thanks for telling me. So when you feel like you couldn't live without the other person, that's healthy? That's bringing in Twilight-like relationships here...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I've never seen twilight.. But what the doctor was saying, yes. The people with these types of relationships statistically will stay together the longest because of a dependence on eachother.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I bet couples where only one partner is "clingy" don't last very long

by Anonymous 12 years ago

So you're just taking some writer's opinion as fact without thinking on your own? I don't care what merits he has. The premise stays the same.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

it was a she actually, nice hint of sexism though.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

SO...I assumed someone was a guy, which is an honest mistake, and suddenly I'm sexist? It might be nice for you to know that I'm a girl, by the way. And I want to be a doctor...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

youre the only one bringing in twilight... and no need to sound so sarcastic, if you dont belive el_scorch just google it

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Read what I said above about taking what you read as fact...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

if it has been studied by someone who is a profesional, then yeah its fact their opinion is more valid than yours. btw: why did you say you? im not el scorcho, im bluntsaregay

by Anonymous 12 years ago

There are plenty of "professionals" who believe that the world will end in 2012, and also plenty who disagree. Does that automatically make the "professional" right?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

................................youre dumb. pathetic argument. i guess psycologists dont know what theyre talking about and you do. someone who studies realtionship patterns is waaaayyy different than someone who trys to predict something that hasnt happened with no studying based off other patterns other than nostradamus who never said exactly what happened and we assumed what he meant after it already happened. its very easy to make false connections with things like that. what other experts are there that say the world will end in 2012 with reasonable evidense to back them up?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I get that they have more credibility. And I'm not, in any way, saying that his research was wrong. This post wasn't even about dependence. And people can publish an opinion that is disagreed with. Anyway, people can have a relationship where they need eachother, but they both still feel self-confident when they aren't with the other. I'm saying that someone shouldn't be completely dependent on another person, IN MY OPINION. Take note of the capitalized words. There's a reason I pressed caps lock. Because apparently, I can't say anything "against"(which it wasn't against the book...retard) a published book without being "dumb." And lastly, I might be more impressed with your pathetic argument if you used proper grammar. And maybe some apostrophes.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

tl;dr

by Anonymous 12 years ago

When you replied that fast I figured as much. And +1 internets(sarcastically) for hypocrisy, seeing as I read your paragraph, despite the bad grammar, start to finish.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

oh and see just in page. how is you reading my paragraph but me not reading your 3 hypocritical..?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Mine had about the same amount of words; I just spaced it out like a normal, literate person would. LMAO, and that is SO mature. Taking an argument out of context is an AMAZING way to deal with a disagreement. In case you don't remember...I replied to you when you said it was a bad argument. Don't attack the statement unless you actually aren't to lazy to read the explanation. Retard.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

tl;dr having fun ranting over unimportant things?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

They're right, at least partly. For a relationship to work, both people must have something to gain from it and the more they have to gain, the more likely they are to stay. So if the two people are completely dependent on eachother, then they kinda have a lot to gain from the relationship. And BTW *complement*

by Anonymous 12 years ago

that's not always true.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Which part?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree, but they can't completely depend on each other all the time. You have to have some level of independence, at least once in a while. And geez, I normally don't make spelling mistakes :/ sorry!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I know what you mean, but it's just that what seems like an unhealthy relationship to the rest of us isn't necessarily unhealthy. As long as both people have the same level of commitment to the other, it'll work. It's just that that's never the case, so it never works.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I know what you mean. Maybe I should have worded it slightly differently. By the way...I just noticed I started my comment with the same sentence as you did...ANYWAY.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

*complement The difference between those two words is crucial

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah, I can't believe I missed that...:/ sorry!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah guys...I think my hands had a heart attack while typing...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I do that when I have my "happy time" cool

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Haha oh God :P

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Compliment, not complete. Something Stephanie Meyer has yet to learn...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

We've covered the fact that my hand had a heart attack on the keyboard. The keyboard was just too damn sexy, And I feel inclined to say that I am much more literate than Stephanie Meyer.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh, I wasn't talking about that. I was just trying to diss Twilight. Sorry.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I wasn't offended or anything :P. Haha, my hand had a spazz attack.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What's so bad about relationships making you feel more confident in yourself? While I don't think that a person's entire self-confindence should be based solely on whether or not they have a girlfriend/boyfriend, but if you're in a good relationship with a person that makes you feel happy and confident with who are, where you may not have before, it's a good thing. Espescially if it helps that newfound confidence stick, even after the relationship ends!

by Anonymous 12 years ago