+312 It's annoying when people think they are not cheating because it was "just a kiss" or they were "just hanging out". If you look and feel differently about that person than any other normal friend and treat them as more than one; than it is cheating. amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

then* The way I look at it, if you know your bf or gf wouldn't like it/you have to keep it a secrete, it's cheating. Even if it's just going out to dinner, if they wouldn't like it, you should respect that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

*secret. and exactly, anon.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

@1300242 (LaLaLaLucy): But only to a degree, there is a point where your bf/gf could just be completely off his/her rocker and be completely irrational. For example: "OMG YOU PASSED SOMEONE OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER IN THE HALL. YOU MUST BE CHEATING ON ME!!! I DON"T CARE THAT YOU DON'T KNOW HIM/HER, BUT I KNOW YOU'RE CHEATING ON ME WITH HIM/HER!!!!" Even just hanging out, can two people of opposite gender not be friends if one of them is in a relationship?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

As it clearly states in my post, if they treat that person as more than "just a friend" and they do nothing to stop themselves from doing these actions, then it should be considered cheating.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

They can but if it upsets them you should respect that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm sorry, have you been hurt by someone?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

LOL nah but I've seen it happen

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"just hanging out" is cheating?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

: Fine line. But if you're keeping it a secret, then I'm inclined to say yes. If he tells me he's hanging out with a friend who's a girl, fine whatever. But if he keeps it a secret, it makes me think he's hiding something

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't think just hanging out with someone other than your boyfriend or girlfriend constitutes cheating, nor does treating someone as more special than other people. I think actual cheating begins when you willingly act physically or emotionally romantic with someone else. Other things, like hanging out alone for excessive amounts of time or being excessively demonstrative with someone other than your boyfriend or girlfriend, may be deemed innappropriate by your bf/gf, and may make them uncomfortable (so you should probably cut it out), but it is not cheating.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

How would you feel if your bf went "hanging out" with the biggest slut in school and didn't ask you?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I believe I answered that question in the second part of my post. Unless he is flirting excessively with her and/or doing sexual things with her, it is NOT cheating. That kind of thing often makes the other person feel uncomfortable and deems it innappropriate, and asks their boyfriend/girlfriend to stop. It can be grounds for a break up, but it is not the same as cheating and it's stupid to classify it as such.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Ohk. It's cheating if she classifies it as cheating. Yeah? Yeah.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's cheating if the person is physically, sexually, or emotionally romantic with someone other than their significant other. Outside that it may be inappropriate, but it is not cheating.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It is cheating if they say it is cheating. K? K.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

@1300754 (heysoulsister): How about it's cheating if you know they wouldn't like it and/or you keep it a secrete.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Your+name+(optional)): It's still not cheating. It IS, however, inappropriate and can be grounds for a breakup. Cheating is the specific act of making a move or attempting to make a move in some romantic way with someone else.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And what does a girl being a 'slut' have to do with whether or not hanging out with them is cheating? Nothing.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The thing is, no one knows exactly where cheating "starts" but from what I see, it doesn't matter. Cheating is cheating. The actions are not innocent and the person knows that, and choose not to do anything about it. And what if the bf/gf don't even know about it? It doesn't make it any more "appropriate".

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If the bf/gf would see it as inappropriate. It's pretty standard what those boundaries are and when one begins to cross them. And if not, they should know their significant other well enough to understand what those boundaries are.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This tottaly contradicts your other comment

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Above anonymous): totally* No, it doesn't. Reading comprehension, my dear.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What? This is ridiculous. If you "feel differently about that person" it's considered cheating? Because we often have so much power over our attraction to people. No, cheating is determined by whether you act on these feelings, not if they exist.

by Anonymous 12 years ago