+130 It's irksome when your overweight friend suddenly starts dieting, and feels the need to tell you whenever they lose two pounds, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'd be glad for them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's great to see someone becoming healthier. Bragging just makes one look like an ass, though.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't think it's bragging at all, more like excitement and them sharing that with their close ones. Like when I learn to do a trick or something well I immediately share it with my family and friends, so that they are as happy as I am, and proud of me.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's different. Sharing the results of having an apple with your lunch instead of French fries for 3 days isn't as worthy of excitement as the effects of 2 weeks of diet and exercise.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well that's again completely different from the post.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

One month of progress =/= two pounds lost.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Two pounds lost =/= having an apple instead of fries x3. Two pounds lost is weight loss which is an achievement which earns excitement, that's all I'm saying.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Weight fluctuates. Those two pounds will more than likely come back if one's guard is let down. It's comparable to grandly celebrating admission into a not-so-prestigious university; you've started your final education, that's great, but you could still screw up, come back in a month when everything is more stable,etc.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's an awful example. Everyone celebrates being accepted into a university.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Community college, even? That's just kind of expected of most people.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Community colleges aren't universities.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Okay, excuse me then, *community college.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well, people don't celebrate being accepted into community colleges any more than they do into public schools, so... I´m not sure where you´re going with this.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's my point. Justifying your complaints about your weight and *beginning* to diet should be just as celebrated as getting into college - not much at all. You could just drop out eventually in both situations. Someone who wants a slimmer body could make progress and warrant lots of praise. Someone who wants to pursue a vocational path that requires college-level education could make progress as well. These are *necessary* things that should be considered, and, if the perceived results are worth it, pursued. TL;DR, if you want something, you should work for it, and not expect endless praise for attempting to do so.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No, I disagree completely. Starting should be praised, and continuing should be as well. The support makes it much easier to continue and to end. Why do people cheer all the way along a race? At the beginning, at the middle, at the end? They all stand there with signs "You can do it!" from the very start to the "Almost there!" near the end. It really helps the person and makes them happy. Knowing there's a person you'd let down other than yourself gives you an extra push to do something.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"You can do it" is not a statement of praise, but one of reassurance. Pushing someone to achieve their goals is not the same as complimenting their desires.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's support.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Support, but not a form of direct praise.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I didn't say it was praise. Though praise is helpful too, since they're doing something good and it SHOULD be praised for them to want to continue. I don't even see what you're arguing. You just seem not happy for anyone but yourself and too selfish to support someone doing something healthy for themselves. That is all I'm seeing.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

So then are we on the same page? Getting support from friends = good, whoring out your efforts for compliments = bad.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No. "Im eating fruits instead of burgers!" "Yay that's great!" = okay. "Look I'm like 5 times as thin as you are!" "Yay that's great!" = what you're seeing. Be happy for your fucking friends.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not what I'm saying. The examples I'm using are all hypothetical; I don't want to share quotes from my circle of friends & acquaintances regardless of the anonymity the internet gives them. The rudeness of telling people what you're eating and what you aren't depends on the context in which it is said. Saying such in a conversation that calls for it is fine, but interrupting someone's day [eg stopping them in the hallway] to tell them about your meager progress is *rude*. And let me remind you that this post is saying that people who constantly remind you they dropped one ounce of weight are annoying, but not necessarily rude, per se.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You're going way off the post here. "I lost 2 pounds!" is far from "HEY STOP WHERE YOU ARE! I dropped 28 grams of weight omygod! Praise me. Do it NOWWWWWW."

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I admit I could have worded it better. That's kinda what I meant.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with the post, I disagree with whoring for compliments. End of argument.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'd rather hear about them losing weight and trying to be healthy than hear them complain about how fat they are and not do anything about it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Right, but getting an inflated ego because you can control your appetite for a few days at least isn't very good. It makes the person come off as haughty.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I guess I can't really fight that you'd think them to be haughty since that's your own personal take on it, but I disagree with the post. What would happen if we were just mean to them when they did lose two pounds? They probably wouldn't feel supported and give up on losing weight and we'd have more obesity problems. It can also take a lot for someone to lose two pounds, it may take them a couple weeks or so because of a disease they have or a medication they take. And I am the Anonymous, I accidentally hit a button when I went to post.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Who said anything about being mean to them? This post is referring to the people who think they're so great because they can hold down a diet for ~3 days and airily brag about how they lost weight. If anything, *they're* being rude. Giving a friend support and reassuring them that they can drop their weight is great, though.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You're right about the being mean to them, I just assumed. I don't find it annoying if people were to tell me everytime they lost weitht, unless, the yo-yoed a lot. If they were constantly starting and stopping I would find that annoying.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I've never been in that situtation but, like others have said, I feel like I'd be more happy for them than irritated. Even if it's just two pounds, you know? More power to 'em if they're actually working towards becoming healthier.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Only if they're actually overweight.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If it was every two pounds that they told me then yeah, I'd get annoyed.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'd support them and not be a bitch about it. I can't lose weight for the life of me, so I'm happy to see someone else succeed. I love my friends and would never find their accomplishments annoying... unless they were BRAGGING of course.

by Anonymous 12 years ago