+464 One of your worst fears is having a child that has a serious disability, like autism or being blind, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But I would still love them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I wouldnt

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Why not?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

they'd just be a burden. On myself and society. I wouldn't want to deal with their nonsense. it would annoy me. sounds harsh, but its just the truth.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You wouldn't love them because they were a burden? I honestly don't think you could handle a child until they were aroundfive years old in that case.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Bitch

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Its unreasonable to suggest that all children should be loved? No, i think YOURE the bitch.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

yeah i hate kids. i don't plan on having kids. I really value people i can talk to without censoring myself.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh, thank goodness for that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Ah, gotcha. I might, might not. Depends if I'm married and bored enough.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I have a sister and she has autism. I love her to death. Of course I wish she was a healthy child but I've learned to accept it. I feel like there's a possibility you would change your mind if you actually went through the experience.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree. Lol i want to say something more significant but i can't think of anything XP

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It SO depends on the disorder or disability. Some disorders/disabilities are treated fairly easy and may not be a burdensome.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think I'd still love them, though, but knowing myself, I'm not sure I'd have the patience.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yes, I totaly agree. You would still love them, but in the back of your mind, you would say, "I wonder what life would be like if my child could see, or had more friends. Maybe he or she would be happier." But I guess it would teach you patience and unconditional love.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Hahah, I know this isn't what you meant, but it sounds like you're saying not having a lot of friends is a disability.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

many autistic kids have more joy and pure happiness then those that don't. yeah life will be more difficult and their opportunities will be lowered significantly, but they will still have a life that you can make amazing for them

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Being autistic isn't the only thing than can be wrong with someone, idk why everyone brings that up.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

because it's probably the most common. But what I said applies to kids with down syndrome as well among others.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I would hate for them to have to go through all the things that we so called "normal" people take for granted. But if anything I would love them more.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Or if they were jewish..that'd be terrible

by Anonymous 12 years ago

to those who think this was antisemitic, it was a joke cause you "can't" be jewish if your parents aren't jewish...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

One minor reason I'm almost 98% sure I'm not going to have kids.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm 75% certain that by the time out generation is old enough to have kids, we can just pick and choose which sperm and egg cell to use, and this will allow us to even pick how our children will turn out and prevent birth defects.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Already doing this.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The one thing I don't get is that for the egg cell, wouldn't you have to wait a few months until you get the right one? or are they working on extracting it or whatever?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

They already have ovary banks, so it's definitely possible. But it's a surgical process, so nowhere near as easy as pleasuring yourself into a cup.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Aw nuts. That sucks. Why have i not heard of this before? Does anybody have a link to where i can learn more?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

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by Anonymous 12 years ago

Thanks! :D

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This might sound horrible but I have epilepsy and I feel like if I have a child, there's a possibility that they might get it. Because of this, I don't want a child. Mainly because I wouldn't want them to deal with it and I also wouldn't have the ability to deal with it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Adoption?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It isn't horrible, it's completely understandable.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

my 8 year old sister is deaf and she means the world to me <3 I wouldnt trade her .

by Anonymous 12 years ago

When you grow up with a disabled sibling you kind of get past that whole thing. Honestly, it's really not as big a deal as people tend to think it is. Everyone acts like if they have a disabled child, their life is going to be RUINED and they're going to be such a burden to society and oh boo hoo poor me poor me. God, shut up. The only way that's going to happen is if you LET it happen. Sure, maybe you have to fight a little extra hard for your kid. But guess what? That's fucking life.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I actually disagree. There are //many// different kinds of disorders, and some people are not mentally able to deal with raising a disabled child, and depending on the disability many will not have to "fight a little extra hard" but //a// //lot// extra. There are disorders with varying degrees of severity. Having a disabled child //often// ruins marriages, and it can also be financially ruining. Some parents cannot handle it and send the child to a special institution. Some people think it would be too much and opt to have abortions before the child is born. It can be life-ruining, or at least your life may never be the same again. That doesn't mean you can't love the child, though. I would recommend reading "The Boy Who Loved Windows." It's about a family's struggle to raise a boy with autism. It's a true story written by the mother who experienced it all. Also, imagine raising a child with Tay-Sachs or something only to have them pass away from it. That must be devastating.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

One of my exes had a speech delay till he was five, so when he was little he would just run around and act out constantly since he was so frustrated that he couldn't communicate. I know that's not as serious as blindness or autism, but that would be terrifying for me to have in a child.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Abortion. :D

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Dude I'm pro-choice, but shut the fuck up. Kids aren't Halloween candy that you can throw out if you don't like.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I wouldn't be able to handle it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not necessarily with blindness. More like mental retardation.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

See, I've been around a lot of people with disabilities. My elementary school had a lot of blind kids in the regular classes, a good friend of my mom's teaches deaf kids, my uncle is in a wheelchair (not sure if that's the kind of thing you meant, but I'm counting it) my friends sister has downs and we have "Best Buddies" in my school which is where once a week you eat lunch with the special ed kids. Most of the time they can live fairly normal lives and seem fairly happy. There was a blind teacher at my elementry school and she taught my class some about it, and it isn't as bad as you would think. I'm not wishing I'll have a kid with a disability, but I'm not worried about it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Or even worse, they could have red hair.

by Anonymous 12 years ago