If you found out your girlfriend or boyfriend had AIDS (before you had any form of sexual intercourse with them), you would probably break up with them, amirite?

I know this is horrible, and I've thought about it a lot, but probably yes. Unless I cared about them so much that I was willing to have a sexless relationship. I feel like an arsehole for voting YYA, but I've had a lot of short meaningless relationships, so this wouldn't be much different, plus sex is kind of something I'd want with a partner, and I know too many people with HIV, I had two of them die in 2010, to risk having protected sex with a positive person.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not to mention having to fall deeply in love with a person and then have to watch them suffer or die. Sure, it sounds selfish, but it would be almost be best to break up with them before becoming too close to them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I love how u say "probably" i would dump them so fast.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

By "found out" do you mean you found out on your own or they told you? Because if I found out my partner was hiding the fact that they had AIDs I would totally dump them. On the other hand, if they told me they had AIDs, I wouldn't dump them just for that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well I don't imagine anyone meeting another person and just coming out with "oh yeah, I've got AIDs." I suppose for the sake of argument, we'll say that you started dating them and there was a moment when your partner "needed to sit down and have a talk" and that's when you find out.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Although my stance on the subject stands, I may find this to be hypocritical based on the fact of whether you are or are not a virgin.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not a virgin.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I would dump them so fast even if that happened. They wasted my time. I could have dated other people in that time. The one I would have married may have gotten taken during that time, and I would never know. No, I don't think sex is everything, but if yo're going to commit your entire life to one person, I think you should be able to get from that person the only thing you can't get from somewhere/someone else, or yourself without being seen as gross or an asshole.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No, I wouldn't, and it's sad that people would. That's the same thing as breaking up with someone just because they don't want to have sex. A relationship without sex would be fine. I would never leave my boy/girl just because they have a fucking DISEASE that will eventually KILL THEM.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You say that, but there is so much baggage that comes with a disease that is incurable. You might not be able to have kids, and they would eventually die. If you can honestly handle that, that's awesome, but I doubt that I could.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

True... But you should at least stay with them until they died. How would you feel if someone left you when you were suffering the most?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well, I'm assuming that you found out that this person had AIDS before the relationship got too serious. If I was just finding out when they were close to death, that would be a pretty messed up thing to not mention in the first place.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A relationship without sex would be fine maybe for //you//. But why should one person in a relationship never have sex just because the other doesn't want it? Of course nobody should be forced to do anything they don't want but in the case one person wants sex and their partner can't or doesn't want it, it only makes sense to split up.

by Anonymous 8 years ago

No, I'm asexual sooo.... sex is one of the most unimportant things in a relationship to me. I know some people don't feel that way, but it still seems harsh when someone has a fatal disease with so much stigma to add "everyone breaks up with you" to that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This post is good because it raised so many moral issues for me. Do you break up with them because of the disease? I'd feel bad about that. What about the sex? Do you want to commit yourself to someone who can't have sex ever or will die soon? Should that even be a factor in love? So many questions.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Condoms. They exist for a reason.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's what I was thinking. Wouldn't condoms work?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Condoms sometimes break.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

DOUBLE CONDOM :D

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I may be wrong, but I think the extra friction increases the chance of it breaking.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well damn.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm assuming this was a joke, but just in case, please dear God don't ever do that. It way ups the chance of them breaking or slipping.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Kind of halfway. Because i have always been curious about it lol

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This is one of those that really depends on the situation. How long did they wait? Are we in love? Did they tell me or did I find out they had been covering it up?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I kind of get the feeling from this that you've never been in love.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm guessing you're taking this post way out of context. Obviously, how long you're with the person can impact your decision but over clarifying and being too specific can ruin posts.

by Anonymous 12 years ago