+230 Having internet crushes proves that our generation can look beyond physical appearances and actually fall for a person's personality, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You can't look beyond something that isn't even there. People don't look past physical appearances online, they just don't think of them because they can't see them. I guarantee you that at least 85% of these relationships would not work if they had met in real life because looks would make too much of an impression for the relationship to go smoothly.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't know about that. I had fallen for a friend of mine online, and had those feelings for two years before we ever met. Nothing changed once we did, and it turned into a four year relationship and engagement.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That was bad wording on my part. I meant if they had first met in person.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh! Well I apologize for my six paragraph non sequitur rant then. :)

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I have more internet crushes than anyone on the planet... but I must say I do like to see a beautiful face match the personality.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah, but I always imagine them as being attractive.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Hope has been slightly restored. Any girl in the right mind won't date me for my looks. *posts as anonymous to avoid accusations about attention whoring*

by Anonymous 11 years ago

nah im sure youre not that bad

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Or at least the personality they portray. They could be a completely different person offline.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

The only thing that takes me a while to get past when it comes to physical appearance is toe thumbs. Shallow? Yes. Deal-Breaker? No. Just something about them....throws me off so much. BUT personality fixes that.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Hng, stop with the online crush homepage posts, it's making me feel bad I have one.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Why?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I feel like a terrible person after reading posts like this because a very large part of my crush decision-making is based off of that person's attractiveness, popularity, way they dress, etc. Maybe it's because I've never met someone with a personality so great that it overpowers their looks, but I usually can't look past appearance. This may also be because I'm gay, and every guy that I talk to is more than likely straight, so I just focus on looks because I know I have no possibility of dating them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You shouldn't feel like that you're an animal, after all, and its your instinct. You want to find a mate that is attractive, healthy, and strong, because you want your kids to be strong offspring.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Lol he couldn't have kids in his predicament.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

This really makes me wonder. Do gay people have the instinct to find attractive mates for healthy offspring?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

The reason men like breasts is for that very instinct so I wouldn't believe so. Plus the fact that they know that they're not gonna have a biological child.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, they do. If their reproductive evolutionary instincts weren't still there, they wouldn't be having sex.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Doesn't necessarily have to be that one specific reproductive instinct

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Why would some randomly shut off?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

well humans arent all the same. he may not have the instinct to reproduce, nothing wrong with it. were not all programmed the same. some people have a fight instinct, some people have the flight instinct.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

All I'm saying is, if you want to fuck something, that's reproduction instincts. Even if you can't actually reproduce. I don't feel like getting into an evolutionary psychology debate if you don't mind. <3

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You shouldn't feel like that you're an animal, after all, and its your instinct. You want to find a mate that is attractive, healthy, and strong, because you want your kids to be strong offspring.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Surprised that popularity still is a factor. I thought that died with the 80's haha

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I meant that more as social group.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Personality? The Internet is all about visual; every person on the Internet I've liked the look or sound of, this has only ever been after I thought they were hot. Sorry to disappoint.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It probably varies from person to person, but I still think this is a valid point. Even if you do end up liking the way they look, you still starting crushing on them before you knew - it obviously wasn't a deciding factor, unlike in real life, where it is pretty much THE only thing that counts (come on; how many people do you know saying they have a crush on someone they have spoken to all of once, if that?). But like I said, the importance of appearance varies from person to person.

by Anonymous 11 years ago