+253 It's annoying when people define being lesbian as "not liking penis", or being bisexual as "I don't care wuts in their pants lolz". Unless you actually fall in love with a person based strictly on whether or not you like their genitalia, in which case I'd feel bad for you. That's not what determines a persons sexuality, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've been thinking that I only consider myself "straight" because so far, I've only been attracted to guys. But there's always the possibility that I could end up liking a girl. You can't help who you are attracted to. If I happen to fall for a girl one day, so be it. Recently I've been considering just labeling myself as pansexual since I have the potential to be attracted to or fall in love with pretty much anyone. It's out of my control.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Actually yeah it does. It doesn't determine their romantic attraction, but it does determine their sexual attractions, which is what sexuality is.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, but something as vague as "not liking penis" doesn't determine exact sexual attraction. If anything, it only rules out heterosexuality if you're a girl or homosexuality if you're a guy. Someone who doesn't like penis could be asexual or objectosexual or treesexual or anything-which-does-not-include-penis-sexual. In my opinion, that's so vague that it barely determines anything.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So, one who is turned on by penis, likes boys. Someone who is not turned on by penis, will never fall in love with a boy? It doesn't make sense. I have been turned on by both males and females; both genders can be good looking, can be sexually attractive.... but I have never fallen in love with a girl. I am not straight because of what does or doesn't turn me on but because of the gender of who I develop feelings for.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So you're heteroromantic, not heterosexual. Straight, in this connotation, means heterosexual. Ergo, you're not straight.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Nonono. This is where I think people are mistaken. Just because one girl can say another girl is good looking does not mean she is not straight. e.g. Jessica Alba is sexy, but that doesn't mean I think anything beyond that. If I ever met her I probably wouldn't be interested in her, because I have only ever had feelings for guys. Therefore I am straight.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Do you find them good looking or sexually attractive? You've said both.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm not into girls..... I can say a girl is pretty or good looking while being straight. Not in a way where I want them but just in that they are visually appealing. I feel like I am just repeating myself now.. do I have to think all girls are ugly to be straight?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You just said that you think Jessica Alba is sexy. You don't have to find them ugly, but if you think they're sexually appealing, you're not straight.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Ok, then I have one more question for you. If a straight girl or straight guy watches and gets turned on by porn, does that make them gay? No it doesn't.... by what you are saying, nobody would be straight.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

By definition, lesbians like girls, and girls don't have penises. And by definition, bi people like both boys and girls, and like penis and vagina. It's not the fact that you like their genitals, but the fact that they posses the genitals of the sex you're attracted to. And if by sexuality, you mean gay straight bi etc, then the gender they like (and remember, gender is determined by what genitals they have) has to posses the genitals of that gender.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My point is, you could be lesbian and still be turned on by penis. You could have sex with a guy and it could still feel good (not to be weird; just trying to make my point). But in the end a lesbian would not fall in love with a guy, she'd fall in love with a girl. So saying lesbians "don't like dick" isn't necessarily always true and isn't a good way to put it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't think she'd be turned on by the actual penis its self, but she could be turned on by a guy and the penis would obviously feel good because it's sexually stimulating, that is if she was OK with having sex without emotion. But when people say lesbians don't like dick, they're not talking about the sex organ, they're talking about the gender in possession of it. At least in my experience they are. As for bi people, they really don't care which one is in their pants for them to like someone.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah you are right. I am just referring to the people who mean it literally when they say it. People who think that what makes a girl a lesbian is the fact that she "does not like dick". But yes I totally agree with what you are saying

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well, those people are wrong.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Gender isn't determined by genitals, sex is. Gender is the psychological/societal grouping of a person into categories based upon femininity and masculinity.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are two different things. You can want to have sex with someone, but not want a relationship with them - and you can want a relationship with someone, but not want sex with them. People tend to lump the two together. You're right, though. Transsexual men and women often have partners who are attracted to them for their gender, not their genitalia. People can have exceptions. A lesbian could be in a happy relationship with a gay man, theoretically (remember the difference between sexual and romantic attraction). Gender's a bit more complicated than just what's in your pants.

by Anonymous 11 years ago