+128 Its ridiculous that some people think is wrong to spank your children...There's nothing wrong with giving them a little smack on the butt with your hand to teach them right from wrong, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Amen

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Or with a belt. I wish I was disciplined more as a child. I'm the youngest so my parents went soft on me.. And I was a big brat.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Me and my sister never got that, but we both got a nice slap at one point.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Spanking isn't bad, but if you are actually hurting your child then you're going too far. There are also other ways of disciplining children that are just as effective, but don't involve physically or emotionally happening your child.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Very true. When I got spanked as a child, it rarely ever even hurt. It was more the fact that my parents were mad at me that was the punishment. The spanking was just a reinforcement.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

S & M with children. Sounds like fun.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Shut up Kasanova.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well that was a creepy way to look at it. wary

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, because the majority of parents spank their kids to get off sexually.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I remember my dad would put me on his lap and ask "DO YOU WANT ME TO SPANK YOU" and i'd beg him not too, sobbing my eyes out and then he'd spank me with his hand several times or with a belt. The worse thing you could do was try to hide, because that would make it 10x worse. Yes, I realize how perverted that sounds. But it got the point across and I rarely ever did anything bad as a kid after that.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

teaching a child that controlling those less powerful than them with violence is fine...seems legit.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No it's not okay. The only thing it's teaching them is that it's okay to resolve a situation with violence, and that because you're bigger than somebody, it makes it okay to hit them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Interesting that everyone I know, including myself, who was spanked as a child is nonviolent.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well good for you, that still doesn't make it okay to hit a child

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Being spanked as a child increases your chances of becoming a violent adult. It makes sense, how could being hit as child not make you more violent than a child who grew up with parents who told them violence is never okay?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You make it out to be like hitting a child makes the parent not a good parent. Although I was spanked, my parents still loved me. They showed me affection after I learned my lesson and made me repeat why I was in trouble so I understood that I wasn't getting hit for no reason. There is a difference between discipline and abuse.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I was being relative. A kid who grows up in a violent household will be more violent than one who does not. There are varying degrees of severity, so one smack every once in a while isn't going to do anything, but regular abuse, be it a good intention or not, will have effects. And these effects will cause more violence in comparison to the ones where their parents never hit them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Http://health.yahoo.net/news/s/nm/spanking-kids-can-cause-long-term-harm-canada-study

by Anonymous 11 years ago

There is nothing good or ok about spanking. Violence is not an acceptable teaching method. Also, it's hypocritical to tell kids that they can't hit while hitting them. The lesson that people in authority who supposedly love you hit and abuse you isn't right either. Also, if you would get charged with assault for hitting a full grown adult...how dare you think it's ok to put your hands on a child. You shouldn't be a parent if you are too lazy or uneducated to find other methods of interacting with and disciplining your child. There's also the fact children aren't property. They are individuals you don't own them. You're responsible for their well being and physical violence is failing that test. How are you protecting them from harm when you're the one laying hands on them? I hate and abhor all physical violence. No one should be putting hands on anyone in a violent or hurtful manner. That goes, doubly for vulnerable groups like children, elderly, and animals.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

haha you are ridiculous...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Incorrect actually. Quite delusional

by Anonymous 11 years ago

There's a freaking difference between beating your children to back hateful and spanking them to teach them to be good and listen.. Most parents don't like to spank their children it breaks the parents heart to do it but it has to be done or otherwise they would run wild and think they don't have to listen..

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If it breaks their heart to do so then they can punish them some other way. That has to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Do you think a parent LIKES to hit their kid? 'Cause they don't. Unless of course they were abusive which there is a big fine line between discipline and abuse.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

if they did not like it, they would not do it. Dr. Phil says you do what works. Meaning whatever you choose has some benefit for you. Choosing violence as an easy way to control kids mean the parents can be lazy and do less work. As far as the anon who said I am delusional, i would really like to know what part of what I said is delusional? Being against the abuse of those who are unable to defend themselves is not a bad thing last time i checked.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Dr.Phil...? Really? You're going to use him to back yourself up? Lol. I don't mean to hit nerves or anything but it's not abuse. My mother has 5 kids, all been spanked, timed-out, etc and they turned out fine. I don't see how it makes them out to be lazy, if they wanted to be lazy they could just send them to time-out or tell them to just stop. Everyone has different ways of disciplining their kids. It's not abuse unless you are actually leaving bruises on them or they're bleeding or doing it to an excess. A good smack every now isn't going to make them grow up to be abusive pricks.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well of course, that involves in any techinque you use to make sure your child does the right thing. The benefit is having your kid learn their lesson so they won't make the same mistake again which helps prevent future frustration for the adult.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's like doing the dishes, or any other chore. It has a benefit to you, but that doesn't mean you enjoy it. And it's ridiculous to say "if you don't like it, just stop doing it."

by Anonymous 11 years ago

How is that rediculous? Really, enlighten me.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

For the same reason I said earlier: having a benefit to you doesn't mean you enjoy it. For example, I absolutely hated taking the SAT, but I'm 10 points away from a huge scholarship. I'm going to suck it up and take it again, even though I hate doing it. You can even compare to other forms of punishment. I'm sure no parent likes to ground their child or take away their phone or whatever, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't do it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I read somewhere that rewarding someone for good actions is about 20 times more effective than scolding them for bad actions.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But really I think it depends on the way the children react to the type of punishment you give them and I don't think anyone should tell you how to raise your children as long as you aren't causing harm to them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Even mild spanking can lead to mental illness as child grows up. So, yeah I'm never spanking my kids. I'm more worried about their future than expressing that I am more powerful so they need to listen to me.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Mental illness. Seriously? What type?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

http://abcnews.go.com/m/story?id=16695697

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That study seemed to he about harsh physical punishment, which isn't the topic at hand. As for mild spanking, I received that as a child, so did my siblings, and we do not have any of those listed effects.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I was never spankes as a child. I was slapped in the face. Always kept me on the straight path.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't think I'm going have a strong opinion on this until I actually have kids. It's so hard to figure out what's right in theory and what's right for your situation.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I completely agree with this post but I think it's important to talk to your kids after they've been spanked about what they did and why it's wrong.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So I feel a little bad because I didn't read any of the other comments so I don't know if this point was brought up /: Anyway, I've only been spanked 3 times in my life & I've never remembered *why* I was spanked, just that I was spanked. period. I think a good way to discipline your child is to talk to them & tell them why they're wrong & explain what they should've done. Yes, I know this is hard, but if you start early it gets easier in the long run, I think. (I have a lot of experience with kids) Plus, I feel like if an adult spanks a child, the adult is acting a little childish themselves because they can't even use words, they're just hitting. So those are my two cents

by Anonymous 11 years ago

In my case, I knew I was being bad so words weren't needed.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

It's wrong. My dad hit me with a belt once and it hurt like hell. You should love your kids, not hit them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

The problem I think with hitting your kids when they do something wrong is that it never gives a real-world equivalent of why that doesn't work when the kid gets older. Like, my boyfriend got busted sneaking off to my house and his mom and aunt beat the living shit out of him (and I mean that really because they made it a point to hit him with wet rags and bamboo because it wouldn't leave marks) and the only thing it's done is foster animosity with them. They did not teach him any lesson beyond "do what we say or you get hurt" and that's not helpful because he'll be 18 next year and doing that only makes him want to do it more so next year he'll be going wherever he wants and they can't say anything about it. It would've made a better impression on him if they put him on restriction but all this has done is make him lose all respect for the adults in his family. Tldr; hitting your kids doesn't teach them that doing something is wrong it teaches them that if you find out they get pain and when they get older they'll just go off and do whatever it is with no more realistic threat of violence from their parent/s. It's much more effective to treat them as the at least semi-intelligent people they are and teach them rather than try to train them to obey you knowing that their "trainer" sooner or later won't be able to tell them what to do.

by Anonymous 10 years ago