I wish I could YYA this more than once.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You could make like 50 accounts, but that would be cheating and cheating is wrong.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I upvoted your comment so it's kind of like YYAing more than once. I think.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

A 14 year old girl from my school recently had a baby. Everyone was congratulating her, and I got in a huge flame war on Facebook with a bunch of her friends. One of them even messaged me saying that it was perfectly okay for a teen to have a baby.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Why would you get in a fight over that?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Of course it's "okay", whatever that means.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think he meant (or thought) they were encouraging it. A teen having a baby is "okay" but it shouldn't be encouraged.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

but they WERE encouraging it. they even SAID it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I **highly** doubt they were trying to convince you all teenagers should have babies.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Once you're pregnant, it's okay to be excited about it. But it's usually not a good thing to be a teen mom.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I agree with you. I think it's a huge mistake to have a child at that age. Most 14 year olds (there are many exceptions) aren't mature enough to be having sex at all, let alone having a baby. Not knowing enough to use birth control properly and prevent a pregnancy is also a clear sign that you aren't ready for sex or parenthood. I'm not saying we should hate on young mothers; making them feel bad about themselves won't help anybody. It's just that we shouldn't pretend that giving birth your first year of high school won't hurt you.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Exactly. There are exceptions, of course. You could be a married 19 year old who decided to be a stay at home mom and your husband could have a stable job. But 95% of the time it would be better for you and the baby to just wait.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I may or may not get off topic here. I feel like this is a situation that every person would handle differently. It's one of those things where you might not be sure what's going to happen until it's already happening. I think the hardest part is knowing that you need to make a choice-- keep the baby, abort it, or give it up for adoption. It's a huge thing to decide, especially at such a young age, and there are a bunch of people looking down on you for your age and trying to tell you what to do. Every choice you make and every emotion you feel is under scrutiny, and no matter what you do, somebody's going to be unhappy with what you did and what you choose to do. Personally, I think a teenager has every right to be happy about bringing a child into the world. Even if it was unplanned and even if you're too young, it's hard not to feel happy just knowing that you're having a baby. I know it sounds selfish, and it's definitely something that most people don't want to do at that age, but somebody shouldn't have to feel bad for being happy about having a baby. When it comes down to it, having a baby is a very scary and exciting thing, and you can't help but feel somewhat sentimental.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Not only that, but it's such a personal decision. I don't think anyone has the right to look down at the mother and say what she should or shouldn't do. It's her and her baby's father's decision. No one else's.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think people worry that she's not taking the baby seriously. You can't just be like "Yay, babies are cute, I don't have to worry about this." But if you've taken everything into account, there's nothing wrong with being happy about it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I totally agree. I was meaning when the mom says something like "Can't wait to meet my baby" and people attack her about how she shouldn't be excited to be a mom.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If all pregnancies were planned, there'd be only about a hundred people in the world.

by Anonymous 4 years ago