+82 A girl should be allowed to sleep over at her boyfriend's house if they're both almost 17, have been dating for over a year, have promised not to have sex until after high school graduation, have consistently proven themselves to be trustworthy, and would sleep in separate rooms, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That would be a pretty bad idea on the parents' end.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

these kids will surely do it in my experience

by Anonymous 11 years ago

move out and live together

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I have no doubt these kids will still have sex. There is no way around it. But moving out and living together is not easy when you're only 17. Depending on the financial situation, many people are unable to move out until they're in their early twenties.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

unable? or unwilling ?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Unable. Especially at 17, but at 18 and 19, and maybe even 20, it doesn't get much easier. Try having a part time job that pays minimum wage and only gives you 15 hours a week while at the same time going to school and participating in activities and keeping your grades high to keep your scholarship. It's hard work. Unless you can find two or three roommates or live on campus, you won't be able to get out of the house. Having to live at home throughout college is nothing to be ashamed of. Those that are able to get out on their own (for real on their own, not with roommates) are able to because they already have a better job that helped push them ahead.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

you make your own choices in life

by Anonymous 11 years ago

How does that even relate? In this situation, there are choices people //want// to make but are just unable to make.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

can make them if they want to, they are just afraid to.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Afraid? Explain to me then how easy it is to move out in the conditions I described.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

All of that kind of defeats the purpose of a sleepover.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

i downvoted because the idea seems stupid then

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes cause we should believe every promise a teen makes about sex to their parents

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That's the exact type of attitude that I hate. Of course you shouldn't do that, but you also shouldn't make generalizations. If a couple has proven themselves trustworthy for over a year, you'd think the parents would at least give them some freedom without worrying over nothing

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I was a trustworthy 17 year old who had permission to stay the night at her girlfriend's house. We had been together a year and we told our parents we wouldn't ever have sex under their roof. Our parents had no reason not to trust us. Know what we did? Snuck around and had sex.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well then that makes you a liar and so therefore you cannot relate to this post

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Or she gave in to natural urges that almost every teenager has. Even if you don't intend to have sex, when the opportunity arises, it will be tempting.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I can relate to this post. My whole life I have consistently proven myself to be trustworthy. And I //promised// not to have sex. I just happened to break the promise.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Also, sorry about the ma'am thing. It may be a stereotype, but we can't always help our subconscious assumptions, //sir//.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It would take a hell of a lot to prove it though, but if so then it shouldn't cause parents to witch hunt their kids for having sex or doing anything.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Somebody has parent issues.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

When they're that age and have been together that long, I would have thought the parents would just have accepted that they're probably going to have sex.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Honestly, what's the point?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

"almost 17" bahahahahaha.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Those are a lot of variables to consider. I mean, what would even be the point of staying the night at her boyfriend's house? "Yay! We get to sit up late and talk but gotta sleep in different rooms at some point or another." The girl is better off just finding a way to sneak out to sleep with her boyfriend and waiting until she's 18 and has more freedom.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But what if the couple doesn't WANT to have sex yet? What if they genuinely just want to stay up watching movies and playing video games and talking? What if they're offended by the fact that sex would even cross their parents' minds when spending the night was brought up?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

YOU may not want sex, ma'am. I wouldn't be convinced that's a two-way street.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

1. I'm not a ma'am, I'm a guy. 2. You are a stereotyping asshole, like half the people on this post.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Being cautious of someone else's intentions isn't being an asshole. Maybe insulting them because they disagree with you is, though.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Sorry, it was just a joke. I know I have a mean sense of humor.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If you want to stay up late and watch movies and play video games, why can't you do that in the day, or just go home late? My boyfriend also happens to be my brother's best friend, so if my bro has a sleepover my boyfriend comes and then just drives himself home at like 1.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I agree that there is nothing wrong with this situation but I also think that since you're under 18 you have to listen to what your parents say. Teenagers shouldn't feel entitled to do whatever they want just because it makes sense, you need to learn to listen to and follow your parent's decision. So, if I was a parent in that situation I would probably allow it, however, I can understand that some parents wouldn't be okay with it in which case then no, it's not okay.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I know a teen couple who promised all of this...at night the girl would just sneak into the boy's room & they would have sex. Pretty sure the girl is pregnant now.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

As a girl, I wish we could have sleepovers with our guy friends, not boyfriends.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

haha why wouldn't they let you have sex?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm confused. Is this about you or your girlfriend? If its about you, why did you say girl?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't know if amirite is the best place to seek support for your personal issues with your parents.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Im 17 and my boyfriend is 18, we've been together almost 2 years and my parents still won't even let us down the other end of the house even while they're home OR lay on the couch in the family room together. We've brought up the fact that we have more common sense than to try anything with them home but apparently that's irrelevant. Chastity parents. Working even when they have no need to. -.-

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Sounds like a personal problem to me. You're 16, shut up and listen to your parents. It's not a big deal if you get to sleep over at your bf or gfs house, especially if you're not gonna sleep in their room.

by Anonymous 11 years ago