There is no good reason that my boyfriend has to hang out with his female friend alone without me. I mean there is no acceptable reason I can't come along if nothing is truly going on, amirite?

Paranoid Android. Do you have any reason to believe something might happen? In saying this, you are basically saying that your boyfriend is incapable of being faithful without you being around, is that it?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I understand having guy nights without me there. But he dhouldnt be needing to spend time with another girl (non family member) without me there alone. Its called respect for the relationship he is dating me not another girl. To make it clear I'm not talking about spending time alone with guy friends cuz guys need to discuss guy stuff but what would he need to discuss with another girl?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Don't you think you're over-reacting? And also don't you think that this type of thinking is a bit...old-fashioned? Why can't guys have the same relationships with girl friends than with guy friends? That's not very progressive! Is he flirting with this other girl? Does he have feelings for her? What is "guy stuff"? All these things sound totally meaningless. If you are both in a strong relationship, then who the hell cares what gender his friends are? Sometimes guys open up better to girls about things, and that's why they become friends. You really can't just assume that he's doing anything wrong just because he's hanging out with a girl. Don't you have guy friends?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I hang out with my guy friends who have girl friends without their girl friends all the time. The acceptable reason you're looking for is that his chick friends are no different than his guy friends. If he can chill with guys without you being there, he should be able to chill with girls with out you being there. There's not a big difference.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Personally I don't think it is old fashioned I think its logical and come on everyone knows that most guys unless they are gay or the girl is completely unattractive will wanna date her at one point. When you're in a serious relationship your partner should be your best friend of the opposite sex. I am a Christian and my boyfriend and I both agreed so that we don't give the wrong idea to people we won't hang out with people of the opposite sex alone.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That's fine for you, every relationship has its own ideals. But you shouldn't just assume that every guy will fall for every one of his girl friends. Strictly platonic friendships are a thing.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No offence, but you're just being totally ridiculous. If you dont' trust your boyfriend, then YOU'RE the one with the issue. On what basis do you assume that all guys think the same way or want the same things from girls? And why bring gays into it? I don't mind when my boyfriend hangs out with his single gay friends, because I trust him. You aren't acting like a best friend to anyone, you're just acting like a control freak. I hang out with a gay guy in Beijing who is totally hot, but I have absolutely no interest in him whatsoever. What makes you think the girl would have to be ugly to make it acceptable. You're running double standards, and being silly.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

", and being silly." Nice touch

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well I agree that she's over reacting, and that this whole thing is ridiculous, but in her comment somuchcooleronline said, "my boyfriend and I both agreed so that we don't give the wrong idea to people we won't hang out with people of the opposite sex alone." It seems that when they began dating, they made an agreement to not hang out with people of the opposite sex alone. Since this agreement doesn't appear to hurt anyone, and it was mutual consent, her boyfriend should feel obligated to follow through with it. If he couldn't hold up his end of the agreement, then he shouldn't have promised it in the first place. So, based on what she said, I think OP is correct to be upset- he violated their agreement (no matter how unreasonable it is). The next step they should take is probably to reevaluate this agreement on hanging out with opposite sex friends alone and discuss the trust issues in their relationship.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That's just it though just about every guy/girl friendship one ends up falling for the other.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So you're saying you've fallen for every guy you've ever been friends with? Or they've always fallen for you? You're being so absolutist right now it's incredible, and you haven't a shred of evidence to back it up.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Wait a sec in one response you said if it works for us then its fine and in another response I'm a control freak which one is it?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That was actually me. But anyway I've had plenty of boy-girl friendships where there's simply nothing there and there clearly won't be anything there and you seem to be getting your information from romantic comedies.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My girlfriend always makes friends with guys over girls, it's just how she is. She likes talking to guys better. Doesn't mean she's cheating on me.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Right on! I have a friend in Beijing who is the same. American girl, generally doesn't like hanging out with other girls

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Its not about having friends of the opposite sex that's fine its about not allowing your partner to be present why can't they all be friends?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It really depends how all this is happening. It's possible you're not articulating all the details well enough so no one is siding with you. But in my mind, there's still no reason why a guy shouldn't be allowed to spend time with another friend regardless of gender without a girlfriend being with them. It's good to have time apart, makes you appreciate each other more. If you're attached to him like a barnacle, then he's going to get sick and tired of you.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I stayed over my male friend's place this weekend. I wouldn't have wanted my boyfriend to be there because it was nice to spend time with my friend and catch up just us.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

True good point.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You wrote plenty, but I still don't have a clue as to why you think what you do.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

All I'm saying is if its truly innocent then what is there to ide from the girlfriend that alone time is needed for

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Are you hiding things from him when you spend time with your friends, regardless of their genders?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Why don't you think about times you wanted to be alone with a friend or someone else, what are YOUR reasons for doing it? His are probably similar

by Anonymous 11 years ago

People have different personalities. He may like hanging out with her because she's his friend for a reason. Sometimes you just want to be with that one friend, because friends are different from one another. It's like saying why hang out with just one of your friends when you should invite **all** of your friends. Maybe because you just want to be with that one friend.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You are the overly attached girl friend meme come to life...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

With an attitude such as yours, you better feel lucky he hasn't broken up with you first. No one, I mean NO ONE wants a controlling, high maintenance, untrusting, childish, clingy, melodramatic, bitchy, psyco-maniac type girlfriend. Which is exactly how you sound.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

preach

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I feel like you guys are taking this out of hand. If i had a girlfriend who was hanging out alone with another guy, yeah. I'd probably want to be there too.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

THANK YOU! and no an overly attached gf would not want her bf hanging out with anyone without her not just someone alone of the opposite sex. I think you are all blowing this wayyyyy out of proportion.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's probably because you're a dumb bitch. Seems like a good reason to me.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Mastur trole 2012

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well, I don't think that it's overly attached. It's perfectly fine to not feel comfortable with your boyfriend hanging out with other girls alone. I don't see how that's cverreacting.

by Anonymous 11 years ago