-4 You should always forgive but never forget, amirite?

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I think it can be good to hold grudges and not forgive, but still try to forget. I don't forgive my ex boyfriend that I dated for nearly 3 years who put me into a choke hold until I nearly passed out then pushed me out of his moving car and drug me down the road at 30 miles an hour giving me severe road rash, and I think it's healthy that I don't forgive that sort of inexcusable behavior. However, I do understand (now) the kind of person he was and what led him to do that, and I am able to move past it in daily life. I've forgotten about it until instances where I am reminded, like right now, but it's just a memory cue that happens as with any other story I am reminded of. I think it would be rather bad for my mental health to forgive him just because I understand him- for me, forgiving would be an act of submission like all of the other acts of submission I showed him, and by not forgiving this one but letting him go and forgetting him, I feel empowered for lack of a better term. http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970204840504578085792155134574.html

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I'm sad that you had to go through that. But I honestly admire how you've handled it.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Thank you smile

by Anonymous 10 years ago

It seems like you've had an unfortunate ride.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Yes, but oh well, he lost control of his anger and made a dick move, inexcusable, yeah, but it's in the past. There's a reply button under people's comment and above their user name, that way they'll be notified of your comments smile

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Oh yea, I forgot to press it :b

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Sometimes I'd rather forget though.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I know I have forgiven many people over these many years and I cannot remember who, why, or for whatever slight they perpetrated at the time. Time heals all wounds and time wounds all heels.

by Anonymous 10 years ago