My god wants me to use a flail to disciplined my children. https://data.amirite.net/user_images/51a6ae4760fe6.jpg

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Where did you get that asinine statement from, and who is your god?

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I agree, but I'd advise against spanking as a form of disciplining a child. There are better ways of teaching them right from wrong.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Studies show corporal punishment leads to lower grades, depression, emotional instability in adulthood, and anxiety. I grew up with a mother who would discipline me with smacks, a belt, or screaming depending on how severe my misdeed was. I'm 22 now,!and I've been in therapy for a year. My therapist helped me understand why I'm so cautious when meeting new people and help me quell a lot of irrational fears such as thinking that I will feel the same pain I felt as a child if I make a mistake as an adult. I know that it is irrational to think professors or friends or bill collectors will hit me if I make a mistake, but that feeling is always there with me, holding me back, because I don't want to own up to all the mistakes I've made. Instead I avoid people that are affected by my mistakes whether I pay a bill late and ignore the bill collectors when they call, if I offended a friend and can not get the courage to apologize, or if I miss a lecture and can't feel that I can ask my Professor for help to catch up in the class. Being able to own up to your mistakes is a huge part of life, and if you teach your children that the consequences to all their mistakes are physically harmful or verbally abusive, their instinct to survive will kick in, and instincts are almost impossible to suppress. Maybe I'm a unique case, but my mother thought she was doing me good, and only recently am I learning about all the mistakes she made raising me. Now I'm learning how to correct those mistakes and also learning how to forgive her for poorly preparing me for the world. I should also mention I graduated both middle school and high school at the top of my class, valedictorian twice, but I had to post pone my college degree because of an overwhelming depression that came with realizing being well behaved and having good grades doesn't get you everything in life. It's a lot more complicated than that, but if my post teaches you anything it's this: children are small and innocent even when they're guilty, so there is never a reason to hit one because hitting is used for self defense and I doubt a child will over power you. And if you think hitting them will help them understand their mistake, it will only make them fear it.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

So, based on your rationale, my generation and every single one before mine that used corporal punishment or received it were wrong and turned out warped. I would love to see you or anyone else prove that. The studies you sight and what you personally experienced was "abuse," not a swat on the butt for doing wrong or deliberately disobeying a parent. And that is a major fallacy in today's psychology - it assumes and lumps any physical action in to one and the same thing. A swat on the butt is not the same as beating a child - nor is it child abuse. I received regular spankings while growing up. The boundaries were laid out and made clear to me. I knew if I crossed them, I would get spanked. It was not for every little offense - only major things. I got swats from a paddle my senior year in a public high school in 1976. I had cut class (among other things) and got smacked several times on the butt cheeks (pants pulled up thank God) with a long inch thick paddle with holes in it. It hurt like hell. I am truly sorry for your personal experience, but we can not gauge or determine the entire world by or through our own bad experiences. But those of us who received proper and loving discipline, know it did us good, and gave us a framework of boundaries and guidelines that have served us well. Many children today are getting ZERO discipline and have no boundaries to operate within. I can't tell you how many times in public that I have seen children running the parents and telling them what to do instead of the other way around. I have seen children tell their parents "no," "shut up," swear at them, and even hit them with a closed fist. In my day, any or all of those would have warranted my life! We were taught to at least fear and respect adults (authority), and it was taken seriously. I think if we compared crime, drug abuse, and other major societal ills, the rates have steadily increased over the years. Something is causing that, and I believe it is a combination of things that have been stopped. Your generation will have to decide.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

As far as your last paragraph is concerned, the Hell are you talking about? Maybe the news reports it more often, but crime is definitely going down. Drug use has pretty much stayed the same, though that isn't necessarily a problem. But my point is that crime rates have been steadily dropping since the 60s. They're currently the lowest they've ever been. Frankly, it doesn't make sense for society to get worse as time goes on. If something changes, it's almost definitely for the better. You guys had it slightly more right than the generation before you, but you have it slightly more wrong than we do. Now we just have to wait for our children to have it slightly more right than us.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I dont think spanking a kid is a big deal as long as its only with your hand. Using a paddle or a belt shouldnt be allowed, that'd be child abuse.

by Anonymous 10 years ago