+30 //"Respect has to be earned."// Not really. When you meet someone for the first time, you should be respectful towards them out of common courtesy. It's also the humane thing to do. Amirite?

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I remember her saying something about it but I don't remember where it was (the link)

by Anonymous 10 years ago

The context in which respect is spoken of in the quotation is different from the respect we show out of courtsey. And if we somehow are meeting a rapist murderer a fraudster, etc are we supposed to show respect to them too??

by Anonymous 10 years ago

there are exceptions to every rule that doesn't mean the rule is wrong "out of sight, out of mind" versus "absence makes the heart grow fonder" plus the context varies from individual to individual the culture I come from says that you have to add bhai(brother) or boyn(sister) to an older siblings'/cousins' name (it shows respect) my cousin does not do this and says "respect has to be earned" so the context he used for the quotation is different from the context you described in short the context the quotation falls under depends on how the speaker uses it

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I think when you meet someone you should be polite (plus common courtesy as others have said). That's different from respecting them.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

When I first meet someone, I respect them as a human being because I respect almost everyone as a human being- If they do horrible things, I don't respect them as a person anymore. If they are extremely nice, or charitable, or smart, or trustworthy, etc. then they earn my respect for their character. So there's respecting someone because they're a human being, and respecting the qualities about a person. But you should always treat people with respect as a human even if they haven't earned it for their character yet. Also, thank you for putting me as your source :D this is the post you were referring to http://www.amirite.com/763733-people-with-the-ideology-respect-is-earned-not-given-but-dont-treat-people-they-dont

by Anonymous 10 years ago

for some reason I thought you were Sally Anne (muddyringlets) until I read the last part AND YES that's exactly the link I meant I thought it was a comment you made but my memory was somewhat off biggrin

by Anonymous 10 years ago

that's not what respect is. That courtesy is temporary and is a test. If it is not returned, respect is not earned and there will be no associated courtesy.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

courtesy is a synonym for respect and //can// be used interchangeably

by Anonymous 10 years ago

the information you gather from any thesaurus cannot determine the entirety of a language. love is a synonym to like, but they are not nearly the same thing

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I said //can//

by Anonymous 10 years ago

rarely

by Anonymous 10 years ago

a lot of times courtesy an respect are not just synonyms they go hand in hand

by Anonymous 10 years ago

they are closely related, but they have different social meaning and are used to explain situations and relationships differently. Courtesy is to respect as weather is to climate.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

exactly they're so similar there's so much overlap between them that you can use them interchangeably in many situations ask the average person if you can be courteous towards someone and not be respectful and you'll most likely hear a "no"

by Anonymous 10 years ago

do you really not realize the difference between weather and climate? If you can't make the distinction, please avoid debating people that can.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I can make a distinction the posts I made about synonyms show that but that does NOT mean that they can't be used interchangeably A basic English class will teach one that synonyms CAN (NOT ARE BUT CAN) be used interchangeably I never said weather and climate are the exact same thing nor did I say there is no distinction between them please don't put words in my mouth "please avoid debating people that can" sorry sir but you making quips won't stop me from defending my position nor do your attacks make your opinion any more "correct"

by Anonymous 10 years ago

your location and language may be different than mine, but where I live, this is a basic concept in my english class

by Anonymous 10 years ago

respect and courtesy going hand in hand is not really something taught in English class it deals more with etiquette and how to deal with people socially something that most don't take a class for but learned through life experiences

by Anonymous 10 years ago

what's taught is the fact that different words hold a different tone and particularity, and this can be easily seen in similar words called synonyms

by Anonymous 10 years ago

trust me I know the meaning of the word synonym I have multiple posts about about them http://www.amirite.com/756592-the-subtle-differences-between-two-synonyms-can-make-all-the-difference-amirite http://www.amirite.com/750658-two-words-can-be-synonymous-but-there-can-still-be-a-world-of-difference-between-them-depending-on http://www.amirite.com/750656-its-kinda-amazing-how-we-can-swap-one-word-with-another-synonymous-word-in-a-sentence-but-this but that doesn't make my post any less agreeable

by Anonymous 10 years ago

it seems as if you posted these just now simply to post links here.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

well those are posts are about me stating that there is a difference between two synonymous words you accused me of not making a distinction between two synonymous words so I showed proof that I do make a distinction how is that just posting links? it's not like I posted something random about dragons the posts are about synonymous words which is what I was trying to debate about before you went off of topic by stating I can't make a distinction

by Anonymous 10 years ago

and how can language be different here? we're both typing in English

by Anonymous 10 years ago

there are language barriers based on use of words and different style of education

by Anonymous 10 years ago

that's a given even if two people attend the same exact English class that's more of a communication barrier not a language barrier plus the majority back my post and agree with it it's obvious I'm not the only one who has this view towards respect about 30 agree only 5 disagree

by Anonymous 10 years ago