Is it better to be told comforting lies or unpleasant truths?

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Is it better to be told comforting lies or unpleasant truths?

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Hurt me with the truth but never comfort me with a lie...

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Unpleasant truths....if they really are truths.

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Tiffanee Tiffanee

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In the long run,
the unpleasant truth

For short-term,
comforting lies are nice

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fuzala fuzala

It always happens the other way around for me. :)

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Lil_Princess Lil_Princess OP

In response to “It always happens the other way around for me. :)

In the long run
I'm going for the truth because I wanna tackle the pain right now rather than having to deal with it later

In the short term
I'm looking for the lie because at the moment
it'll feel nice

I usually delay gratification and am not a fan of instant gratification

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fuzala fuzala

I can see your point... :)

Pretty sure I could use a good lie right about now...

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Lil_Princess Lil_Princess OP

In response to “you ok

Yea I am fantastic :)

I wrote that back on 6/8

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Lil_Princess Lil_Princess OP

In response to “Yea I am fantastic :) I wrote that back on 6/8

I wasn't alive back in 68. Otherwise I would have seen Jimi Hendrix live. :)

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DW2 DW2

In response to “I wasn't alive back in 68. Otherwise I would...

Haha I meant June 8th

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Lil_Princess Lil_Princess OP

In response to “Haha I meant June 8th

I know. :)

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DW2 DW2

In response to “I know. :)

lol just checking

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Lil_Princess Lil_Princess OP

In response to “lies

Depends on the truth.

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DW2 DW2

Unpleasant Truth. Lie are lies and aren't real

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Synyster Synyster

In response to “Unpleasant Truth. Lie are lies and aren't real

The funny thing is half the time they are.

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DW2 DW2

Unpleasant truths, they come out eventually anyway

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kjkjhar kjkjhar

Depends. Generally I'd say truth but if it's something that you can't change anyway then hell, why not lie

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Sobriquet

Well, when you lie to someone, you let them go on believing something that could hurt them and those around them. The truth may hurt, but one can wise up and move past it. No one ever said life was easy or kind to us.

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Indie Indie

And um, lies ARE lies. If they were ever true, they'd be called truths.

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Indie Indie

In response to “And um, lies ARE lies. If they were ever...

I have a bunch of donuts. Nevermind. I ate a few. Though I still have a bunch left! Ok, just a few. That's still a bunch in comparison to none! :p :)

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DW2 DW2

In response to “I have a bunch of donuts. Nevermind. I ate a...

That's you adding your opinion into it. Someone could interpret a "bunch" as 6 while another person 10.
A truth is different for every person but in formal terms, it's a fact. If you said you had SOME donuts(as in more than one), you'd be truthful. I just had an argument with some guy about this. He wasn't very bright and didn't realize that truth and fact were synonymous. He also kept adding his completely biased opinions to the conversation. We were having an argument(instead of debate) about DBZ(famous anime) btw. If it matters. XP
A lie is, well, not truth/fact. As I pointed out, individuals could describe a "bunch" differently. But if you said that you had NO donuts, you'd be lying. That's where it starts to hurt people; when you try and cherry pick what you want to say from a situation and add your own feelings to it, instead of first explaining all that really happened. Perhaps then you can give your input, if needed.

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Indie Indie

it depends. if i have only one dress and no way to get a new in time, i would rather hear "you look nice, don't worry" than "you better go naked than with that dress"

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seed11

In response to “it depends. if i have only one dress and no...

true. Same with "do I look like I've put on some weight?" If I'm asking, I probably know, I just wanna hear that whatever I'm wearing hides that until I've lost it lol.

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kjkjhar kjkjhar

Unpleasant truths....if they really are truths.

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Tiffanee Tiffanee

Unpleasant truths

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Drue Drue

Unpleasant truths..

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blindfaith blindfaith

Unpleasant truths are better.

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ajmsituation ajmsituation

Honesty is always the best policy!

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Ang98 Ang98

Sometimes the lie is the best choice. Alzheimer's patients need to be lied to; trust me on that one. You just tell them what makes them happy.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

In response to “Sometimes the lie is the best choice...

that's different, I think we are talking about the average person. I know about that, my grandma had it & my mom is gotten really forgetful since her stroke last year.

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Ang98 Ang98

Sometimes you have to lie a little. I don't see any point in crushing the feelings of someone when a little white lie will smooth things over. I hate to do it but sometimes, it is the better option.

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Tiffanee Tiffanee

In response to “Sometimes you have to lie a little. I don't...

I agree with that to a point but with my spouse/bf, it's total honesty or it's over, I lived with lies much too long with my ex, I hate liars!

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Ang98 Ang98

I weigh up any situation , play the scenario out in my head and then I make my decision.

Do I tell the Truth or a little White Lie

or in some cases a Great Big Whopper

Sometime's Life has given me no other choice , especially when People I care about could be hurt so badly by the Truth

One should also remember , the messenger always gets shot

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Darkest_Serenity Darkest_Serenity

I opt for truth.

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Budwick Budwick

In response to “I opt for truth.

I always have. The older I get.. Comforting lies don't seem as bad. :)

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DW2 DW2

to be honest, unpleasant truths. The truth can hurt sometimes, but it is better to tell it than sugarcoat it.

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StephenB StephenB

I'll take unpleasant truths. It hurts more to figure out those comforting lies were well...lies...and that you weren't worth the truth. :/

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Dami Dami

I'll take the truth

I rather take the pain now rather than get hurt by the lie later

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fuzala fuzala

In response to “I'll take the truth I rather take the pain...

I totally agree fuzala!

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Ang98 Ang98

In response to “I totally agree fuzala!

Yeah, save the happy up
Something to look forward to

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fuzala fuzala

In response to “Yeah, save the happy up Something to look...

I had 23 years of lies, the more he got away with, the bigger & more frequent the lies became, you just get sick & tired of it after awhile.

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Ang98 Ang98

In response to “I had 23 years of lies, the more he got away...

I'm glad you're free of him (hug)

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fuzala fuzala

depends on the situation, and who you are talking too , Of course

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Barok

Unpleasant truths. It may sting at first, but it's certainly less devaluing to the self than a lie.

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ForkNdaRoad ForkNdaRoad

In response to “Unpleasant truths. It may sting at first, but...

if only more people would realize this!

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Ang98 Ang98

Depends on whether knowing the unpleasant truths will allow me to make the world less unpleasant

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DWF DWF

I'd rather know the truth. The truth comes out eventually.

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TheAmazinZedd TheAmazinZedd

In response to “I'd rather know the truth. The truth comes...

it sure does & the longer the lie, the more mad you are about it, doesn't make you forgive them that's for sure, makes everything worse!

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Ang98 Ang98

Unpleasant truths

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xXPurpleGuyXx xXPurpleGuyXx

unpleasant truths. it may hurt at present but it can also promote growth in the long ride unlike lies that can just hurt more if revealed.

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shikiriiin shikiriiin

I know we all say we want the truth, but a lot of the times, we just go by "ignorance is bliss" We're so busy that we put it off until later. It's also scary hearing the unpleasant truth. Like you don't wanna believe that so and so is cheating on you or that so and so is betraying you. You don't wanna think about it because you'll know there's immediate pain involved. It takes a lot of strength to rip off that band aid and face reality.

In shorter words, we say we want the unpleasant truth over the pleasant lie, but easier said than done

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fuzala fuzala

I prefer unpleasant truths.

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Ilikeme

I mean, sure, a comforting lie will make me feel better. But, if anyone wants any sort of successful relationship with me (friendship, dating, etc) then it would be in their best interest to always be honest. 100%, no ****.

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Witty_sob Witty_sob

I'll gonna go with comforting truths. : )

(yes, I realize that wasn't an option. I don't care. I play by my own rules.)

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semple semple

In response to “I'll gonna go with comforting truths. :...

I guess cause it is you I will let it slide...this time. :)

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Lil_Princess Lil_Princess OP

Unpleasant truths. It sucks, and there's always the "ignorance is bliss" concept, but once you find out the truth, there's never any going back.

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rhiannichole rhiannichole

umpleasant truth

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C_ZAR1 C_ZAR1

Unpleasant truths. I'd rather deal than be lied to.

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BuddyCakes BuddyCakes

The truth no matter how hard it is. But it can be done kindly and with grace most of the time.

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ozzyboy ozzyboy

Unpleasant truths, because even though the truth might hurt, it's always better than to tell a lie.

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StephenB StephenB

unpleasant truths

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EternalSailorSol EternalSailorSol

Men, we are on a secret mission, we must secure the coffee and donuts
problem is, the Germans drank all the coffee and ate all our donuts
now we are going to go and kick their ****.
moans & groans all around

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Neanderthal_Momdoer Neanderthal_Momdoer

unpleasant truths.

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Wolfcave Wolfcave

In response to “unpleasant truths.

agree

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EternalSailorSol EternalSailorSol

In response to “agree

They are always better than a lie.

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Wolfcave Wolfcave

In response to “They are always better than a lie.

Not always. Have you somehow put yourself into every situation that calls for the truth or a lie? If you're in Nazi Germany when those scummers are rounding up Jews to murder, do you tell the truth when they ask you where the Jews are? People are idiots when they're so arrogant to think everything is cut and dry.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

unpleasant truths

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botter

Depends - sometimes you need one or the other.

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beachbum beachbum

Both corrode, eventually, so neither

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PartyOfOne PartyOfOne

Neither Tis better to find somebody who doesn’t need to lie. Because the truth won’t hurt.

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DW2 DW2

The truth everytime...how can any good come from a lie...

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JD JD

In response to “The truth everytime...how can any good come...

Nazi soldiers:" are you hiding any Jew?" you: "No.
Good lie right there.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

In response to “Nazi soldiers:" are you hiding any...

In case you never heard , the war is over....but the question is being told the truth or a lie, not me being asked....you are weird...

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JD JD

In response to “In case you never heard , the war is...

The pot calling the kettle black.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

In response to “The pot calling the kettle black.

Not really ...I don't talk foolish like you...telling people they are scum because they tell the truth...

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JD JD

Sometimes, If you don't lie, you're evil scum. Simple.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

In response to “Sometimes, If you don't lie, you're evil...

If you tell the truth you're evil scum.....I'm glad I don't live in your sad world...

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JD JD

In response to “If you tell the truth you're evil...

You left out the word "sometimes" to make me look as bad as you possible can. Twisting words like the media.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

In response to “You left out the word "sometimes" to...

I did...but calling anyone scum, puts you in the gutter...where you seem happy...

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JD JD

In response to “I did...but calling anyone scum, puts you in...

Who did I direct the word at? Anyone who would refuse to lie when it's the only right thing to do.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

In response to “Who did I direct the word at? Anyone who...

Many people picked the truth with their comments, but you decide to attack me...I don't consider anyone scum who tell the truth..not one person...

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JD JD

People are going to tell you only what they want you to know, whether it’s a lie or the truth there is no way of knowing,,so what do you believe!!

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symplycurious symplycurious

Unpleasant truths. The truth we can handle

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Jaxxi Jaxxi

Truth all the way!

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Masha Masha

What most people here continue to not understand is that the answer to this question changes according to the circumstance. They just answer in the zombie like manner in which they feel best about themselves. They mostly seem to worry most about what others think of them. Selfish.

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JerryHendrickson JerryHendrickson

In response to “What most people here continue to not...

That's bs....some prefer the truth and some don't ...not zombies or selfish and for all of us it would depend on the type of lie or truth...I agree it depends on circumstances ...

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JD JD

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