Theres really no point in having sex before youre married. Amirite?

There's usually no point in half the stuff people do. People just like to have fun, so they do what's fun. E.g. having sex

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Exactly. It's fun. What do you care if I go to hell? Mind your own business. Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing and just worry about yourself.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

...someone's getting defensive..:/ lol! and you don't care if you go to hell?? how does this sound, "you're in so much pain you wish you would die...but you already have" i'm thinking you're gonna care...hopefully not before it's too late! And she's not getting in anyones business..people post stuff like this all the time on this site! chill out and stop taking things so personally!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Plus, isn't saying "Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing and just worry about yourself." worrying about what everyone else is doing??

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I said why should YOU care?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

well then why shouldn't we care? why would anyone want anyone to endure that kind of torture for all eternity?! that'd be some serious hatred!!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's one thing to wish it on somebody but what I mean is that if I do something it's on me. I have to deal with the results.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

you have a point..but based on my belief system, going to hell or heaven is not based on whether you're good or bad or anything like that, but something much bigger than that...so i agree that it is your life and you have to face the consequences for your actions, but i don't necessarily believe that those actions will send you to hell

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Personally, I am agnostic. I feel like I am going to live life however I want. If I live it right, I will go to heaven. If I don't, I will go to hell. If none exist, that's fine too. You are entitled to your beliefs though and I respect them.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

thank you, i respect yours as well. i may not agree with them, but i'm not about to cause a scene trying to change you! that's the last thing we need here!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Good. Now if only there were more people like that on the internet..

by Anonymous 13 years ago

forreal!! I hate it when people try to shove things down peoples throat! even if i agree with the stuff their shoving, it's just not the way to do it! kinda hypocritical too

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Did I say anything about anyone going to hell? I dont think I did. And I honestly dont understand whats 'fun' about teenage pregnacy and STD's.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

they're called condoms and birth control. Not all pre-marital sex situations result in pregnancy and STDs. Open you're fucking mind

by Anonymous 13 years ago

The best way to prevent STDs and premarital pregnancy is called abstinence.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

"best" as in most reliable? yes. best as in most fun? not so much.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Lol. Was the pun on purpose?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Strictly an example. You don't have to suffer the consequences of what I do so why should you care? At the same time when I do suffer the consequences I will not complain to you.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

No, you're not on the same page as your post. Sex and the aftermath of sex are different things. Also, those are not guaranteed, and I never got how marriage lessens your chance to get STDs.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's because if only one person has only one partner then they are only having sex with one partner. But if you have two partners and they have two partners then that's apparently 6 people you're sleeping with. Believe me, in my health class they talk about this ridiculous crap all the time.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It is more likely that one in six people have an STD than it is that one in two have an STD. That is why it is less likely when you are married. If you are cheating however, obviously there is no change in risk.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I am on the same page as my post. There is no point in having sex before youre married. I was simply responding to their comments. I honestly do not see any benifits in sex unless Im married. There are too many risks involved. And when I get married and have sex, I dont want my husband to have slept with a whole bunch of girls because I wouldnt want to be compared to all of them. And it would also feel like I was sleeping with all those girls. And if I sleep with a whole bunch of guys then, to my future husband, it could feel like he was sleeping with all of them. So I dont really care if it is as 'fun' as everyone says because to me it doesnt seem fun. I dont need sex to have fun. That was all just my opinion. I respect your opinion, please respect mine.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

There are absolutely no risks involved if you use protection. As for the "I wouldnt want to be compared to all of them" argument, I probably wouldn't advise ever marrying someone who is capable of that -- whether he had sex with many or none. I just hope you never divorce/lose the guy and want to get remarried.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

are you being serious?!! there are absolutely no risks?!! i cannot believe you actually think that!! condoms rip, birth control fails...just because you use "protection" doesn't mean that you are risk free!! do a little bit of research before you make yourself look like an idiot!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Condoms are 97% effective and all condoms have small holes called "voids" that are too small for sperm to go through but fifty times larger than the space needed for AIDS to get through. STDs are still a risk using condoms. Plus, most people would prefer that the person they marry saved their purity for their spouse.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Condoms rip RARELY, birth control pills mess up your cycles. But they generally work for most people. Otherwise get an abortion. Fact is, anyone you have sex should be regularly tested. It doesn't matter if they "saved" their precious little sperm for you, they can lie. Do a little bit of research into the person your with before you catch something! @170805 (Whutsurnaym): Perhaps those voids exist. But if you use protection and get your partner tested, you have no risks of catching/getting pregnant (again generally speaking). "Plus, most people would prefer that the person they marry saved their purity for their spouse." It's a penis and a vagina. Urine comes out of both of them. It's not all that "pure."

by Anonymous 13 years ago

But everybody has a 3 percent risk of the condom failing. It doesn't matter. Besides, however absurd this may sound, some people don't know how to properly put a condom on.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Again, the condom ripping is extraordinarily rare. And if so: abortion. If people don't know how to put on condoms, they probably shouldn't be having sex, among other things.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I believe I said that. 3 percent. Besides, they don't realize that they are using condoms wrong because they just assume they are using it correctly. They may be too nervous to ask about how to use it or whatever, but it happens all the time.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I believe I also said that a couple of posts ago too. Anyway, again, if they don't know how to do it, that's an entirely different problem.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It comes with the same consequences.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Huh? If you are having sex with someone, you should both get tested and be wearing condoms. Again, condoms usually work. I'm not sure what we're missing here.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I am just saying there is more than one way a condom can fail, not just tearing.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I hear what you're saying. I just hope everyone having sex makes sure each other has been tested, so even if the condom does break, the worst case scenario would be pregnancy, which can be solved be by either having the child or abortion.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Condoms also don't protect against all STD's. Things like herpes are skin to skin contact which means the area around the penis is totally vulnerable.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Which, again, is exactly why both partners should always be tested.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I'm not disagreeing with that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

And neither am I.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

(): ABORTION? no. thats murder for little babies who cant make their own decesions..

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I think I love you. I'm so sick of girls throwing themselves at every guy they see. I don't think I would be comfortable with someone like that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Sex feels good. End of story.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Meg, the OP, is ugly in real life, she'd like to be a slut, but she can't.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

well you're supposed to wait but what if you marry a guy who sucks at having sex or never wants it! It's not so easy to rape your husband when he doesn't put out.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I agree with you and these other people are just making excuses for themselves to be promiscuous. And as for there are "absolutely no risks" uh yeah, look it up. Condoms and birth control don't always work. And birth control can mess up women's fertility later when they do want to get married. So yes the benifits of waiting far outweigh the 1 loss of "not having fun." Especially because there are tons of other ways to have fun, especially when you're young.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

All of these peoples' arguments are just stupid. Animals have sex for children, not pleasure. So unless you're planning to have tons of kids out of wedlock don't compare human sex with animal sex. And if both spouses abstain untill marriage the chances of stds and stuff is greatly reduced to little or most likely nothing. Rock on meg

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I have sex with my boyfriend. We're in love with each other, and we probably will get married some day. See, I agree with you to an extent. I believe you should only have sex with someone you are in love with. And I don't mean "omg liek i'm soooo in luv wit him i wanna have sex wit him lolz!" No. I mean love. What is marriage other than legal documentation and religious confirmation of the love two people share? Also, sex is not only a way to 'have fun with' or 'pleasure' your significant other, but it's a way to be more connected with the one you love and share intimacy. True, there are other ways you can do that, but not quite in the way that sex offers. I'm not saying that you're wrong for wanting to wait until marriage, I actually applaud you for it. But I think that you should keep your virginity not only for someone you're going to marry, but for someone you are in love with. Not a crush, or someone you lust for. Someone you're in love with- and you'll know when that happens.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If your saving for someone who loves you, he'd be willing to wait till marriage.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

While that may be true, that's still not the issue. I'm saying that you don't HAVE to wait until marriage. It's nice if you want to, there's nothing wrong with that. But what I'm saying is that you should wait until you find someone you're in love with. That's the only 'have to' in my book when it comes to the issue we're talking about here.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I agree with what you are saying. Sex is for someone you are in love with. I view virginity as a gift that you can only give away once and I want to give it someone that I am absolutely in love with. I will only get married to someone that I am absolutely in love with and I will only want to have sex with him.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Good luck with that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Yes, exactly. Which explains why I have sex with my boyfriend - I am absolutely and positively in love with him, and I wish to be married to him some day. I only ever want to have sex with him and only him, and I don't think anyone else deserves my body but him.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You obviously have never been in love. I respect if you believe it's wrong in a spiritual sense... But to say there's no point? Thats just nieve. Sex is an expression of love. That's the point. Just curious, how old are you? This post seems very immature to me that's why I ask

by Anonymous 13 years ago

That's what I was thinking. I used to think the same exact thing just a few years ago, until I realized what love really was and experienced it first hand.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

What the Hell?!? How is this positive? Unless it's saying that bathing people do ultimatley means anything, then this is just a troll post.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

There is nothing wrong with pre-marital sex in a committed, monogamous, long-term relationships. It's common these days for people not get married until they have been in a relationship with the same person for several years. You shouldn't have one night stands with strangers, but how long does a relationship have to go on before sex is ok? In my experience (as a minister) the no sex until marriage rule only encourages people to jump into marriage too soon. Most people I've ever met who decide to follow this rule get married and move in with someone only 6 months to a year into a relationship, and end up with a very troubled marriage. Most people I've ever known who don't, move in after a year, and don't get married for about three.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Three months, as opposed to three dates, seems to be a good standard for how long before sex. Three month's isn't overly long, and you will likely know them well by then. It's also not too objectionable to decide both of you should be tested for STDs before hand.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Lolololol @ people abstaining before marrige. Enjoy your horrible sex lives! Also, hell doesn't exist - BOOM! Sex drugs and rock and roll for everyone!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You're awesome.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Dayyymn. U ppl r crazy. U only say it's " bad" cuz u can't get none

by Anonymous 13 years ago

This was a dumb argument ... In my opinion sex is for pleasure. You don't have to love some one to do it or it can be a one night stand or fuck buddies whatever is your preference...people explore sex in different ways...I respect those who wait til marriage because they want to lose their virginity to the certain love interest and the sex will be more romantic and shit ...I respect others who didn't wait cause hey no one wants to die a virgin. I respect the porn industry as well. its your life do what the fuck you want. Gaw I hate judgmental people.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

same here. For some, sex is another way to communicate and express love. For others, it's what you say.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Umm pee definatly doesn't come out of a vagina. You should have probally listened in science class or at least pay attention to your normal bodily functions before you try and look smart.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

First of all, hiv and aids are not the same thing. One turns into the other because of the development of the disease. Secondly, pee does not in any way come out of the vagina. Thirdly, why is this argument even on this comment, either say yeah you are, no way, or move on because it is just this girls opinion. Marriage in many eyes in the church is a sacred sacrement, not a piece of paper. In the eyes of the church one of the main reasons for marriage is reproduction. Although everybody is not of a religious background, at least respect those who are.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Hey guys, let's not forget, the primary function of sex is to produce offspring. We humans, like many other animals, tend to stick to one partner for a majority of our lives with whom we produce these offspring. It is therefore in my opinion that you shouldn't have sex until you're prepared for the very real possibility of becoming a parent, even with protection. Somewhat un-related-ly, I also believe you should wait until you're sure you are absolutely in love with your partner, and ready to turn that love into a child that the two of you will share and raise together for the remainder of your lives. Sex should be not only your means of producing the child, but also of demonstrating to your partner that you are ready to have and raise the child with him/her.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

sex doesn't always produce children... Birth Control, the morning after pill, condoms (male and female) , and people can be sterile. Seriously, sex isn't always for making children.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Marraige is just a piece of paper

by Anonymous 13 years ago