The moment you tell someone you love them should be the moment you decide you want to marry them, amirite?

* in a relationship

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I was about to say "what about love for your sister?" but then I saw this comment. Well played.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Owned, haha. But yes, I agree wholeheartedly with the post.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I agree and disagree... because people do throw around the word love too much.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Exactly and, theoretically, love should be the strongest of good emotions. By that rationale, shouldn't the peak of all your relationships be marriage? Therefore, by telling someone you love them is saying that they've mad you extraordinarily happy. AND since humans are naturally selfish, its only natural that they would want to feel that way as long as possible

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I love my mom, I love my sister, I love my friends. sooo... :B

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Read the first comment

by Anonymous 13 years ago

The stupid comments about loving siblings and family are ridiculous. Come on people, it's obvious what the OP meant.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Damn straight

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I think you can love someone without there being a legal document involved.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

That's true, and so is the opposite but, if you truly do love them wouldn't you agree that you would want to spend the rest of your life with them?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Love =/= Marriage.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Theoretically it is.This post is in theoryXP

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I think the "no's" don't get what love is.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

No, because I once felt like I loved this guy but at the same time I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Then you didn't love him. In theory, love is a permanent state of emotion

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him not because I didn't think I wouldn't love him my whole life. More like because, in theory, I'm too young to know what I want. The only reason I don't still feel like I love him is because I've spent a lot of time trying to get over him and my feelings for him have lessened quite a bit compared to when I first realized I had any feelings for him.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

That isn't logical. It seems to me you were held back by fear and anticipation. If you truly were in love, you wouldn't have let those two emotions hold you back.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It wasn't just fear holding me back. There were more circumstantial things keeping me from being with him... Besides, you can't exactly expect anything about love to be logical.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

That last statement is an opinion. But yeah, I suppose circumstances can hold you back from a lot of things

by Anonymous 13 years ago

True and not true. You can tell any boyfriend or girlfriend that you love them but it doesn't mean you're now expected to get married. It's when you realize that you are IN love with them and tell them you're IN love that you should get married. Very good point though and I agree.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Very good point. I just thinkthe word love is thrown around too loosely

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I've been with my boyfriend for more than 4 years. We're completely and totally in love and love each other, but we're not getting married. We both watched marriage ruin our parents relationships, among other things. And just don't feel like a piece of paper is needed to 'prove' our love or whatever anyone wants to say. We're perfectly content with what we have together.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

AGAIN; This is assuming marriage is what it is in theory (if that makes sense) If you can't understand that GTFO

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I totally agree, I love my boyfriend and wouldn't mind living with him but I don't think it's necessary to bring in legal stuff, like marriage.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

first of all, you're an idiot. Point blank. Second, this site is for people opinions, and others comments of those opinions. So stfu with your gtfo bullshit you ignorant kid. Third, by definition, marriage has NOTHING to do with love. So your whole 'theory' bullshit is...bullshit. :)

by Anonymous 13 years ago

(CASSi):One. You have no solid proof. Second you misinterpreted my opinion, therefore your opinion holds no valid point in reference to mine. Third. Marriage is the union of man & woman....period. Crap. Point taken.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Marriage can be between two men and two women as well.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Yes, I know that. But, religion by definition (fake and gay) states one man & one woman. Which is a load of crap.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It is a load of crap. But, the way you said it sounded like you were against gay marriage.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

NO, I'm all for it but, only legally. I think its not right to force any religion to change its way. The U.S. constitution calls for a separation of state and church, and it should stay like that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

lol.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Thank you for not being a complete jackass lol

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I don't think the OP meant you say I love you when you want to get married, but when you decide you want to marry that person. You could know you want to marry someone but still not want to do it for several years.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Poor choice of words but, essentially yes.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

yeah exactly, and I do live with my bf, we've lived together for 3 years. We do plan on being together 'forever' and have no intentions of looking for anyone else, but we still don't see any reason to get married.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I can see the rationale behind that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

l think what the post is trying to convey is that once you begin to truly love someone, you stay with them. If you have a new "love of your life" every year, then you don't know what love is.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If this were a class you'd have an A

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I'm not sure if you're being sarcastic or not? Either way, its personal. Like I said before, we both watched our parents and close friends marriages fall apart. Especially these days though, marriage has lost so much of what it used to mean :/

by Anonymous 13 years ago

No I'm not being sarcastic at all. I really can see why you'd do that. My point in this post is that the word love is being thrown around all too loosely now-a-days.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I completely agree. I have a friend who moved in with a guy after less than a month of dating or even knowing him, then got married a few months later. They constantly fight and have such a bad relationship. Stupid girl. And soooo many (usually) young people saying they're in love after a week 'dating' someone. Ridic.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I know right? Thankfully my Dad and stepmom turned out okay after only three months of dating, but that's kinda different considering their age

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I agree with the last part, but usually people that are like that are like 15, and don't know what real love is regardless. But I absolutely don't agree that once you truely love someone you decide you're going to stay with them forever. You can love some, and be in love, but not want forver. 'Forever' is too unrealistic anyways. People change. Life happens. Shit happens. You can love and be in love with more than one person in your life.

by Anonymous 13 years ago