No, why? Everyone can pay for their own food.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well this isn't old fashioned at all... women always campaign for being "equal to men", but as soon as the check comes out, or there isn't an empty seat on the bus, they expect special treatment...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Just the hypocritical/loud ones. Sexism goes both ways and quite a lot of females get upset by both. There's no need to generalize all women like that unless you want to be just like the people who voted this up.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

i didnt want to generalize

by Anonymous 11 years ago

A lot of people are hypocrites. but that doesn't mean you can say that all people who are for equality are hypocrites in this way. I don't want to be treated like a special interest group. If someone wants to pay for my shit, or open the door for me, that's sweet of them. But I want them to do it because they want to be nice to me, not because I have a vagina. My ex-boyfriend paid on our first date, and I was totally fine with that, because I assumed that he was just paying because he asked me (which is logical, the person who is being treated to something shouldn't have to pay). However, a while later I texted him and asked if we should meet up and have coffee, and i assumed I would be treating him (or at least I would be paying for mine). However, he paid for it all. Sure, it was a nice gesture, but I started getting really pissed at him because he never let me do nice things for him.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I mean I won't get mad if a guy pays for dinner, but I don't think there's a "should" and "shouldn't" about it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm only agreeing because I think that's nice, but personally, I wouldn't mind paying at all.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Only if a "fun time in the mouth" is guaranteed. Even then, it's questionable.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh yes. You should only pay for people's shit because you're guaranteed to get some sort of sexy times, cuz that's totally why people ask other people on dates, it couldn't be because they actually like you or something crazy like that.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Nobody owes anyone sex. These attitudes are, unfortunately, prevalent in our culture. And a lot of people get insecure, like they feel like it is their obligation to have sex. However, sex has nothing to do with who paid for dinner. My personal rules are: If you feel like you're only going out with someone because of sex, that's crazy. It is not their duty to put out just because you pay for their shit. And when it comes to sex: CONSENT. And by "consent" I mean mutual, enthusiastic, explicit consent. Consent means "yes I want to do (sexytimes activity) with you". And you can tell what consent looks like. Consent isn't "ummm yeah I guess". Consent isn't "not right now". Consent is "yes, I definetely want that." Consent is being there in the moment and loving the sex, not lying there like a dead fish. More people need to know this stuff, and defeat these ridiculous attitudes. A sexual relationship is "people being in a sexual relationship because they like it" not "a guy paying for a girl's shit and expecting her to let him fuck her". The "letting" mentality sucks too. Having sex is not one person being all "fine, I'll let you fuck me".

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My family's rule is the person who does the asking out pays.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

This is my personal rule. It's helpful if you're dating someone of the same gender.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So when I go for a really long time not asking anyone out, it's not because I'm a chick, it's just because I'm broke

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Ahahahahhaha. Seems legitimate.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Seems unfair. She asked you out, shouldn't she be paying for the dinner because she wanted it?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Technically she just asked you to homecoming, that's not an automatic dinner invite.

by Anonymous 11 years ago