+449 Rape and sexual assault is not the victim’s fault, no matter how skimpy or provocative the clothes they were wearing. If the rapist couldn’t control themselves, regardless of what the victim was wearing, then they are not fit to be out in society, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Rape isn't about sexual urges though... it's about power.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not always. Many cases are of men who are simply addicted to sex or let their fantasies run so wild that they must rape the woman to fulfill them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power."

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I guarantee you that quote is from a woman. Sex is about pleasure.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Uhm, no... It's actually Oscar Wilde. It's natural to want power. Look at how the animals get it in nature, one, (usually the male I think) is always dominating the other. I'm not saying sex isn't good. Power is sexy too, but rapist just want too much of t.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You really think animals have sex for power? In nature especially, sex is simply a way to reproduce. Animals don't receive pleasure from dominating another animal. They simply want to make babies.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

really?? Animals are all about power. I never said that animals receive pleasure from dominating others, I wouldn't know. But they do dominate others while reproducing. For example, a male duck will hold the girl ducks head under water while in the at, or male lions have prongs on their parts so that when they pull out, the lioness is so hurt she won't go to another male. People are part of nature. We do it for power too, we've just learned to enjoy it and mostly not focus so much in the power area.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think it's important to note that just "animals have sex for this reason" is far too broad a generalisation. And, the point of my post is that we are not beasts - in a civilised society, a human is supposed to have self control. Mating with the nearest female in sight may be natural to male animals, but "natural" is not the same thing as right or moral.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Actually, the majority of the time that an animal is humping another and it's not reproducing (like a male dog humping a male dog) it's to show dominance. So it's not exactly sex, but the motions of sex to dominate

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Actually, I remember watching a documentary once and a frustrated walrus began raping a baby walrus. Was that for reproductive purposes? No. You wanna know how I know that? Because it fucking died! Because it was crushed under the weight of that huge ass walrus! That isn't a rare occurrence.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

In lots of insect and reptile species, the female eats the male after she has sex with him. Just sayin'.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

whether it was male or female bore no relevance to what I was saying.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Right, because rapists are only heterosexual males who rape attractive adult women.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You're right, but there are a lot of causes for rape - the three main ones are anger, power and sadism.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Rape... Meh

by Anonymous 12 years ago

In some cases it's not the victims fault, and the guy always needs to control himself but if the woman is wearing very revealing clothes, and flirting with a guy turnin him on, giving him every sign to bone her, n then she's like no i changed my mind. If she didn't want to turn on on fuck someone ,y would she even wear those clothes and go to places where there there are those creepy guys, who are completely drunk and ill mannered in the first place.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Prevention does need to be taught, I feel - there are situations that are dangerous for women. But rape is NEVER the victim's fault. A person ALWAYS has the right to say no to any sex, even if they agreed to it previously.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What? HOW DARE WOMEN DRESS THE WAY THEY WANT TO AND EXPECT TO NOT BE RAPED! What's next, will they walking on the street alone and expect people to not murder them? Obviously it's the woman's fault she was in the wrong place at the wrong time. We should punish her for wearing low cut clothing instead of actually punishing the poor innocent rapist.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This reminds me of an absolutely heinous statement made by Bill Napoli, the Senator of South Dakota. Napoli said that abortion should be permissible only if the rape victim is a virgin girl who intends to wait until marriage to have sex. He said that in that case, an exception could be made because "that girl could be so messed up, physically and psychologically". This kind of thinking is not only moronic; it's hurtful. Rape victims should not be separated by their previous sexual encounters or by what kind of clothes they were wearing. All victims of rape experience extreme psychological pain. Whether or not they intended to have consensual sex that night or sometime in the future is irrelevant. The situation became one they could not control, and they were taken advantage of in the worst way possible. Sorry for the rant, your ignorant comment just pissed me off.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I completely agree with everything in your rant. I read the Bill Napoli quote somewhere in a book about feminism and it pissed me off so much too. Blaming a woman for being raped because she was dressed "provocatively" is like blaming a child for being kidnapped because he had rich parents. It's never okay to rape a woman (or anybody or anything) ever. EVER EVER EVER.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This. It doesn't matter how many sex a person has had previously - whether they're a virgin or a sex worker, it should be considered the same.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yes, and it's still rape if you are married to the person who rapes you. Just because you are married doesn't mean you can't control your own body and sex life. Lot's of people (not you, obviously, you are awesome) seem to forget that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Urg, I was actually reading something about that earlier, and someone said "A person can't rape their own wife. It's like stealing your own car". I pray that he's single.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

With that kind of attitude, I bet he is.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree that rape is not about sex, but about power and control. I feel like I should say this, though - that fact shouldn't be an excuse for girls to dress like sluts. It WILL attract the wrong kind of attention, and girls need to realize that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You should look up slutwalks. A victim is never guilty for a crime that was forced upon him/her.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I never said it was. In fact, I was implying that it wasn't. I was simply also stating that just because rape isn't right and not the fault of the victim shouldn't be a green light for girls to dress like sluts.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Why does it matter what people wear? It doesn't affect me and it's none of my business.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Like Simon said, it's a separate issue. But if it doesn't affect you then don't worry about it. Personally, I find it distracting when girls wear lowcut shirts with their boobs popping out and shorts with half their ass showing, and I'm a straight girl. But that's just me.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with you that modest clothes are better than revealing ones, but I think that issue should be considered entirely separate when talking about sexual assault - ie, a woman should wear modest clothes, but what she was wearing should be entirely irrelevant when prosecuting her rapist. A woman should be aware of her surroundings, but "she should have known not to go down that street as night" should never be used to blame the victim.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I can understand that; I was just stating my viewpoint on a separate issue. I do agree that the victim is never at fault for rape.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Why are people who are making legitimate points (heysoulsister and pandathebear) getting voted down? They have both said that they think there is no excuse for rape, but to consider other things about the situation. Everyone on this site needs to stop being downvote fags.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yes, we should make the woman feel guilty for being raped. After all, she was raped because she was wearing skimpy clothing, it had nothing to do with the fact that a rapist raped her.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

So I just spent about half of my comment space clarifying that the rapist is completely at fault for rape. Learn to read, please.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The other half of your comment spaced was used to talk about how women shouldn't wear skimpy clothing. Learn to not be sexist please.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

There is nothing sexist about saying that women should be modest. Simply because I don't think girls should look like sluts does not make me sexist in the least.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well, maybe not by your standards, but I believe that calling someone a slut, or saying they look like a slut is inherently sexist. In fact, there are very few instances when you can use the word slut and not be sexist. I certainly don't beleive that you hate women, I'm sure you admire plenty of women in your life. I also don't believe that you think women are inferior to men. I do think (I'm not trying to offend you) that you are reinforcing some sexist concepts. For example, the idea that a woman's worth is dependent on what clothes she wears and who she has sex with. Lots of people beleive this and it makes me sad because women are not sex objects so we shouldn't be judged on our sexuality. Again, please don't take this as a personal attack. I don't really think you are a bad person; I've never met you, you might be awesome. I just makes me sad when people (not you personally) think it's okay call a woman bad names just because she chose to have sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sorry, but could you explain your reasoning a bit more? I mean, saying someone looks like a slut may be judgmental and derogative, but sexist? Men can be called sluts too (manwhores!). Also, I don't think heysoulsister was trying to say that if women don't want to be raped, they shouldn't wear skimpy clothing. Simply that women, especially teenage girls since grown women don't tend to dress that proactively, shouldn't think it's okay to expose everything just because it was okay for the rape victim. Well obviously the rape victim was okay, but she wasn't at fault, sending signals that that kind of clothing is acceptable. And the reason it's not acceptable is because of public decency. Not really about sex or property or anything like that. This turned more towards my opinion than heysoulsister, so sorry about that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm not sure if I can really explain it but I'll try. Historically, women have been judged by aspects of their sexuality: how attractive they look (their sex appeal), who they are married to (their sexual partner), how pure they are (how much they have sex) and how many children they have (the fruits of the sexual endeavors). Basically, a woman's value was all about her sexuality (her husband, her children, her virginity ect.). This is sexist because women are not just good for sex so a woman's value should not be dependent on sex. We shouldn't judge women on how much sex she has or how low her shirt is, we should judge a woman on important things like her courage, kindness, and wisdom. We don't call men just whores, we call them "manwhores". We don't call men "manjerks" because anybody can be a jerk but we do call men "manwhores" because only a woman can be a whore. So I think there is a double standard. besides, when is the last time you heard someone tell a guy

by Anonymous 12 years ago

to change his shorts because they were to slutty looking? Wearing low cut clothing or having sex doesn't make you a bad person. We shouldn't treat women who wear different clothes or make different choices with less respect. TL;DR: A woman's worth is should not determined by her sex life or her clothing.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Nothing was said about a woman's WORTH, just character. And yes, of course you shouldn't make rash judgments and quickly stereotype people, but often clothes say a lot about people, not just women. Not saying that you should treat people any differently or with less respect because of what they wear, but it tells you things about them. For example, if you see someone wearing a shirt with a band name on it, you would infer that they like that band, amirite? In the same way, if a girl OR guy wears inappropriate clothing, you could infer they are an inappropriate person. Also, wearing skimpy clothing isn't just bad for modesty, it's bad for themselves. Like you said, a girl's worth should be based on her kindness or generosity, just like men. But IN GENERAL, girls who wear skimpy clothing or have LOTS of sex (not just sex. People who have sex with their partner aren't sluts) do so because they feel insecure, and they know boys pay attention to that kind of stuff.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Okay, lets just pretend that it is true that women who wear skimpy clothing tend to have more sex. What the hell is wrong with people who have sex? Nothing! Some people just choose to have more sex than others. There is nothing wrong with choosing to have sex just as there is nothing wrong with choosing not to have sex. It's a personal decision that has no bearing on who you are as a person. So what's the big deal if women wear short clothing and have lots of sex? It's doesn't mean they are bad people. If you are noble, wise, and generous, you'll be a good person no matter how much sex you have or what kind of clothing you wear.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Then it's about a self-esteem issue, while we should be praising people for their character. If we promote showy clothing, isn't that also promoting the showy clothing? Think of the successful women in politics or business. They don't wear showy clothing do they? Because they already have worked their way to the top and they don't need to show off their skin to feel good about themselves. We should encourage this kind of behavior instead of saying it's okay to show off skin and feel good about themselves that way. And it's not that much of a double standard. Think of what was big on the news today. Arnold Schwarzenegger's affair. It's scandalous! Tiger Woods also. People disapprove because of all the sex. Well for Arnold, it's the child, so same concept. No matter what gender, making love with someone lots of others you don't love is bad.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Business women are expected to wear business attire. The fact that you can't wear a banana costume or a swim suit to a cabinet meeting has very little to do with sex or sexism. While there are lots of outfits that are unprofessional or just plain ugly, I don't believe that any kind of outfit makes you immoral, dirty, or worthless. Some people (I'm not directing this at you) go on and on about how terrible it is that women wear tight clothing. It's almost like wearing certain clothing is a crime or something and the people who wear them are evil criminals. I don't think that wearing "slutty" clothing is a sign of insecurity. I think girls would feel a whole lot more secure of themselves if could just wear whatever they wanted without being afraid of people thinking they're slutty or disgusting. Living in fear of being labeled as a slut just isn't healthy. It's sad that clothing, rather than values or good deeds, can make or beak a girl's reputation.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Slut shaming and sex-hating hurts men too just like you said. Elvis was thought to be an immoral evil person because of the provocative way he danced. It also hurts men in other ways too. Typical men are sometimes portrayed as sex-obsessed, horny, shallow creatures who are more interested in boobs and sex than science or world affairs. That's not at all true and it's not something I want young boys to grow up believing that is the way all men should act.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A woman's worth is only dependent upon the clothes she wears or who she has sex with when she makes herself a sex object; not by anybody else's doing but her own. We have a title for women who like to sleep around, and that is slut, be it with or without negative connotation. But, in general, women who have no regard for the number of people they sleep with are frowned upon, because that kind of behavior is what results when a woman portrays herself as and turns herself into, a sex object, existing solely to satisfy the sexual desires of men. I think that to say that it should be socially acceptable for women to wear whatever they want and have as much sex as they want shows much more of a negative view of women than saying that they should dress modestly.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"A woman's worth is only dependent upon the clothes she wears or who she has sex with when she makes herself a sex object." Women are never ever sex objects and they should never be treated as such. Women, what ever they wear, and what ever they do are human beings with thoughts and feelings. Women don't turn themselves into sex objects. Women are never sex objects. Sometimes, people (you perhaps) see women as sex objects because they fail to appreciate other more important aspects of their character like their intelligence and generosity. You should not respect someone less because of their own personal choices regarding their own private sex lives. You probably won't ever read it, but just in case there is this awesome book that is really relevant to this discussion. You can read bits of it here: http://books.google.com/books?id=rQ10AIsHNa4C&printsec=frontcover&dq=the+purity+myth&hl=en&src=bmrr&ei=lyHUTfn6M6Hn0QGrpoTqAw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Women in and of themselves are not sex objects, but when you wear certain clothes or do certain things that cause you to be viewed by all as a sex object, it's more than just a label. You become a sex object to other people, and that's what "being" a sex object is. There are consequences to every action, and acting like/ presenting one's self as a slut generally tends other people to view that person as a slut or a sex object. No, a woman's worth is not defined by what she wears or how she acts. Not truly. But in society, people are judged by how they act. Not just women. If they don't want to be viewed as a slut or a sex object, they need to respect themselves and not act like a slut. IT doesn't make them a slut or sex object, but that is how they will be viewed.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It is never ever okay to treat women as sex objects. EVER. Women, even if they have sex, hell, even if they are axe-murders, are still people and should be treated as such. While it is true that people (you) view women as inferior if they seem to be a "slut", it is still wrong. It's just like it's wrong to view someone as inferior for following a different religion. Besides, there is nothing wrong about having sex so long as you are safe and responsible about it. It is never okay to think of human being as an object. EVER! It kind of makes me sad that you think it's okay to disrespect women for having happy fulfilling sex lives.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I like how you like to assume things and put words in my mouth to make me sound like a 'bad person'. First of all, I never said anything - note that word, ANYTHING - about it being ok to disrespect women, or to view them as inferior. If I said that, I would like you to quote me so that the world can understand why you're saying that - although it's hard to quote things that are made up. All people should be respected, because they are people, like you said. See how I am using something that you *actually said*? It helps in intelligent arguments. People SHOULD be respected because they are people, regardless of sex, race, sexuality, skin color, favorite pizza topping, etc. HOWEVER, and this is the point I was trying to make before you started twisting words that weren't there to begin with, that is not how society works. In the real world, in life, people are treated the way they present themselves. If you walk into a job interview with twenty piercings, sagging

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sorry. I just consider calling women sex objects to be a form of disrespecting women. You also sort of implied that women should not have sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I didn't call any woman a sex object. I said that women at times portray themselves to be sex objects. There is a difference, and it's obvious you can't understand that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

jeans, and are texting your friend the entire time, chances are you will not get the job. Why? Because relations, be it with your boss or your friend or the person walking down the hallway, are based on other people's impressions of the way you present yourself. If you present yourself as a punk that couldn't care less about holding a job or respecting authority, you will, in most cases, be treated as such. You could be a great person, with a great personality and credibility, but if you do not show people that that is what you are, then it really doesn't matter how great of a person you are, because you will not be viewed as such. That's just how society works. People judge people based on what they know or observe of them. You do it, I do it, everyone does it. It's part of human nature. Now, when a girl walks around with her boobs popping out of the top of her shirt, and half her ass hanging out of her skirt/shorts, things work in generally the same way as they

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not socially acceptable to dress wear a banana costume to work. That has nothing to do with sex or sexism or the topic at hand. The point is is that women should not be judged by their sexuality. Judging someone for wearing "slutty" clothing is judging a person on their sexuality; it's not really about their clothing. While wearing a banana costume will make people think you are stupid, nobody is going to think you are immoral or evil. That is the main difference between dressing in a non-conventional way and dressing in a "slutty" way. Dressing in a strange or ugly way is just considered strange, while dressing like a "slut" is considered to be a crime or something by some people. There is a big difference between thinking a business person should dress in business attire and thinking women who express their sexuality by showing their bodies are worthless or inferior. Do you understand the difference?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You missed the entire point of my reply. Like, entirely. Let's try a little reading comprehension here. "The point is is that women should not be judged by their sexuality." Should not. SHOULD not. What I was saying, throughout that entire five 'page' reply, is that in a perfect world, women would not be judged based on how they dress, act, talk, etc. They SHOULD not be judged by that. But they WILL be judged by that, just like anyone else will be judged by that, because that is how the world works. It is human nature to view a person differently based on things such as attire, lifestyle, speech, etc. Again, examine the word SHOULD. That is the key here. SHOULD implies that in a perfect world, everyone would do this. But reality shows us that it is not a perfect world, and often things that we SHOULD do, we don't.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

do in any other aspect of society; people judge based on their impression of how she has presented herself. Think of the whores on the street corners of downtown Dallas and New York City (And I use the word 'whore' not as a degrading term, but as the literal definition - one who sells their body for money). This is the appearance that this girl has projected of herself - the typical uniform of a whore. This does not mean she IS a whore, to clarify. But this is the image she has put forth to be processed in the minds of whoever happens to see her. Now, this girl could be a wonderful person. The way she chose to dress that day has no implication whatsoever about her sexual activities or the pureness of her mind. And, in a perfect world, everyone would abide by that little proverb we were all taught as children - it's what's on the inside that matters, not the outside. BUT, sadly, we are all stricken with the one thing that makes this world imperfect - human nature.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No matter how nice and nonjudgmental a person may be, it is difficult not to see a girl like that and have thoughts of the stereotypical image that her attire imitates - that of a whore on the street corners of downtown Dallas or New York City. That of the type of women that have fifty different sexually transmitted diseases and spend most of their time having sex while intoxicated with alcohol or drugs because they hate their lives. No matter how much you reject certain morals or standards as truth, it's hard not to pity women who have engaged in that sort of lifestyle. Anyhow. Again, I will reiterate, this does NOT mean that this girl IS that type of woman. I'm simply explaining the process through which most people think, in more detail. So people see this girl dressing like this, and associate her with the appearance of a whore. Right off the bat. Since some people see whores as people who have degraded themselves to the point where they are sex objects, some

by Anonymous 12 years ago

See that's the whole problem here. You think "whores" are bad people. I can see how you can think they are bad because they break the law, but they are not bad because they have sex. I would not treat a sex worker with less respect than I would treat any other another person. I would quite honestly rather be freinds with a sex worker than a person who thinks women are bad people because they have sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Actually, I never said that whores are 'bad people', so again I think you need to try reading what I write instead of concocting assumptions in your head in order to make yourself sound better. My statement on the morality of whores is that in general, society frowns upon them. Women that sell themselves for money are generally not seen in a good light. This doesn't make them bad people, it makes them people with bad morals, in the general perspective of society. Hence why girls that imitate them are often viewed accordingly.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

people will begin to view her as a sex object, regardless of how great a person she is, regardless of her sexual agenda or lack thereof, regardless of whether she consciously desires to be viewed in that manner or not. Simply stated, some people will view her as a sex object because of the way she has presented herself. Is it ok to see a woman this way? No. She should be judged for her character, not for her appearance. But the inevitable truth is that people judge people based on the image they put forth. A shy, self-conscious person can be viewed as a confident person if they portray themself that way. A smart, intelligent person can be viewed as a dumb, dull person if they portray themself that way. People don't always take the time to get to know a person beyond their physical judgment, but in reality, they really shouldn't have to in order to make a fair and/or accurate judgment. People should dress, act, talk, and otherwise portray themselves in the way that

by Anonymous 12 years ago

TL; DR. IT IS NEVER EVER OKAY TO JUDGE WOMEN AS SEX OBJECTS. Yes I know it happens. Lot's of people also view black people as animals just as they view women as worthless sex objects. That doesn't mean it's okay or justified. Women shouldn't have to change the way they act to appease some stupid sexist jerks who think they are "slutty" or dirty or immoral in any way.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If you'll actually read the response that I just wrote, you'll observe that several times I stated that it was not right or ok to view or see a woman as a sex object. Again, reading comprehension. It increases the intelligence of your responses if you actually use that skill.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

they want to be seen, instead of relying on the possibility of a person getting to know them to make an accurate judgment. Once more, I will reiterate that in all technicality, it is not right to judge a woman based on how she dresses, nor is it ever ok to see a woman (or any other human being) as an object of any kind. But in the basis of human nature and the reality of society, people associate images with familiar images and make judgments. I do it all the time, you do it all the time - just not with women, most likely, because of your beliefs about women; but you do it, whether you realize it or not - and so does everyone else. It can't be avoided.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not about judging people on their appearance. It's about judging people on their sexuality. Some people use appearance to judge someone on their sexuality. Let me try to explain. When you see somebody wearing say, a tight skirt and a low v-neck you think: 1. That person is wearing exposing clothing, they are likely to be sexually active. That's an innocent observation like thinking that man is wearing overalls and a cowboy hat, I bet he's a farmer. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's just a logical chain of thought. I have no problem with that at all!! The problem is that people sometimes think statement 2: 2. Since that person is sexually active, she is probably an immoral, worthless, unchristian, stupid slut-whore who I should never be freinds with. Statement 2 is not okay. Looking down upon someone for wearing revealing clothing is just as stupid as looking down on someone for dressing like a farmer. Farmers, sexual active women,

by Anonymous 12 years ago

and sexually active female farmers are no more or less immoral than nonsexually active, nonfarmers (I don't really think that is a word). When people condemn women for wearing "slutty" clothing, they aren't really condemning the clothing, they are condemning the "sluttiness". I don't believe that having an active sex life is bad at all so why is dressing in a way that portrays your active sex life bad? After all, there is nothing wrong with being a farmer, so it's okay for people to dress as farmers. TL;DR: Having an active sex life is bad, so why is dressing in a way that portrays your active sex life bad?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A woman's sex life has nothing to do with her character, and I believe I just spent a good chunk of time typing up a response to you that stated, in several areas, that a woman should be judged by the content of her character, not her attire, lifestyle, or speech. On a different note, who are you to say that people who condemn an active sex life are wrong or bad? It's not ok to condemn a whore as a person, no, but who are you to say that their view is wrong? That's just as close-minded and judgmental as any view that says that an active sex life is perfectly fine.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And by the way, it's pretty clear that you're downvoting all of my comments and upvoting all of yours to make your argument more convincing; you can stop that now.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm upvoting her comments because I agree with them. I downvoted like one of yours too because I disagreed with it. So don't go jumping to conclusions.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

There are two votes on most of the posts. And she's done this before, so I think it's reasonable for me to jump to that conclusion.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Everyone says rape is about power and control. Some of it is, but some of it is not. I was a victim of the crude scenario, and let me tell you, the last thing on his mind was power and control. That was never his intentions. Definitely not.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This led me to an interesting thought: I agree rapists/molesters are not fit for regular society. So do we build a colony on an island of just them? And a great thought experiment is how would their sex go?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well, depending on the situation, rehabilitation should be considered, if the person wants to change - ie, if they're a serial rapist or paedophile, put them on the island, but if, for example, they go to their friend or councillor or priest or something, and say that they're been having urges to rape, or having sexual thoughts towards children, and they honestly want to change, there should be a rehabilitation process. IDK, I'm thinking too much about this.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You are a little, but at least you're thinking about being helpful. I agree, if someone wants to change they should be given the chance. But if they're a repeat offender, it's harder for them to change and that should be taken into consideration while they're going through rehab.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Rapist Island, sounds like my kind of amusement park.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Be sure to keep your pepper spray handy!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And it's not just the ones who wear skimpy outfits that are raped.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What about the men who are raped? It happens people. But of course things like rape are only ever on the news if it involves a pretty white woman who just happened to wear mini skirts and itty bitty tops.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Men are raped - but I think somewhere around 90% of all rape is male-on-female. But you are correct, female-on-male and same-sex rape can and does occur.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think a lot of rapes of men go unreported however. If a boy is raped by a woman, he might feel as if he was weak. If he is raped by a man, he might worry that people will think he's gay. I think society's ridiculous assumptions and stereotypes make is so men are even more uncomfortable reporting rape than women might be.

by Anonymous 12 years ago