+479 If you think about it, getting complimented on your personality is better than getting complimented on your looks, because personality is actually something you have to develop on your own while looks are just something you can't help. Still though, usually you'd rather get complimented on how you look. amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

For the most part, your personality and general demeanor are decided at birth and change very little throughout your life. So no.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

My personality right now is completely different from my personality a year ago. It's something you develop.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"I am a sample size of one that goes against basic Psychology and cognitive develop, therefore you're incorrect."

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Personality is something that develops. If I had the same personality I was born with, I would throw stuff at you, squeeze my mom's boobs, spit, and run around naked. It's trending, for lack of the better word, that my previous comment here is relatable.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No. Personality is fixed. Learning how to behave properly in a social situation is general maturation, not a changing personality. Look at separated twkn studies.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's fixed to a degree, I'll give you that, but it develops. You can have anger issues and change that. You can change how you handle situations. You can become more confident and enthusiastic.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"For the most part, your personality and general demeanor are decided at birth and change very little throughout your life."

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Unless you put in the SLIGHTEST effort to not being a prick. h

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Lol biological determination. Sorry Danny boy, Imma have to vote you down.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Look up psychology studies about seperated twins and personality. I state fact, Si.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No you don't. A baby may be born with some qualities, but saying that completely ignores how society influences the individual, plus any choices the person may make.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's why I said "for the most part." Obviously nurture plays a part, but nature is the dominant influence on personality.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Disagree. Nurture is primary influence; nature is secondary. Personality is not an absolute, and can be moulded. And, while not the be all and end all of personality, it has a lot do with relationships to others and interactions with others - something an infant has yet to be imprinted with. And it's shite, the idea that a people with say, a negative and selfish personality was just born that way, rather than a) subconciously socialised into a direction and b) always having the ability to conciously move oneself into a direction ("choice") and then c) having an inborn inclination to be a certain way, and remain that way regardless of environment and individual growth, maturity and experiences.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If twins have so much in common, why aren't you dead?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You can change your looks. I mean if you're fat, you can become thin, and you can clear your skin, get a new haircut, whiten your teeth, tone your face, etc.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I was with you up until that last sentence.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'd rather be complimented on my personality.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

TROLL IN THE DUNGEON!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If I had to venture a guess, I'd say that was due to the evolutionary standpoint of the sex drive. People generally don't want to fuck personalities. LOOKS on the other hand...... Either that or our culture's messed up obsession with youth and one arbitrary definition of beauty. One or the other.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Personality isn't really something you develope. People's main character traits that make them them carry with them from child hood through adult hood.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I rarely get complimented on my personality, so that would actually be nice.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If you've had a compliment or two about your personality, you think, l "yay I'm a good person/ perceived as the type of person I want to be" and continue on. With looks, which change from day to day with outfits and such, it's more like "okay I did a good job, but I have to keep working at this". I suppose you could see it the other way if you often get conpliments of one more than the other though.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I see what you mean. I guess what I'm getting at is that most people seem relatively confident about their personality, but not necessarily with their looks, so its more of a self esteem boost.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Right! Which is why people usually want the looks compliment even though the personality one means more.

by Anonymous 12 years ago