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Looks do matter, no matter how great their personality it's not like you're gonna want to be seen dating an ugly person, amirite?

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actually no. that's a fucking mean thing to say. If I really clicked with someone, and loved their personality, I would date them. who cares what anyone else thinks?

@409inyourcoffeemaker actually no. that's a fucking mean thing to say. If I really clicked with someone, and loved their personality, I...

yeah i know. we only go for looks because subconsciously we think good looking=good health, and we want our children to be healthy.

@IWANTURPEANUTS yeah i know. we only go for looks because subconsciously we think good looking=good health, and we want our...

What the fuck is this shit?
Attraction to appearance has nothing to do with health most of the time (well, for me, anyways). I've seen quite a lot of insanely hot pale and chubby guys in my time. Oh, god, what I would do to them...

Also, not every woman and man (especially the gays like myself) want a biological child. I don't think you quite understand what appearance means to humans.

Also, SYMMETRY.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@AdonisBatheus What the fuck is this shit? Attraction to appearance has nothing to do with health most of the time (well, for me...

yes i do, i have studied about this. I have even read articles about it, it is out human subconscious to pro create and we think that by our mate having symmetry or good looks we relate it to their health and we want to have healthy children.

@IWANTURPEANUTS yes i do, i have studied about this. I have even read articles about it, it is out human subconscious to pro create...

Healthy is good. And generally, people who are more attractive are healthy. So why is this a bad thing?

Also, this isn't just related to people. Humans like symmetry in general.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@AdonisBatheus Healthy is good. And generally, people who are more attractive are healthy. So why is this a bad thing? Also, this...

omg i am saying that we subconsciously relate symmetry to healthy. i never said there was anything wrong with healthy i am saying that it is just nature. what do you not get?

@IWANTURPEANUTS omg i am saying that we subconsciously relate symmetry to healthy. i never said there was anything wrong with...

Well, if it's natural, then why do you disagree? Looks will matter to you. It's super-glued into your brain, isn't it?

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@AdonisBatheus Well, if it's natural, then why do you disagree? Looks will matter to you. It's super-glued into your brain, isn't it?

I said that i do not base my relationships solely on looks, it is shallow and just because someone is good looking it does not necessarily mean that they are healthy. We have choices, we don't always have to listen to our nature.

@IWANTURPEANUTS I said that i do not base my relationships solely on looks, it is shallow and just because someone is good looking...

... I sure do wish I could say the same thing about my homosexuality, that it was a choice and don't have to listen to nature...

Qurl, it's nature. You have to listen to it. You're a part of it. And it's not shallow at all, really! I can't date an ugly motherfucker like the Hunchback of Notre Dame. It's just... Ugh. But I can't date a really hot asshole like the majority of guys in my school. Sure, maybe I'll whore around a bit with them, but relationships? Hell naw.

They gotta have a decent appearance (not PERFECT, god... Though that would be nice...) and a great personality. That's just how it is.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@IWANTURPEANUTS uhm no you do not have to listen to nature, we are born with free will.

I have the free will to magically turn heterosexual, then?

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@IWANTURPEANUTS possibly.

and it is not magic, free will= your choice.

@IWANTURPEANUTS possibly.

If you really think so, you're ignorant.

We can't control everything about ourselves, and to those who think they can are probably indoctrinated with this belief. We don't have that strong of a free will, sadly.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@AdonisBatheus If you really think so, you're ignorant. We can't control everything about ourselves, and to those who think they...

i never said we can control everything about ourselves, i said we have free will and often times even our society takes control of our choices. I am pretty sure you learn self-control at a young age, if you didn't, that's pretty sad. You might not have that of a strong will, but that's your problem.

@IWANTURPEANUTS i never said we can control everything about ourselves, i said we have free will and often times even our society...

Nobody learns self-control that well. And it's not "sad" if they couldn't or were unable to. It's actually pretty offensive to think that just because they didn't learn what you did that it's pitiful.

We are naturally attracted to appearance like how people are naturally attracted to the opposite or same sex. Anything dealing with attraction can't be controlled.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@409inyourcoffeemaker actually no. that's a fucking mean thing to say. If I really clicked with someone, and loved their personality, I...

Yeah, but what catches your eye about the person in the first place... their looks. Well, most of the time.

@409inyourcoffeemaker actually no. that's a fucking mean thing to say. If I really clicked with someone, and loved their personality, I...

Ohhh, it was "mean" to say?? Well aren't you a prude bitch? Honesty isn't rude. Some people DO think that you're ugly, some people DO think that looks matter, too. Goodness, let's hope people don't form opinions against your own...

No matter what you say, you will ALWAYS care about appearance. Stop trying to seem like a perfect little angel.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are -1Reply
@AdonisBatheus Ohhh, it was "mean" to say?? Well aren't you a prude bitch? Honesty isn't rude. Some people DO think that you're...

Alright hey, I was stating my opinion. And I don't really see how saying what I said makes me a bitch. I think it's rude. There was no reason for you to reply to me. I didn't comment to start some debate. You don't agree? Good for you. I'm sorry, but I don't think It's fair to tell me that I care about appearance. Do I know you? No. You don't know anything about me. I was being completely honest in my comment. I DON'T care about looks. That doesn't make me a "prefect little angel". I have an opinion, deal with it instead of being rude and making assumptions about me.

@409inyourcoffeemaker Alright hey, I was stating my opinion. And I don't really see how saying what I said makes me a bitch. I think...

here is an assumption for you, i am guessing you aren't super attractive or if you are, you lack self-confidence. looks matter. get over it.

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@here is an assumption for you, i am guessing you aren't super attractive or if you are, you lack self-confidence...

It's not that I'm unattractive, or lack self-confidence, It's that I just don't believe that looks matter. That's just my opinion. YOU need to get over the fact that not everyone thinks the same thing as you, and drop it.

@So, you are saying you would date this guy if he had an amazing...

I knew someone would say something like that. anyway, probably. To me, it's just the personality that matters. why are you giving me examples? I already said looks don't matter to me. Is that so fucking hard for people to understand?

Well that's a bitchy thing to say...

Anonymous +15Reply

I think looks matter, to an extent. You have to be attracted to your partner's looks in some way. People come as a package, and you have to like their looks as well as their personality. Some people have different tastes.
Besides, if you're with someone because you ONLY like their personality, and you're not physically attracted to them, that will cause problems later on in the relationship.

Stepharoos avatar Stepharoo Yeah You Are +14Reply

In all honesty idgaf about looks if you're sweet, can make me smile, and give me that warm feeling in my heart, I could love you.

Anonymous +12Reply

If that's true, it explains why nobody wants to date you.

Anonymous +12Reply

Its actually better if your partner isnt the best looking person, cos then at least you know all the girls/guys won't be all over them.

Sycamores avatar Sycamore No Way +10Reply

You're obviously saying this because you're gorgeous and a complete bitch, stop trying to compensate for your lack of intelligence and decency.

Anonymous +10Reply
@How do you know the OP isn't smart...?

It's merely an assumption, you know how people on here say that if you are talking about loving someone for their hearts you are ugly, I'm using the inverse of that.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Looks do matter but not in that way, who cares what others think? But if you aren't physically attracted in the least to your parenter I don't see how it could work, really.

I wouldn't date the hunchback of Notre Dame.

JennaGees avatar JennaGee Yeah You Are +2Reply
@JennaGee I wouldn't date the hunchback of Notre Dame.

I would, if he was a nice person and I really like him FOR HIS PERSONALITY!

Anonymous +1Reply
@I would, if he was a nice person and I really like him FOR HIS PERSONALITY!

(JennaGee is wrong): Everyone says all they care about is personality, but most all of those who say so truly wouldn't.

JennaGees avatar JennaGee Yeah You Are +4Reply
@Most does not equal all.

(JennaGee is wrong): That's besides the point. The point being though most people say it's personality that truly attracts them to someone, most do not act upon it.

JennaGees avatar JennaGee Yeah You Are 0Reply
@JennaGee (JennaGee is wrong): That's besides the point. The point being though most people say it's personality that truly...

That's not what the post says. The post says "you", as in everyone who reads the post. And the point of my comment was to say that I, unlike you, do not care about looks.

Anonymous 0Reply
@That's not what the post says. The post says "you", as in everyone who reads the post. And the point of my...

(JennaGee is wrong): I wasn't talking about the post, I was talking about my comment. Nice pseudonym, by the way.

JennaGees avatar JennaGee Yeah You Are +1Reply
@JennaGee (JennaGee is wrong): I wasn't talking about the post, I was talking about my comment. Nice pseudonym, by the way.

Thanks. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I don't care about looks, that is the point of what I said. Sorry I got off track.

Anonymous 0Reply
@That's not what the post says. The post says "you", as in everyone who reads the post. And the point of my...

(JennaGee is wrong): Oh, fuck off. You're not an angel or "deep" because you don't care about looks.
It means you don't care about looks. You make it seem like you're the good of the world and everyone who cares about appearance is evil.

No, you would NOT date the Hunchback of Notre Dame. Wanna know why? Because, unless you're blind (where you HAVE to care about personality then), you care. Am I telling you what you think? Yes, yes I am. I can also say you're going to be offended that I'm telling you what you think, and that you're probably going to comeback at me with something I "wouldn't expect" to make yourself seem like you're "different".

Who are you trying to convince here, JenneGee? You, or us?

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are +1Reply
@AdonisBatheus (JennaGee is wrong): Oh, fuck off. You're not an angel or "deep" because you don't care about looks. It means you...

I'm not sure what you're trying to say... When did I say I was "deep" or "an angel"? And, just because you're shallow doesn't make everyone shallow. Don't be a bigot. You don't know me, or what I am like. The last sentence of your second paragraph makes no sense at all. Learn how to use quotation marks. I'm not really trying to convince anyone of anything, just say that I don't care about looks, and I WOULD date the hunchback, or any other person that people perceive as ugly.

Anonymous +1Reply
@I'm not sure what you're trying to say... When did I say I was "deep" or "an angel"? And, just because you're...

(JennaGee is wrong): Oh, you didn't. But I can read it in your posts.

Shallow? I'm shallow because I decided to be human? Girl, I can't fucking date a douchebag, no matter how hot he is. Is that shallow? No.

You're just indoctrinated with bullshit. Go off and learn a thing or 2 outside of this whole bullshit movement going on about disconnecting from our natural habits and thoughts which can't be controlled.

I'm not being a bigot. I just hate liars and bullshit.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are +1Reply
@AdonisBatheus (JennaGee is wrong): Oh, you didn't. But I can read it in your posts. Shallow? I'm shallow because I decided to be...

Also, way to go back and YYA your own comments and NW on the people who disagreed with you!

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply
@AdonisBatheus Also, way to go back and YYA your own comments and NW on the people who disagreed with you!

I YYA and NW those posts because I agree and disagree with them, respectively. That's the point. Also, I'm not a girl. (I wouldn't date the Hunchback, exactly, but I was trying to make a point that looks don't matter to me, and I didn't feel like going through a long explanation.) Also, I'm not lying, but I see no way to convince you of that.

Anonymous 0Reply

Why does everyone try so hard to not look shallow..?

Beauty is different to everyone. Someone who you may think is "ugly" is beautiful to somebody else.

Who gives a fuck if other people think they are ugly? Honestly if you have a fantastic personality you aren't ugly. Now if you're supossedly really pretty but a total bitch, that just makes you unattractive. Plus, what is attractive to you may not be attractive to someone else, its not the same for everyone.

what about someone who's really good-looking, but people only see him for his looks and not his nice personality?

cheer4mias avatar cheer4mia Yeah You Are 0Reply

You give them a chance because of their looks, then figure out their personality.

Bexs avatar Bex Yeah You Are 0Reply
@Bex You give them a chance because of their looks, then figure out their personality.

It's the opposite for me. If I find that someone has a good personality, I'll date them. I won't date someone that I don't know at all.

@SEXY_BEAST It's the opposite for me. If I find that someone has a good personality, I'll date them. I won't date someone...

Something has to attract you to find out if they have a good personality. Looks are like a sort of ice-breaker to a relationship. I'm not suggesting dating without getting to know someone. I'm just saying that appearance matters.

Bexs avatar Bex Yeah You Are 0Reply
@Bex Something has to attract you to find out if they have a good personality. Looks are like a sort of ice-breaker to a...

Not really. I could have to sit next to someone on the bus, make small talk, and find out that they have a good personality without ever being attracted to them.

@SEXY_BEAST Not really. I could have to sit next to someone on the bus, make small talk, and find out that they have a good...

Talking about relationships here, dating. Not small talk on a bus, because I agree with you on that. But to be in a relationship you have to have some sort of psychical attraction present, its human nature. You can't just go off of personality.

Bexs avatar Bex Yeah You Are 0Reply
@Bex Talking about relationships here, dating. Not small talk on a bus, because I agree with you on that. But to be in a...

Disagreed. I assumed you'd infer that I meant a relationship could stem off that bus incident.

I didn't think there would be that many people who'd agree with this.

I understand that looks are what draws you to a person, but this post is just shallow.
You can't fix how you look, and if you're too good for someone who isn't "attractive" by normal standards, that just makes you a douche.
True ugliness is inside.

holy crap, TailsTurrosaki spent waaay too much time on this post! :D and arguing with people like it's nobody's business. i'm entertained just reading the comments!

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@holy crap, TailsTurrosaki spent waaay too much time on this post! :D and arguing with people like it's nobody's...

I don't like ignorance. I really don't. It's ignorant to say you don't care about appearance at all, it really is.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are 0Reply

it's not so much that I wouldn't want to be seen dating an ugly person, I don't really give a crap what other people think. it's just that i would find it harder to be attracted to them. if I loved their personality i'd probably want to be their friend.

Anonymous 0Reply

People just don't understand.
Yes, it's sorta shallow and bitchy that they "don't want to be seen with someone ugly", but I voted up because I do care about looks.

Does this mean I don't look at personality? No, dipshit. It means I know I'm human and decide to judge appearance. So, yes, I will reject someone if they're disturbingly ugly. Heaven forbid I realize that I'm human and naturally care about appearance!

It's not avoidable. You will always care about appearance, even if you don't admit it because you don't want to look "shallow". Fuck off if you give a damn that Iliving my own personal life, not yours or any involvement in yourscare about appearance. Write a sad blog entry to it to your internet friends and move on.

U MAD?

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are -1Reply
@AdonisBatheus People just don't understand. Yes, it's sorta shallow and bitchy that they "don't want to be seen with someone...

No, Im not mad haha. I understand completely, looks matter to a point because you cant date someone you are not physically attracted to. Although, a good personality is a must have as well.

@Linds No, Im not mad haha. I understand completely, looks matter to a point because you cant date someone you are not...

That's what I'm saying. Personality matters, but you can't date the pizza-faced, obese, greasy-haired, asymmetrically-faced kid. It's just... Unattractive, generally.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are -1Reply
@AdonisBatheus That's what I'm saying. Personality matters, but you can't date the pizza-faced, obese, greasy-haired...

Ha well yes I would think so, but there is someone out there who would think that kid was attractive.

@Linds Ha well yes I would think so, but there is someone out there who would think that kid was attractive.

Of course. Some people go against the norms of attractiveness.
For example, I like hairy, husky men. That's not common, really.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are -1Reply
@AdonisBatheus Of course. Some people go against the norms of attractiveness. For example, I like hairy, husky men. That's not...

not really lol im not big on hairy men, but i also dont really have a certain type of man that i like. I mean i think my boyfriend is super attractive, but if he didnt have the personality that he does i wouldnt be with him.

@AdonisBatheus People just don't understand. Yes, it's sorta shallow and bitchy that they "don't want to be seen with someone...

There's a difference between caring about appearance (because yeah, in all honesty, I do think everyone does because it's not like we can just not notice when people are attractive or not) and actually letting it affect your opinion on a relationship. I think about looks because like you said, I'm a human, it's natural, but at the same time I would still date someone with a great personality that I didn't find attractive. I have before and I will again if I find the right person. If you really love someones personality, their physical appearance stops mattering as much or at all.

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