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It's naive to think that your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend is so special that it's going to last forever when you're just in high school or middle school. High school and middle school dating is good for learning how to have a good relationship and it's good for exploring what you like in a person, but to expect your relationship to last forever at that age...ridiculous. amirite?

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It's not very intelligent to expect to be together forever, but it's equally unhealthy for the relationship if you expect it to fail right from the start. You need to have a happy medium, where you don't just expect the worst, but also don't leave your head in the clouds, you know?

all 5 of my siblings marries their high school sweet heart, and I'm going on to my 2nd year of dating with mine. My family defies this post. :]

It's silly to expect it, but it could happen. I know two kids I went to school with started dating in 6th grade. Now they're juniors in college--and still happily together!

Most relationships eventually fail, period, regardless of the age of the people involved. My parents didn't marry until ages 32 and 34, and they split up within 8 years. Meanwhile, I know at least 2 pairs of couples from my high school who started dating at age 14-16 and are happily married today.

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Teenagers are naive. That's just how life works. I remember thinking that I would someday marry the person I loved in high school.

StickCavemans avatar StickCaveman Yeah You Are +6Reply
@StickCaveman Teenagers are naive. That's just how life works. I remember thinking that I would someday marry the person I loved...

And then you realize that you were never dating, he never liked you, and you should stop idealizing the same person you did since you were eight. The thought makes me really sad.

I think it's rather pointless to date someone if you know - KNOW - that the relationship will not last. That's not a relationship; that's a fling. There's a difference. And being able to deal with a truly broken heart is a skill.
Why would you want to believe that you're not special in love, anyway? Yes, some realism is needed, most definitely (as pointed out somewhere else, you need to WORK to make a relationship work; love does not necessarily see you through all), but if you go in thinking "This will more than likely end someday, just like my other relationships." then it will. Power of suggestion.

My parents have been together for like 20 years and they started dating in high school.

Anonymous +3Reply

Something like 5% of relationships will last to marriage...then half of people who get married eventually divorce. You could make the case that's it's ridiculous to expect any relationship to last.

Anonymous +3Reply

I somewhat agree with this post.
I know that my sister and her boyfriend will get married. My grandma had 5 kids. 2 of them married their high school sweet hearts and are still happily married. 2 married when they were out of school and divorced. My parents married in college and are still together.

Anonymous +2Reply
@I somewhat agree with this post. I know that my sister and her boyfriend will get married. My grandma had 5 kids...

I wouldn't assume that they knew they'd do all that right off the bat, though. To expect something like that to happen is just ridiculous, as it's incredibly rare and unrealistic to think of.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are +1Reply
@AdonisBatheus I wouldn't assume that they knew they'd do all that right off the bat, though. To expect something like that to...

My dad knew he was going to marry my mom when he first met her. Also the happiest couple I know (they've been married 25 years) were sure that they were going to get married in high school. They started dating when she was a sophomore and he was a senior. My family has great examples of high school sweet hearts though. I know it seems naive to think that you are going to marry someone and be with them forever but sometimes it happens.

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@My dad knew he was going to marry my mom when he first met her. Also the happiest couple I know (they've been...

Yes, sometimes. Rather, very rarely.

And it's naive to think you're that special, that you're that lucky to get that kind of relationship. And even then, maybe the relationship's just complete shit anyways but you still marry anyhow. It doesn't prove anything other than you guys get along, or maybe you don't get along and you can't break free from the relationship. Who knows?

Teens have this obsession with a happily ever after story and I think it's just bullshit.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are -2Reply
@AdonisBatheus Yes, sometimes. Rather, very rarely. And it's naive to think you're that special, that you're that lucky to get...

I do agree that it rarely happens. I don't believe it's completely naive though.

I don't think I'm special enough to get that type of relationship. I don't like when people bring up marriage to me. I know all this in love stuff is stupid. You don't fall in love; you choose to love someone.

I'm not going to lie, I used to have my mind set on a happy fairy tale, but recently I've come to the realization that it won't happen. If you want a fairytale read a book.

I'm also against public mushy gushy because I expect all relationships to end, and I know it will be annoying to delete all that. Haha :)

Anonymous +2Reply
@I do agree that it rarely happens. I don't believe it's completely naive though. I don't think I'm special enough...

Maybe not naive to the point where you must have a mental disease in order to think it, but naive enough to know that anyone who thinks that must think they're some sort of special snowflake, or they haven't confronted their childhood yet.

I stopped believing in the fairy tale ending when I was 13 or so. It's a silly belief.

Leave the mushy gush for private situations, not for the public. I don't want to see you wrapping your appendages around your boyfriend or girlfriend like an octopus and sucking face and moaning. Just hold hands and go fuck in the bedroom.

AdonisBatheuss avatar AdonisBatheus Yeah You Are +2Reply
@AdonisBatheus Maybe not naive to the point where you must have a mental disease in order to think it, but naive enough to know...

I laugh when girls think they are so in love and their relationship fails. I know that's messed up, but I think it's funny. They're all like la la la we are so perfect. We are going to get married la la la and then BAM It ends and she is just so heartbroken when everyone KNEW it wasn't going to last. I'm a jerk, I know.
I quit believing it at 15 and then I believed in it again. I shouldn't have. I should have known it wasn't going to work. Ohhhh well :) I will find someone when I'm older and more mature! I know it.

Yeah! I get so irritated with all the mushy gushy. I currently have a crush on a guy who is awful at mushy gushy but it's so cute! He said "You're so cute; I want to suffocate you with a pillow pet."

Anonymous -1Reply
@AdonisBatheus Yes, sometimes. Rather, very rarely. And it's naive to think you're that special, that you're that lucky to get...

It's not that rare my parents have been together for 30 years since high school and my grandparents have been together for over 50 years since high school, also I know a lot of people who married their high school sweetheart

At the current moment, I hope I'll be with my girlfriend as long as possible. But I know that it's a stretch it'll last forever considering college is going to get in the way. All you can really do is work at it and hope for the best.

My sister started dating her boyfriend in 11th grade and 13 years later they're married and have 3 kids. It'd be amazing if every relationship was like theirs but unfortunately, most aren't.

I know people who married their high school sweethearts. It won't happen to everyone and most people suffer a lot of heartbreak along the way before they finally find their happiness but that's no reason to be negative. Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones.

Not at all because it can last forever. What's ridiculous is assuming that all teenagers are the same and all their relationships will fail. (Maybe because yours did.)

Its just a longing for something nice and cute to happen. In the back of your mind, shoves under everything else, is the notion that you KNOW it wont last. But you want to believe that it will, because you love (or at least infatuated) the person. You never want this happiness to end. I wouldn't call it naive, but i can't quite find the word i want to use in this instant.

Its an unpredictable topic to be honest. University was a huge challenge in my life, for all i wanted was to grow up and have kids and get married. Sometimes like me, you get lucky and stick and fight through every obstacle with that one special person, and sometimes it doesnt survive. Theres always a positive to be found however. You always gain abit of life experience :D x

Anonymous +1Reply

I've never understood why anyone would want to marry someone they started dating in high school. At that point, you're still both kids and you have a lot of growing up to do. I think it's much better to keep your mind open to different people as you mature, instead of idealizing what life would be like with that one person forever.

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But I totally agree.

I don't think anyone should expect their relationship to last, but if it does, then good for them.

Adults do it too. My friend and her boyfriend have been together for two months and they're living together.

You gotta work to make it last, but no one seems to get that. They just think love will get them through anything and everything.

I'm 22 and still with my boyfriend from tenth eleventh grade. I'd have agreed with you before because that's how my parents raised me, but now I disprove that theory. Not to mention my sister is 26 and married to the guy she started dating when she was 13.

My brother's best friend started dating a junior when she was a sophomore in high school. They met in marching band. They're 22 and 23 right now and getting married next month.

I KNOW RIGHT!!!!!
Ugh, my idiot friend keeps on thinking that her latest boyfriend is her true love.....

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