now though. i believe it would be kind of cliche to say. but yes i do believe. we are planning on getting married as soon as we get the jobs situation and distance situation fixed. weve already discussed practically everything a normal couple wouldve talked about. and weve never had one single fight/argument.
Reason i say now is cliche or whatever is because if you ask anyone who has a crush they will also say the same. or if you ask any couple in a relationship they will also say the same as well.
things like that are just something that can only be told with time. if it works out then you know you were right. and ive never regretted this relationship yet. regardless of the hardships i know we both are doing everything we can to get past them and therefore we will.
And that's all there really is to a relationship; being so devoted to each other you want to get married and spend your lives together. The happiness that comes with it is great.
True, but only if they are happy with their family. Personally I would never break people up, especially not to start a relationship with someone after that; there's a huge chance they end up leaving you the same way. But what if they will break up, regardless of you, and you grab your chance after they break up/divorce?
well thats your choice. and theirs as well. in that case hope can be good i guess. but its not like youre gonna be stalking their every move to find out if they divorced yet.
Of course not, that'd be weird. If someone would ever divorce I'd wait for them to tell me, if they really are interested and not just saying so. Though even without hope I think being in love is the greatest feeling there is... nothing compares to the butterflies.
hmm.. well to each their own. my butterflies in love come from when we are together and able to hang with each other. knowing i may never have a chance with them hurts me badly. as well as being 2 states away from the one i love :/
I'm sorry to hear that, it must really be hard... can you still see each other at times? If so, how do you do so? Do you drive or fly towards each other? I'm from the Netherlands myself, so I'm not really familiar with long distance relationships, the furthest I could go within the country is a 3 hour drive, but I'm guessing yours would be longer... You use Skype a lot I presume?
I can also understand why being together gives you butterflies in this case. For me it's when he comes in at work and I see him walk towards his desk, or when I hear his voice, see his face, his smile...
yes we use skype almost every second. our longest video chat call being 53 hours. but he has to work 8-10 hours a day. if i did drive it would be a 22 hour drive. luckily i have a buddy whos a pilot so i get discounts on flight tickets. a normally 800$ ticket, for me, is only 98$. weve only been able to meet in person once in 3 yrs. I have finally acquired enough money to be able to see him again in 8 days.
Wow, that is rough! And expensive if it wasn't for your friend... I take it you're still in school? I admire you're able to do this and have done so for three years already. 22 hours is very long...
I envy you, because it sounds like the two of you have a very strong connection and share a deep love. I have yet to experience anything like it with anyone. Sure, I've dated, but I've never felt like someone was the right person for me. I hope you two will have your "happily ever after"
Thank you :) i believe we will get to that point. we are currently both doing everything we can to obtain a job with better pay enough to be able to support a life together.
I'm sure you will :) it just takes patience. observancy and getting to really know the person.
tbh hes my very first boyfriend. Ive never been in love before him. our relationship started because of a dream i had.. weird right?
No, most of my crushes/love interests start with me dreaming about them and me after that realising I like them, so I don't find that weird at all. What did you dream about? And how did that result into it starting?
If he is your first boyfriend, you're really very lucky. Both of you. How did you meet?
literally i had no interest or anything in him. we both play online mmos. before the dream we were just random passerbys in game. we never really spoke.
i have a strong "sense" or what ever you like to call it of sometimes being able to tell the future. so i guess this dream came from there.
In the dream i was my in game character. i was in a town exactly like "The World That Never Was" in kingdom hearts 2. It was raining heavily and i was in my characters combat outfit ready to go out to war to protect something very precious to me, then suddenly i see him. he was as in the rain a distance away wearing his in game characters clothing, face almost completely covered by the robe hood that he always wore in game. and i was walking that way cuz i had to go that way to get to the war. I knew it was a dream so i was just gonna walk past like nothing happened because i didnt know him. i had no real reason to say anything and i wouldnt have known what to say even if i did. but suddenly my steps werent steps. every "step turned into a teleport forward about 20 feet. Rain getting heavier. and as i was about to pass him (had just barely gotten to his side and only needed one more step
to pass), something happened. like just a 3 or 4 quick flashes of bright white light i assumed were caused by lightning and suddenly he was in front of me kissing me. my first kiss was in a dream. and i liked it more than i ever thought i would. at the time i wasnt even looking for love. i had come to the sad misconcepted belief that i would never find anyone who truly loved me for me because people around usually hit on me and didnt treat me like a lady because my looks which i hate to admit are very very beautiful. and i had thought up til that point why would a kiss be good? its so nasty its just two people swapping spit directly lol. yet here i was with the thing i thought the nastiest thing ever being the most electrifying thing id ever felt. around us things were moving in slow motion. and then the kiss ended and i woke up.
I have a really weird conscience. something like that made me actually feel really... umm.. like id violated a boundary since id dreamed about him and in such a way id never dreamed about anyone. so i told him about the dream the next day. for me it was very awkward to tell him something like that. and i dont know why but i just told him.
after i told him.. well i didnt know how i expected him to react... i just figured he had to know. but his first words were... ^'; im sorry. that was very rude of me. you must've slapped me then.
and.. idk. it was something that just clicked for me. i was instantly.. not in love. not in a crush. but very interested. cause... i guess its the last way youd expect anyone to react. we suddenly started to hang out more after that. i got to know him really well. after just 2 months i was in love. i knew it wasnt a crush because i actually knew why i loved him. hed been hurt before by a girl and when i finally confessed my feelings to him he denied them because he kept passing them off as a crush as well. he didnt want to be hurt again and had thought that i was just another one of those girls with hormones and crushes. it hurt a lot for me to be in love with someone who kept passing off my feelings as fake. but after a while he really believed me and finally started to take a chance. he fell in love with me too. we never were official boyfriend n girlfriend until we met for the first time. he said he didnt want to ask me out as his girlfriend til we were in person, more romantic
in person than over some electronic device. it took us 2 years to be able to meet. but finally we did. and he asked me out the first night we met.
andd.. thats how it happened O. o
over the years that id been growing up. i was never seen as a person to guys. just someone very beautiful and cute to get in their pants of which caused a lot of problems and bad run ins for me. this one response was the most weirdest thing id ever heard a guy say.
and as i got to know him better this would be the most politest kindest man id ever meet
I think it's really awesome and I do enjoy reading this, so I loved all comments for me to read this story again sometime. Things like this are why I believe in fate, everything being predetermined... and I can't help but wonder if you met in WoW? That's where I met someone myself once, on the European servers.
When you look at him, either on a picture, skype or in person, do you know he's "the one" or anything liuke that?
tbh id had him added in skype long before just because one time we were in a group call so we could all collaborate without having to type. that was only time. he had chosen not to talk tho and just type.
I honestly didnt even ever let him see what i looked like til i was sure that he loved me back because i didnt want him to decide by my looks whether he "loved" me or not.
But no when i saw him i never knew just by his picture.
I even chose to not let anyone in WoW know I am female, unless I know them very well. The times I did or showed them what I look like, they either didn't believe that it was really me or got a crush on me instantly, usually resulting in them getting mad at me for not liking them back and ending the friendship.
And when you met him in person for the first time?
no changed feelings aside from it felt like my heart was gonna explode from happiness. both of us were extremely happy. but horribly sad the last couple days. it ended up to be... a good trip but bad trip. i felt horrible because i had gotten sick the 3rd day in with strep throat and dehydration. and ended up spending almost the whole trip in bed. 6 days of that getting worse and worse. 5 days of it i spent to recover. and neither of us had any idea it was that bad. i slept a lot and lost my voice for 4 days and felt horrible that we couldnt do much together but. he made it heaven still. whenever i woke up i would always find him sleeping or even awake next to me holding my hand. if he was awake he would sing to me. even missing a day of work to take care of me. (usually his mom and sis were home so she usually did. he and his mom are the main supporters of his family {mother/sis/him}) i got to the point where it was so bad that he almost cried cuz he didnt know what to do. hed never had to enter a hospital in his life so.. well yea at some point we ended up going and finding out it was strep.
the trip was just 2 weeks so.. yea i spent almost all of it sick :/
He sounds so perfect to me :) in sickness and in health they say, a good recipe for marriage! I also think you write really well, do you perhaps pursue a career in it?
XD thanks :) i could yes. i have won school awards for my stories and writing. good skill popped me up 200$ ;). not a lot. but from only school awards thats pretty good i think. ive considered a job in all of these but then again ive won awards for writing/dancing and singing and am currently told i can do no wrong with my massages. ( have been going to school for getting a job in massage therapy). altho i would really like a job in singing that one would be a very iffy job considering it really depends on the audience and is very inconsistent compared to the steady income of being a massage therapist so im doing massage for now. singing i will do as a side job once i get settled in as a massage therapist
A lot of people would love to be you. You seem very friendly, you're beautiful, you appear to be intelligent, you can sing well, dance well, write well, massage well... and you have found the perfect man. I am quite sure you've encountered many hardships as well, but you're probably someone that will get themself together and just go on and be happy anyway.
Singing would be a great career. Personally I'd love to be a night club singer, stand there in a beautiful, long evening gown, jazz band and a piano at hand, purple/blue lighting... dreams off
purple and blue. my top two favorite colors. myri. you rule. :D.
believe me the only me they would want to be is the me of the past few years. before that they would not want to deal with the stuff i had to deal with growing up. and thats just putting it lightly. luls.
I thought so. If you ever want to talk about it, feel free to contact me; I'm sure we've got "great" stories to share. To look at the world the way you seem to do, you've had to have had (haveception) a hard time to get to the point where you are now.
cool :) thanks! feel free to talk to me anytime as well. I have mostly chosen to block out my past, forget most of it and move on though so im pretty satisfied with most of everything in my current life and just keep looking forward to that next day on the horizon
That's in my opinion the best way to deal with it. The past was hard, but it made you (and me) who we are now... and we should be pretty satisfied with who we are!
yes indeed. i learned the hard way living in the past will only cause repetition of the past and past emotions.
One of my many life rules to keep me from giving in to depression/suicide/anger/hatred-
There is nothing in this world that is in anyway even .01% worth your emotion if all they cause you is one of the emotions above.
Change the process line of thought.
And emotions will change accordingly.
haha it is only me that is doing the moving. i will be moving in with him in 8 days and getting a job there to pay off what i owe the school. i actually live in utah. he lives in texas. but something happened with school this year so im gonna be moving in with him for the next couple years til i can pay it off and go back to school again. we have already decided that after i finish school we are gonna be married. hes gonna be finished with school before i am because of the incident :/
the government pulled my fafsa because my stepdad made too much last year. now i cant pay for the schooling and had to drop out. i have to pay 3000 dollars for the time and classes i did go to school for before they let me go back. if this hadnt of happened i would be done with my schooling by this coming May.
But, Alas! my love is going to bed. and so shall i :) it was great talking to you. we sleep on skype video chat together. i will be on sometime over the next week or so. idk. i have to pack up to go so probably wont be on too much for the next week. I hope you have a great night/day whatever time it is for you.
now though. i believe it would be kind of cliche to say. but yes i do believe. we are planning on getting married as soon as we get the jobs situation and distance situation fixed. weve already discussed practically everything a normal couple wouldve talked about. and weve never had one single fight/argument.
Reason i say now is cliche or whatever is because if you ask anyone who has a crush they will also say the same. or if you ask any couple in a relationship they will also say the same as well.
things like that are just something that can only be told with time. if it works out then you know you were right. and ive never regretted this relationship yet. regardless of the hardships i know we both are doing everything we can to get past them and therefore we will.
And that's all there really is to a relationship; being so devoted to each other you want to get married and spend your lives together. The happiness that comes with it is great.
indeed it is very true. being devoted. willing to communicate and work through problems together
if the love is answered yes. if unanswered then its gonna be the worst longing of your life
Somehow I always have hope, even if it's unanswered...
sometimes hope is good. but if theyre already with someone or have made it clear they arent interested hope can be crippling
What if they are with someone but made it clear they are interested, just say they can't because they have a family to provide for?
then your hope is crippling because interested or not they made it clear their current family comes first. at least in my opinion thats what i observe
True, but only if they are happy with their family. Personally I would never break people up, especially not to start a relationship with someone after that; there's a huge chance they end up leaving you the same way. But what if they will break up, regardless of you, and you grab your chance after they break up/divorce?
well thats your choice. and theirs as well. in that case hope can be good i guess. but its not like youre gonna be stalking their every move to find out if they divorced yet.
Of course not, that'd be weird. If someone would ever divorce I'd wait for them to tell me, if they really are interested and not just saying so. Though even without hope I think being in love is the greatest feeling there is... nothing compares to the butterflies.
hmm.. well to each their own. my butterflies in love come from when we are together and able to hang with each other. knowing i may never have a chance with them hurts me badly. as well as being 2 states away from the one i love :/
I'm sorry to hear that, it must really be hard... can you still see each other at times? If so, how do you do so? Do you drive or fly towards each other? I'm from the Netherlands myself, so I'm not really familiar with long distance relationships, the furthest I could go within the country is a 3 hour drive, but I'm guessing yours would be longer... You use Skype a lot I presume?
I can also understand why being together gives you butterflies in this case. For me it's when he comes in at work and I see him walk towards his desk, or when I hear his voice, see his face, his smile...
yes we use skype almost every second. our longest video chat call being 53 hours. but he has to work 8-10 hours a day. if i did drive it would be a 22 hour drive. luckily i have a buddy whos a pilot so i get discounts on flight tickets. a normally 800$ ticket, for me, is only 98$. weve only been able to meet in person once in 3 yrs. I have finally acquired enough money to be able to see him again in 8 days.
Wow, that is rough! And expensive if it wasn't for your friend... I take it you're still in school? I admire you're able to do this and have done so for three years already. 22 hours is very long...
yes i am in college classes. yes im very thankful for my friend. if it werent for him that first trip never would have been able to happen.
I envy you, because it sounds like the two of you have a very strong connection and share a deep love. I have yet to experience anything like it with anyone. Sure, I've dated, but I've never felt like someone was the right person for me. I hope you two will have your "happily ever after"
Thank you :) i believe we will get to that point. we are currently both doing everything we can to obtain a job with better pay enough to be able to support a life together.
I'm sure you will :) it just takes patience. observancy and getting to really know the person.
tbh hes my very first boyfriend. Ive never been in love before him. our relationship started because of a dream i had.. weird right?
No, most of my crushes/love interests start with me dreaming about them and me after that realising I like them, so I don't find that weird at all. What did you dream about? And how did that result into it starting?
If he is your first boyfriend, you're really very lucky. Both of you. How did you meet?
literally i had no interest or anything in him. we both play online mmos. before the dream we were just random passerbys in game. we never really spoke.
i have a strong "sense" or what ever you like to call it of sometimes being able to tell the future. so i guess this dream came from there.
In the dream i was my in game character. i was in a town exactly like "The World That Never Was" in kingdom hearts 2. It was raining heavily and i was in my characters combat outfit ready to go out to war to protect something very precious to me, then suddenly i see him. he was as in the rain a distance away wearing his in game characters clothing, face almost completely covered by the robe hood that he always wore in game. and i was walking that way cuz i had to go that way to get to the war. I knew it was a dream so i was just gonna walk past like nothing happened because i didnt know him. i had no real reason to say anything and i wouldnt have known what to say even if i did. but suddenly my steps werent steps. every "step turned into a teleport forward about 20 feet. Rain getting heavier. and as i was about to pass him (had just barely gotten to his side and only needed one more step
to pass), something happened. like just a 3 or 4 quick flashes of bright white light i assumed were caused by lightning and suddenly he was in front of me kissing me. my first kiss was in a dream. and i liked it more than i ever thought i would. at the time i wasnt even looking for love. i had come to the sad misconcepted belief that i would never find anyone who truly loved me for me because people around usually hit on me and didnt treat me like a lady because my looks which i hate to admit are very very beautiful. and i had thought up til that point why would a kiss be good? its so nasty its just two people swapping spit directly lol. yet here i was with the thing i thought the nastiest thing ever being the most electrifying thing id ever felt. around us things were moving in slow motion. and then the kiss ended and i woke up.
I have a really weird conscience. something like that made me actually feel really... umm.. like id violated a boundary since id dreamed about him and in such a way id never dreamed about anyone. so i told him about the dream the next day. for me it was very awkward to tell him something like that. and i dont know why but i just told him.
after i told him.. well i didnt know how i expected him to react... i just figured he had to know. but his first words were... ^'; im sorry. that was very rude of me. you must've slapped me then.
and.. idk. it was something that just clicked for me. i was instantly.. not in love. not in a crush. but very interested. cause... i guess its the last way youd expect anyone to react. we suddenly started to hang out more after that. i got to know him really well. after just 2 months i was in love. i knew it wasnt a crush because i actually knew why i loved him. hed been hurt before by a girl and when i finally confessed my feelings to him he denied them because he kept passing them off as a crush as well. he didnt want to be hurt again and had thought that i was just another one of those girls with hormones and crushes. it hurt a lot for me to be in love with someone who kept passing off my feelings as fake. but after a while he really believed me and finally started to take a chance. he fell in love with me too. we never were official boyfriend n girlfriend until we met for the first time. he said he didnt want to ask me out as his girlfriend til we were in person, more romantic
in person than over some electronic device. it took us 2 years to be able to meet. but finally we did. and he asked me out the first night we met.
andd.. thats how it happened O. o
over the years that id been growing up. i was never seen as a person to guys. just someone very beautiful and cute to get in their pants of which caused a lot of problems and bad run ins for me. this one response was the most weirdest thing id ever heard a guy say.
and as i got to know him better this would be the most politest kindest man id ever meet
I think it's really awesome and I do enjoy reading this, so I loved all comments for me to read this story again sometime. Things like this are why I believe in fate, everything being predetermined... and I can't help but wonder if you met in WoW? That's where I met someone myself once, on the European servers.
When you look at him, either on a picture, skype or in person, do you know he's "the one" or anything liuke that?
tbh id had him added in skype long before just because one time we were in a group call so we could all collaborate without having to type. that was only time. he had chosen not to talk tho and just type.
I honestly didnt even ever let him see what i looked like til i was sure that he loved me back because i didnt want him to decide by my looks whether he "loved" me or not.
But no when i saw him i never knew just by his picture.
I even chose to not let anyone in WoW know I am female, unless I know them very well. The times I did or showed them what I look like, they either didn't believe that it was really me or got a crush on me instantly, usually resulting in them getting mad at me for not liking them back and ending the friendship.
And when you met him in person for the first time?
no changed feelings aside from it felt like my heart was gonna explode from happiness. both of us were extremely happy. but horribly sad the last couple days. it ended up to be... a good trip but bad trip. i felt horrible because i had gotten sick the 3rd day in with strep throat and dehydration. and ended up spending almost the whole trip in bed. 6 days of that getting worse and worse. 5 days of it i spent to recover. and neither of us had any idea it was that bad. i slept a lot and lost my voice for 4 days and felt horrible that we couldnt do much together but. he made it heaven still. whenever i woke up i would always find him sleeping or even awake next to me holding my hand. if he was awake he would sing to me. even missing a day of work to take care of me. (usually his mom and sis were home so she usually did. he and his mom are the main supporters of his family {mother/sis/him}) i got to the point where it was so bad that he almost cried cuz he didnt know what to do. hed never had to enter a hospital in his life so.. well yea at some point we ended up going and finding out it was strep.
the trip was just 2 weeks so.. yea i spent almost all of it sick :/
He sounds so perfect to me :) in sickness and in health they say, a good recipe for marriage! I also think you write really well, do you perhaps pursue a career in it?
XD thanks :) i could yes. i have won school awards for my stories and writing. good skill popped me up 200$ ;). not a lot. but from only school awards thats pretty good i think. ive considered a job in all of these but then again ive won awards for writing/dancing and singing and am currently told i can do no wrong with my massages. ( have been going to school for getting a job in massage therapy). altho i would really like a job in singing that one would be a very iffy job considering it really depends on the audience and is very inconsistent compared to the steady income of being a massage therapist so im doing massage for now. singing i will do as a side job once i get settled in as a massage therapist
A lot of people would love to be you. You seem very friendly, you're beautiful, you appear to be intelligent, you can sing well, dance well, write well, massage well... and you have found the perfect man. I am quite sure you've encountered many hardships as well, but you're probably someone that will get themself together and just go on and be happy anyway.
Singing would be a great career. Personally I'd love to be a night club singer, stand there in a beautiful, long evening gown, jazz band and a piano at hand, purple/blue lighting... dreams off
purple and blue. my top two favorite colors. myri. you rule. :D.
believe me the only me they would want to be is the me of the past few years. before that they would not want to deal with the stuff i had to deal with growing up. and thats just putting it lightly. luls.
I thought so. If you ever want to talk about it, feel free to contact me; I'm sure we've got "great" stories to share. To look at the world the way you seem to do, you've had to have had (haveception) a hard time to get to the point where you are now.
cool :) thanks! feel free to talk to me anytime as well. I have mostly chosen to block out my past, forget most of it and move on though so im pretty satisfied with most of everything in my current life and just keep looking forward to that next day on the horizon
That's in my opinion the best way to deal with it. The past was hard, but it made you (and me) who we are now... and we should be pretty satisfied with who we are!
yes indeed. i learned the hard way living in the past will only cause repetition of the past and past emotions.
One of my many life rules to keep me from giving in to depression/suicide/anger/hatred-
There is nothing in this world that is in anyway even .01% worth your emotion if all they cause you is one of the emotions above.
Change the process line of thought.
And emotions will change accordingly.
I love the way your brain works...
XD
It's a shame we're not from the same country! I would've loved to get together for lunch/anything sometime and talk.
oh indeed! i would love a buddy to hang with
! Why cant we be neighbors D:
If you two are moving anyway... why not Holland? (I read this in Zoidberg's voice)
haha it is only me that is doing the moving. i will be moving in with him in 8 days and getting a job there to pay off what i owe the school. i actually live in utah. he lives in texas. but something happened with school this year so im gonna be moving in with him for the next couple years til i can pay it off and go back to school again. we have already decided that after i finish school we are gonna be married. hes gonna be finished with school before i am because of the incident :/
the government pulled my fafsa because my stepdad made too much last year. now i cant pay for the schooling and had to drop out. i have to pay 3000 dollars for the time and classes i did go to school for before they let me go back. if this hadnt of happened i would be done with my schooling by this coming May.
But, Alas! my love is going to bed. and so shall i :) it was great talking to you. we sleep on skype video chat together. i will be on sometime over the next week or so. idk. i have to pack up to go so probably wont be on too much for the next week. I hope you have a great night/day whatever time it is for you.
Sleep well! My day started just a few hours ago. I hope to talk more to you soon!