Personally I would feel better that they went on their own terms, I'd be really upset either way, but with suicide at least they got what they wanted.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'd be bothered that they were miserable and sad with their lives to that degree and I didn't notice. I'd feel I should have helped in some way so that they wouldn't reach the decision to end their lives.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I agree... Suicide is a really painful thing to go through because when someone ODs or anything it really hurts the entire family knowing that they didn't help them in time. When my cousin commited suicide it really REALLY hurt me. I totally understand what OP is saying. :/

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No, suicide should make people //less// sad than an accident. With it, a person just went to the exit and walked out. By accident, it's like they were walking through a building and then randomly were thrown out of a window.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've seen that analogy before, and killing yourself cannot be compared to walking out of a building.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, it can.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No, suicide is much more than that. You're so worried about people overthinking suicide that you're completely underthinking it. Also, I find it weird that your vote agrees with the post but your comment doesn't.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Whoops, thanks for pointing that out. And no, you're overthinking it, so it SEEMS like I'm underthinking it. Because we're on the complete opposite ends of the scale.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

What if you're underthinking it, so it seems like I'm overthinking it? And if you had close connections with someone for a long time (possibly since birth) and they decide to commit suicide, you cannot say you would be totally fine with it and it's no big deal. If you can, you're lacking basic human emotions.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Nooo you don't get it. It's not that. It's like.. If you and a few friends were playing a board game or something as kids, and all of a sudden one of the kids' mum came and took her kid away just randomly. You would all be upset and he'd be upset and it would be unfair and sad. But, what if another friend had absolutely hated the game and had a miserable time. You would all be sitting playing and he'd be like (cry2) "Okay I guess it's my turn..." You would want him to quit, right? Him quitting would be sad for you all too since he's a pretty cool kid and he's fun, but.. at least he'd be happier, right? It's not like he's murdering you all and then throwing you into a volcano, he's just quitting the game. It's better that way.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I can agree with that kind of situation, but **only** that kind of situation. Again, you compared suicide to a much simpler and less important event. The comparison works in some ways, but when you think about actual suicide in real life, you remember how drastic it really is. The person isn't quitting a game, he's quitting the only life on earth he'll ever get. And the other people aren't players, they're loved ones who will miss him incredibly.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah I know... It sucks how drastic it is. I wish it were just leaving a game.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Don't we all.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Not for the same reasons, that's for sure.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

What do you mean?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't see how you can use "that's not the same" as an argument without saying why. Yes, quitting a board game is different to dying, but quitting something you don't enjoy and being forcefully removed from something you do enjoy are the significant points of the analogy, which are definitely comparable.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think I'd be just as sad either way, but I would be more... haunted by the suicide than an accident. With a suicide, people can't help but blame themselves a little bit, even when it had nothing to do with them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I knew a guy who comitted suicide... My friend and I agree that the saddest part was that he felt like it it was the only choice, not that he passed away (we believe in the afterlife). It's hard to imagine the despair that makes a person decide to stab himself in the chest.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think that the way the person commits suicide should be taken into account as well; hanging yourself is drastic and would cause distress among loved ones, but not as much as shooting yourself in the face in the kitchen in front of your parents.

by Anonymous 11 years ago