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by Anonymous 11 years ago

oh thanks! i'll ask a mod to fix it for me :P

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah, but you knew this and promised that you'd stay together no matter what.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Shouldn't you know wether your gay or not before you get married..?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

How the hell can you lie about your sexuality to your spouse?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Your sexuality doesn't always stay the same. You could be attracted to your partner's gender when you get married, but a few years later you might not be.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Damn, I'd be pretty shaken if that happened to me.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

This post kinda contradicts itself.. You're saying it's fine to divorce but people shouldn't commit in a ceremony.. Idk maybe it's just me..

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Maybe she's saying to get rid of the "till death do us part" part in the ceremony because you can never be sure.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You CAN'T promise someone you will stay with them forever, but that's the point of getting married. It's affirming your love and reassuring each other that you will always remain together, no matter what the future holds. If you truly were unsure about the future and didn't feel as though you could make such a strong commitment as to staying with the other for the rest of your life, that would be the reason you wouldn't get married. So the second part of your post explains not what is wrong with marriage, but why two people, who aren't completely 100% positive that they are willing to be bound by marriage, shouldn't get married.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think there are certain thigs that make divorce okay- like if someone cheats on their spouse or is abusive- but I don't think falling out of love is a good reason to get divorced. Like other commenters have said, marriage is promising to love and take care of your spouse, 'til death do you part. If you can't make that promise, you shouldn't get married.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

what's the point of staying in a relationship without love? so you can be a good christian? fuck that, YOLO

by Anonymous 11 years ago

In my opinion, there's no such thing as a "good Christian." I think all Christians - all people, actually - are equal. But anyway, religion has nothing to do with it. Marriage is a life-long contract you agree to with your partner. It's serious business, and I just don't believe it's a vow that should be broken. If you think falling out of love and getting a divorce is possible, why bother getting married?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Society is designed to make life easier for married couples: http://money.msn.com/family-money/6-financial-benefits-of-marriage-investopedia.aspx

by Anonymous 11 years ago

" marriage is promising to love and take care of your spouse, 'til death do you part. If you can't make that promise, you shouldn't get married." You can make that promise, that doesn't mean you should have to keep it because you thought differently in the past. " marriage is promising to love and take care of your spouse, 'til death do you part." and if you don't love them anymore, then you've already broken the promise and the entire point of being married so why is that not a good reason to stop being married? I agree and disagree with the post. I do think it's stupid to make a life long commitment to anything, but it's not wrong. Sometimes, they stay together. I heard that about %50 of couples get divorced. That's actually pretty good odds if you think about it. 1 in 2 people actually stay married.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

The 50% statistic is actually not necessarily correct. It's hard to determine the exact divorce rate because, in America for example, many states don't collect marital records. Anyways, as for my rebuttal, I'd like to quote my all-time favorite book: “Some people don't understand the promises they're making when they make them," I said. "Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That's what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway.”

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If you divorce because you don't love them anymore, you're not going to keep a promise because you love them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I realize that. My first post was ill-worded. If you're not in love, of course you can't keep a promise to stay in love. My overall point is that if you think falling out of love is even a possibility, getting married isn't a good idea. Marriage is a big deal.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's always a possibility, so marriage shouldn't happen period? I didn't say if you're not in love you can't keep a promise to stay in love. If you love them at the time you think you can promise it, but if you don't love them //anymore// then you're not going to keep a promise out of love. Marriage is only a big deal if you feel it is, other wise it's really not.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

"I promise to love, honor, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live... or until I get bored or until you get fat. Whichever one comes first."

by Anonymous 11 years ago