This is only sort of related, but my sister and I decided that if she ever gets pregnant I would adopt her children and be their mother (she doesn't want children and I won't be able to get pregnant). Since we're twins they would never know I wasn't their real mother.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

wow thats actually not cool at all but alright

by Anonymous 11 years ago

...why not? It sounds like they've got the perfect deal right there.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@pikabeau: I think that's actually really awesome! It's nice of your sister to do something like that(someday).

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Why can't you have a child?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well, according to her profile, she has a girlfriend. xD

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Could be medical reasons as well.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

And you're going to just lie to your kids because they won't be able to know? And I think it would be fairly obvious after a while since you're a lesbian...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I doubt she's going to lie to her children. But her children would look like her, even though they aren't hers. And I think that's what she means.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But what about when she says, "they would never know I wasn't their real mother." What else could that imply?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@Emperorerror: I overlooked that part. Please disregard my previous comment.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I understand, and it's fine.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've never tried getting pregnant, but as far as I know, I'm perfectly fertile. My girlfriend, on the other hand, will most likely not be able to carry a baby to term. And yes, I would lie to my children and let them think I am their mother. When they ask who their father is I will just do what most lesbian couples do and say that their father is a sperm donor. Whether or not it's true doesn't matter.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You're going to be a GREAT parent.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Guys, guys, guys. You're getting all worked up over nothing. The biggest issue here is WHY IS EVERYONE ON THIS WEBSITE NAMED SHELBY.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm named Hayden

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've never met so many Shelby's until I came here. In real life I've only ever met 3.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well your kids will definitely need their birth certificates later in life, and they'll see there that you lied. Do you think it's a reasonable choice to deny to them the truth of who their parents are? Wouldn't you feel cheated and angry if your parents did that to you?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No. And I can say that with full honesty. I'm not going to go into to it, because I'm sure no one gives a shit, but I've been in a similar situation. It didn't really phase me. //Hey kids, aunt Jessica is your biological mother. But me and your mother raised you, so we're your// real// parents.// It's honestly not that complicated.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Ah, so her name is Jessica?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well if none of my other arguments have swayed you, then what's the point of not telling them? You gain nothing by doing so. If you don't think it's important, then you should tell your kids because perhaps they do, and even if they don't, there's no loss. It would simply be an established fact in your household.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If I was adopted, I'd want to know, even if my "mom"'s twin sister is my real mom.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Or maybe I just want it to be a non-issue? Not mentioning it at all and just living life normally would be more than fine with me. Of course my children will know their adopted (by one of us anyway). They'll have lesbian parents. How else could they have gotten here? I know scientists are working on a way to combine two eggs and make a baby, but that's still in it's experimental stages.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I hope for your child's sake that you end up in a car accident. That way he/she will only have one parent.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So you think I will be a bad parent because of something that I personally believe is a non-issue? And you think I should die because of it? Alright.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@Anon: Yeah, every child wants the person mothering them to die. Sounds like quite the perfect life.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Harlot.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well they would clearly know that they were adopted, but if their genetic parents are someone they know, then you should tell them who they are.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But technically, I would be their genetic parent as well as their adopted parent. So why should it matter? My sister doesn't want kids. She hates kids. Isn't it better for my kids to think they were wanted?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@pikabeau: I agree. Genetically, they'll be your children. They'll look like you, and have your genes. You should tell them at one point in their childhood, but not tell them that their aunt didn't want them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's your decision.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If I end up telling them that their aunt is their mother but not give a reason why, my children will think of their own crazy reasons. I would rather them believe a lie than them to hate their aunt for "abandoning" them. I know it's my decision. And I think for my particular situation, its the right one.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Okay, you'd "technically" be their genetic parent, but it's your sister's genes, not yours, despite the fact that you have the same genes. Just because there are two equivalent things doesn't mean something made by one is made by the other. Just because you and your sister are genetically identical doesn't mean you're the same person. And if you just say you wanted kids and your sister didn't, they're not going to grow up hating your aunt necessarily, that's very unlikely. They'd grow up with that as a simple fact that exists in their family, and once they were older it would make sense as well. And your kids //would// be wanted. By //you//.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I still don't see what all the fuss is about. They're //my// future children. It's //my// decision to make. And you know what? //I// think it's the right decision for //my// situation. My decisions affect no one but me and my family, and as long as these decisions don't impact my family in a negative way, I don't see why anyone should give a fuck. You go and have start your own family and do whatever you want to do. I won't care what you do. You know why? Because it's //your// life and //your// children and I know my opinion on the issue doesn't matter. I won't even bother telling you what I think about your future parenting style because it is none of my business.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Sure, your children are part of your life, and you're their parent, but your children aren't just your life, they have their own, too.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I feel horrible for future generations, since this issue will definitely become more prevolent(sp). Too bad we can't kill off mothers that are like that.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, they have their own life. But they will be my children and until they're out of my house, their life is my responsibility. And if I raise them, I think I will earn the right to have them believe that they are my children by birth. I get it anon, you want me to die.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@pikabeau: You go girl!

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So you think you have the right to lie to them about who their parents are... Well I suppose that's where our debate ends, because I literally have nothing to say to that. I don't know how you can feel that way, since it's not your life, it's theirs. Nice talking to you.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

As their future parent, yes, I have that right. As their legal guardian I can do anything short of neglect/abuse my children. That's my //right// as a parent. And I can feel that way because like I said before, I've been in a very similar situation and it was a rather lack luster experience. I suppose it was nice talking to you, even though I don't see why we had this conversation to begin with. How I raise my children really is none of your business.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You're the reason many people are against gay marriage.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You're the same anon as before, aren't you? I still don't see how anyone could possibly think this one issue defines how I would be as a parent. Guess what? Parents lie, and that's okay.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I saw that happen once on one of those "Who's the father?" shows.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Not that it's the same situation but this kinda reminds me of Days of our Lives how one of the characters, Sami, has twins but the twins each have a different father.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm fairly certain that's impossible.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Schroedingers kid! Both are 50% his father, but he'll never know!

by Anonymous 11 years ago