+218 Everyone needs to stop pretending that looks don't play a big part in a relationship. I'm not saying people need to be shallow but just admit that you want a nice, loving partner that doesn't look like a monster, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

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by Anonymous 11 years ago

thats true. but you may not find them attractive or think of them as hot. everyone has a "type" and just coz they have an amazing personality doenst mean you should try to flirt or anything. like for me, a guy can have the best personality ever and be totally awesome, but if i dont find him attractive then i wont even bother dating him. but also vis versa, if a guy was sooo hot with a douchebag attitude i wouldnt bother dating him either.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

exactly! In my mind, a person's outer appearance is what draws you in initially, but then it's their personality that keeps you there. And there's nothing wrong with that. Anyone who says to me that looks really don't matter (unless they're blind maybe), and they're ALL about personality, frankly are total liars who are insecure about admitting that outward appearances do greatly affect their views. As poppin said below though, it IS possible to become more physically attracted to someone after getting to know them. But having a high standard of physical attractiveness when looking for a guy or girl or whatever should not be considered shallow.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So...you admit then that the physical attraction has to be there...I think you are still considering their looks but just can't admit it. What I think happened to you is that you got a lucky first chance at knowing the personality and being attracted to that and so were more "forgiving" of looks. That happened to me too once - it's more and more common with the advent of online dating, where we might get to love someone's sense of humour and character without even knowing what they look like. The internet opens up many new possibilities when it comes to this. But...problems also arise because it's not exactly the "natural order"

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Whenever I like someone, even if they previously looked ugly to me, they always start to seem really good looking.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Not going to lie, I'm more likely to find a guy attractive of he is, you know, attractive. Cute, hot, whatever. There are guys who have an attractive personality, but unless you're physically appealing, I'm just not that into you. - Sterotypically shallow 14-year-old girl

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm not saying looks don't matter, because that's a flat out lie. But they don't have to be a huge deal. I would be totally comfortable dating an ugly guy as long as I liked him.

by Anonymous 11 years ago