+150 It's good when people recognize their faults and problems, but it's disappointing when they do nothing to better themselves or improve their shortcomings, amirite?

by Anonymous 10 years ago

So true. I used to have a friend who'd constantly talk about how "self-aware" she was in the holiest of ways, admit she was insecure, selfish and destructive but she'd NEVER do anything to improve herself. She'd ask me for advice a lot of the time and I'd tell her to make a list of her life goals/things she wants to improve, to stop dating 22 year-olds (because she was only 15) and to find better coping mechanisms than hardcore drugs. She wouldn't even try, she'd just whine about how difficult that was and cry. I swear, I had that talk with her several times a month. And not only me, she also had some great boyfriends back her up too but she'd just cheat on them. We were fully ready to help her but the truth is, she didn't really want help.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I know that feel, bro. I lost my best friend because, even when she accepted that she was becoming a slut (for lack of a better word), she didn't try to change her ways at all. Truly a hard situation to be in. People act like they accept their faults, but all they really want is for people to say "wow, look at that girl, she's so down to earth and moralistic" wheb they're actually the opposite.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah, it's really rough. I'm sorry. :( Personally, i don't think there's anything wrong with promiscuity as long as everyone involved in mature, safe, respectful and responsible. However, if that's not the case and the people involved are being irresponsible and only using sex as a coping mechanism then I totally agree they shouldn't be sexually active. My friend slept with 16 people within the last year as a way to escape and it just made her feel depressed and used. She also got pregnant but had a miscarriage. She's really just a general mess. I had to cut her out because every second I spent with her I could just feel energy draining out of my body. It was hard and I wish I could help her but I think it's just better to go our separate ways. The good thing though is that you'll make better, more positive friends! There's always new opprotunities on the horizon. (:

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm aware that I'm kind of a slut. I don't think it's a bad thing and your friend probably didn't either, why should they change that?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Thanks Continuity :) It's always good to look on the bright side. Colebowl, you're right, I have no business in her promiscuity as long as I don't think she'll get hurt from it, but that was the problem. She wasn't acting like that for fun, she was just degrading herself because she wanted attention. Her boyfriend was basically using her for sex, and she was doing the same. Whether that's my problem or not, I can't just stand by and watch my best friend change into someone she's not.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YAyoVkMdyU

by Anonymous 11 years ago