I'm sure you mean abstinent.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

yes :( i googled celibate after to make sure it meant what i thought it meant...it didn't

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Kinda too late for that one....

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Okay, here's the thing: I don't think that being married or not has anything to do with it. I think it has to do with age (never before college, ideally junior year of college or afterwards) and emotional commitment. The way I see it, having sex for the first time is a special moment between any close couple. I don't believe that the first person one feels deeply devoted to is going to (always) end up being one's spouse, but if the two do mean so much to each other, why shouldn't they be able to share that special experience as well? Not only that, but the fact of the matter is, a good sex life can be very crucial to a good marriage, and if you end up marrying someone whom...well, you don't have a good sex life with, then that could be a problem.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Say someone should wait until they reach a certain age (or education level) is just like saying they should wait until marriage. It sets them up to be judged when they do something that you wouldn't condone or agree with. You say having sex is a special moment between a couple. What if that couple wants to experience that special moment when they are 17 or 18?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You're right, that's a very good point. Really the only reason I say that is because the potential risks of having sex might be more problematic when the partners are still in high school and living under their parents' rules. But when it gets to the point where the couple is old enough and mature enough to be living together, then their lives are certainly their own. To be honest, I wouldn't say I have a problem with anyone having sex with someone whom they have a deep relationship with, even if they're 15 or 16. The age limit is more like just a personal preference for me; the emotional connection would be better described as a strong recommendation. But at the end of the day, I really don't care what choices another person wants to make about when to have sex.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's not about age at all. It's about being ready.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, it is about being ready. That's true. Age and maturity/life experience do not always correlate, but they still can and often times do. And like I said, the problem comes from living under the authority of the parents versus living with your partner. I personally plan to stay abstinent until I move in with a guy, because then we're obviously close enough and old enough by MY standards.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

When I was younger I told myself I wanted to wait until marriage but as i got older I've changed my mind about it

by Anonymous 11 years ago

ooh ok :)

by Anonymous 11 years ago

well hello there

by Anonymous 11 years ago

shh.. don't worry.. I still love you

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I never understood why people wait "after marriage"if you're going to marry someone you might want to consider wether or not your sex-life would work out. Sometimes people have different tastes or fetishes that may not suit you- so consider working that out with them beforehand. Why should you limit till after anyway? If you've been with them for a long time, love them, know the risks and are ready- then go for it. But that's just me I guess.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't think I could deal with the awkwardness of losing it while on my honeymoon. I know we'd love each other and all that, but it'd still probably be painful and not particularly pleasant. I'd rather have it be amazing for my honey moon.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Personally for me, my first time wasn't awkward. My fiancee and I love each other very much and we had discussed it and taken all the necessary precautions, so it wasn't awkward.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Obviously yes, there will be a lot of people planning on staying abstinent until marriage, but of the people that have up-voted I highly doubt that many of them actually will. There's so many young kids on this website and when I was younger I thought I would because that's just what seemed normal but then I realised that I actually wouldn't want to do that.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I wish I'd waited until I was older, but waiting until marriage is ridiculous in my mind. What if I never met 'the one'? I can't even imagine my life without sex now...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

"Plan" lulz

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Why are so many people already planing on getting married? It's a really important life decision. Why not wait until you are older and independent to see if marriage is right for you? I still have no idea if I'm going to get married or not. It depends on my boyfreind, career ambitions, financial situation, and wether or not I want kids.

by Anonymous 11 years ago