Oh no. Unless looks are the prime importance of your relationship, it shouldn't matter. Being physically attracted (and sexually compatible) is important, but you can be physically attracted to them less than other people and as long as your find yourself most emotionally, intellectually, sexual, etc. (whatever is important to you) compatible to them- that counts for much more. It's ok for other people to be more attractive than your mate, and it's fine that you acknowledge that. Just maybe don't say that to them if they wouldn't be OK with that. My boyfriend points out nice butts and boobs on TV, I compliment guys on TV, and vice versa; we both acknowledge the beauty of others with each other without jealousy like we would with our friends, because we are friends. I think our relationship may have a different dynamic that causes that though; he's pan sexual and I'm gender fluid and sexually attracted to girls but not romantically (at least, in my experience I've never been. I may meet a girl I like, who knows) so maybe it's easier for us to see it from the other side and be less uncomfortable with it. Or maybe that has nothing to do with it- I dunno, anyone else have any personal experiences or theories, I'd like to hear.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I just feel like I shouldn't be thinking that way

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I agree. As I have said before there is a difference between physical beauty and physical attractiveness. If you are attracted to her friends, to me, that's a "bad sign". If you simply noticing their beauty but are not getting all knobbed up over it, then no problem.

by Anonymous 10 years ago

I can understand that.

by Anonymous 10 years ago