Just in case anyone cares about my what "inspired me" to make this post:
A teacher of mine sometimes makes comments about tall people (like that society often views tall women as masculine). I, being the tallest person in the class and a girl, don't happen to find this even remotely offensive. The teacher, I guess, feels guilty about it, and apologizes repeatedly and/or talks about supermodels. I find this part to be far more embarrassing than the original comment.
I get what you mean
although I understand why they're doing so
I also may do that to people
and I'm sure their's too
Oh, I'm almost certain that this teacher and others I've seen do this have good intentions and are genuinely apologetic. But since I have pretty thick skin, it feels like they're putting unnecessary attention on the issue which wasn't even an issue at all.
yeah I definitely agree with that
it's uncomfortable too
because you don't think they should be feeling bad in the first place
there's a line
and it's hard for people to figure out where that line is for each person since it differs from individual to individual
so we sorta form this cookie cutter line based off of our experiences
and use that to react to pretty much everyone we don't know well