If you can meet the enemy without flinching inside...it will make you stronger...
Sometimes it's just nice to be ignorant, deaf, dumb, and blind. :)
Tommy by the Who? Ha!
I gather...ha...you'd rather not know. I understand...but why?
Or...you are in the far bathroom stall and 3 people are out front... mudslinging at your expense. You would saunter out...early but not too early...ha...just to avoid listening?
I think everyone is pretty critical of everyone else. Thankfully, they usually keep it to themselves and we all just muddle through life without taking offense.
Yes. And they almost always stem from...what? You tell me...
Yes... But what people say about you can also be something really good.
If I remember the class I took in women's studies at college, the word "slut" dates back to the 13th century and was used by men to describe other men who dressed poorly. Then by the 15th century men were using it to describe women who did a bad job of cleaning their homes and by the 20th century it seems to have peaked at every significant period when women were pushing for some kind of equality, whether to vote, to work or to have a career. So I guess on that basis in recent history it could be thought of as a term of strength.
D! You took Women's Studies! That explains it.
I was the only guy in the class, but then I thought if I'm going to have a relationship with one, I should learn as much as I can, right?
Hilarious! I had a bff who became a lesbian because of those classes...
Didn't you get a lot of grief in those classes for being a man?
Yes actually I became a lesbian too because of that class . Actually most of the women in the class were really appreciative that a guy was there who was genuinely interested to learn. A couple said they wished their partners would come too. One thought I was trying to infiltrate the sisterhood lol
infiltrate like, you? Funny babe...
Did you meet anyone nice? Like you know what I mean?
I met lots of nice women but most were only interested in other nice women so it makes it tough when you meet someone you have lots in common with but still can't date
It could be a possibility greeted with interest...at least. Who doesn't want to know what people think about them? You can withstand that...gain some clarity...and move on.. Upwards and outwards.
Doesn't bother me...if it's something good said about me...fine..
If it's something not so good...
I can let that person know, they're nowhere near perfect either..
Really kind of a pointless conversation to have....
That's why most people keep such things locked away in the back of their mind.
It's kind of like taking criticism though...bad or good. Nothing wrong with it....huh?
Criticism...nothing wrong with it, i do my best to listen if i think someone is honestly trying to help..
...But if someone thinks they're going to go off, telling me what they think is wrong with me...
Then they're going to get my mental checklist of what's wrong with them..
I don't feel like i've ever gave anyone a reason to feel like they can do that...
So i'll be more than happy to give it back..
People can sometimes criticize to no avail. People got on my case for wearing black ALL the time. The minute they stopped I started wearing colours... Not deliberately...naturally...
Still...I understand that the older generation has issues with dressing in black all the time.
While it can be aggravating...it doesn't hurt much to listen.
Well...Sometimes people just like to have something to complain about too..
So...if a good friend sat me down to go through a few things that bugged her about me...I'd listen...
Wouldn't you...in your case?
Sure...i would listen...
Just understand..I know i can remain calm about it..
No one is perfect..
If someone feels they need to go into detail about why i'm not perfect..
I'll listen...and then you're going to get my list..
Hope you can take it, just like i did..
Hon. That's only fair. Maybe not right away...since it reeks of tit for tat eg: immature...but in due time, like a week.
I'm a middle child. I can take it.
Exactly my point to begin with..
That it's a pointless conversation..
It would turn into a tit for tat...
Because no one in their right mind is going to just sit there and take that from someone..i wont
I'll accept what they bug me with and live with it...because no one is perfect..
If you can't accept mine and need to let me know about it..i'll return the favor..
That's how that game is played..
When my gf visited from the UK after 3 days...it started to...well...she was always there...never moving... Of course we had back and forth arguments...tensions built up...
I realized after a few arguments...I would have to put up with a few things...still...it was good to air our feelings at first...
I guess there is some settling down after a time...hm?
Yea and the next time she gets really mad at you...
Don't be surprised when those things you aired out, get deliberately used against you..
I've already mentioned something like that...while she was here...it's okay since I'm on the ball and she can't get away with it.
Now she's back in the UK...
We're online of course, but how can you really have a good argument online? Not.
How was your Christmas?
Good...thanks, i didn't eat as much junk food as i thought i would..
I couldn't even finish my first helpings... I got to take it and more, home...
I didn't want to take anything..
I don't have to keep looking at it...lol
Mostly I think you are the opposite of what you tell us about on here...ha...
It's good to hear what people are saying. Then you can make up your own mind about regarding the validity...if any.
Other people can be uncanny and target you surprisingly well.
Now I have to get up and eat some leftover turkey...(groan)
Bring it on.
You are so great, VicZinc.
Besides being a little intimidated by your intelligence, particularly in math, I feel nothing but love for you.
I am intimidated by your boyish good looks and your ability to bed beautiful women. Teach me, please.
If I was told something negative by someone I didn't respect then it wouldn't affect me but if it was someone I did respect and I thought it wasn't true then I guess I'd feel a bit offended? Not sure, but an interesting question to ponder.
Who don't you respect?
People who randomly feel the need to give their opinion of me, like a work college. It rarely happens, most people are friendly but when I was younger it was quite common.
Oh yeah... People really run roughshod over young ppl.
Wish I could go back as me now...ha...
I always stand up for young people if I seem them being taken advantage of. It'd be great to be mid teens knowing what I know now
I think I know what people think of me, by the comments I receive. lol
Especially my haters. lol
Some people take what others say out of context at times. And they get the wrong impression. I know I have, and was hurt by it, but then realized they didn't mean what they said at all.
I am pretty comfortable in my skin. Pretty aware of my faults. No one can tell me anything about me that i dont already know.
One of your ears is slightly smaller than the other. Just so you know. :)
Thats my bad side
No...thats my good side
All in a day's work, eh? Good...or bad.
You[ve put in a lot of work on Amirite and hopefully in 2017...we will all grow together...and having worked out some of our issues...that should make it smoother...for the core of Amirite...
Here's to you and Amirite, babe!
It depends on who is doing the talking. If it is someone I care about and they are trying to make me a better person, then I'll listen. If it is someone who is just a mean person then I don't care what they think.
I could handle it.
People tend to say what they think without thinking.
But isn't that sometimes the truth?
When ppl comment without thinking...it is the real truth...
I'd be curious. Though frankly still wouldn't care. That fear was beaten out of me about 24 years ago. :)
Being insecure, I would love to know what people really thought of me. However, if they said something nice I wouldn't believe them.
Sure I can. The biggest problem is hearing the bad stuff, and I doubt anyone can speak of my bad stuff and surprise me. I'm self-aware.
You phrase this question as if the only things people will say about you are bad...
Oh I got the pleasure of finding that out once a little bit & yes it has stuck in my head because it hurt. I accidentally stumbled on to this information. Okay I had access to my best friends email & read every detail. All I have to say is Karma is a bitch.