2016 was a great year for Death.
I don't think I've ever asked that question, maybe I don't want to tempt God. "Oh, you want to go too? Alright..." Noooooo
I've lost a few acquaintances, a love interest, a couple friends, a guy who was like a brother to me, and my mother. We all die eventually, it's easy to lose sight of that sometimes. If there's a silver lining to losing a friend it's that it reminds me how lucky I am to still be here, and how important it is to cherish the friends and family who are still with me.
I have lost more friends than I can name in one sitting...literally. All aged 16-55. I've often wondered if there was something about where I grew up... I have also lost three brothers (33-55) and my husband (44). (My Dad, too, but he was of an age.) It was just following a six-month period when 6 people close to me died that I wrote a college essay entitled I Live, hence my answer above. My husband did not believe me about the number of deaths until 2005 when one of my brothers and four of my close friends died. I may be wrong, Maze...but I believe God has a purpose for us here yet, and that is why (despite several times I came close to dying and people cannot understand how I survived) that we are still here.
Thank you, John.
It is the normal reaction for survivors guilt, but it shouldn't stay very long unless you really had something to do with the death. The older you get the more friends and acquaintances die. You just keep living your life the best way you can.
You choose to truly live.
Yeah that's normal, I believe that's called survivor guilt. You get over it by accepting it, and finding something positive to look forward to.
The only way I would ever feel any guilt is if I was responsible. One of my closest friends committed suicide while I was in the military. We were both 19. He chose drugs and I chose the Army. We feel bad about what happened but we should never feel guilty. Life isn't always fair.
So you didn't go into the army...your became a Fuller salesperson instead...he demise wasn't drugs but cancer...how would you feel then?
And is it odd that I understand both RL choices?
I'd still fell sad, but no guilt. Doesn't matter what you go into or the cause of someones death. Thats like saying I should feel guilty for everyone who died younger than me.
Maybe it has more impact in someone older than 19....
This week when Jefferson took me to tell me that my best friend was gone I remember screaming that at the top of my lungs. How am I gonna get over it...time. I have spent a few days screaming, crying, and breaking things
I don't ask myself that, just sorry my friend died.
You dont get over it...you learn to live with it.