Yes and no, some cease to exist when I log out, others are a part of my life and I am part of theirs. There are more of those friends than you'd think.
There's someone I met online ten years ago this year, we immediately clicked as if we'd already grown up together. I never expected that, we're still tight, he's like a brother. He has watched my kid grow up and I his grandkids. If you had told me back in the 90's that my online experience would lead bring people into my rl, much less a decade long friendship, I'd have told you there was no possible way because I'd never let someone online into my rl. lol
I totally get it. Someone I consider to be one of the closest friends I've ever had is a person I've never met and likely won't ever meet. They live on the opposite side of the world. It's not easy....it's very easy to not always keep in touch because life just gets in the way and circumstances are forever different and forever changing.
I understand that. In some ways online friendships require more work than those irl because there's a lot to be misinterpreted from text on a page, you know? It's easy to misunderstand, assume or read-in things that aren't there for lack of facial expressions and direct mood-indicators. It takes a bit more work to get to know someone and also to be known, if that makes sense.
I've yet to develop a close friendship with someone in another country. Not purposely, just haven't yet. I wouldn't discount meeting them if the opportunity presents itself.
Years ago I'd have said "don't do it," but now my perception of that has changed. I'm glad I've had that experience, I'm a different person for it. I'm still generally distrusting of people altogether, but nothing like before. I'm extremely thankful to that first friend who encouraged me to take the chance.
I have friends on here who are very real to me. It's rather strange that we can get to know someone through words only, isn't it?
For me it is and it isn't. It's strange how there have been times I've clicked so well with a person that I had no problem showing them who I am. But at the same time it makes sense because that's the very thing I struggle with while I'm not online. We crave that connection and understanding with others.
I've clicked with quite a few, one guy who I was friends with for a very long time who I thought was a true friend, and he proved otherwise. So I'm still very cautious online.
I think that's wise....as powerful as words can be they can still easily just be words. The way you take them in can make you vulnerable. Which isn't always a bad thing. But it is really putting yourself out there.
That's very true.... I was told by the person mentioned above that he would always have my back, I didn't realize that meant, a knife in my back. lol lol
Well at least you have a sense of humor about it and seemed to have took a bit of learning from it.
nothing on line is real to me
On SH, it was virtual reality.
Here... After they started begging me to join again... After two previous profiles on the site. I think John and Kasara are real, Dark Serenity is 99 % real to me, Lorraine fiftysevenhundreth + five thousand is 59070 % real to me. Not even JD can get that far up.
It's not so much if they are real or not, they are, but whether they matter to me or not. Many don't really matter in the grand scheme of my life. Others matter a great deal. I have made some good friends online. Some remain simply online friends. Others have become a very real part of my life that transcends the net.
Yes they are real to me. I value the friendships that I have made. To me these people are just like family. When they are happy, I am happy for them. When they are sad, I wanna cheer them up. When I don't have them on Facebook and they haven't logged in for a few day, I worry about them. I can't help it that is just who I am
I think that's great. The people I meet are real to me as well. Sometimes they feel more real to me than the people I see day in and out.
That is how they feel to me too.
No, they are real to me. I think about online people with a caring heart and see them as people and not just words on a screen. You can get some real honesty from people online ( if they have no motive) . They will tell you EXACTLY how they really feel about something because they dont know you and dont care if you like it or not!
The few I interact with on a regular basis are real. They are loved as much as, if not more than those ideal with face to face