I'm not quite following Carla. Can you give more of an explanation? :)
Is it selfish to better your life?
Leaving someone, whom you have taken care of for years, in the capable hands of others?
Even if that person elicits feelings of guilt and morose?
At what point do you step away?
Oh I understand. Thanks. That's a very tough question and could be argued either way for every circumstance. Many of us will run into it for our parents or spouses somewhere along the way. I guess as a very general answer I would say you need to find a balance and when that is no longer acceptable to get the best care and help that you can. I don't think there is a standard answer, but when you make the decision to move on, don't do it with regrets. We only get so much life to spend so I think we should do the best we can with a balance between us and our loved ones.
Thank you, will
You nailed it Will. Balance and no regrets.
Right off the bat and being brutally honest. Step away. And give a loved one into someone else's capable hands.
By my gut instinct...it's the right choice...take a stand.
We did the same thing with our mother...it wasn't the PERFECT solution...but what is? Everyone was working....you can go into a circular argument...nothing changes...you have to deal with what IS.
Thank you sukie.
After reading your explanation to Will, I honestly know there is no real answer. I have been there with my mama and to this day, I don't know if I made the right choice and some days I feel guilt. I really wish I had a good answer.
You are most welcome
My sister and her family have decided to take this on.
They are all here and very capable.
I have but two.
Taking her 800 miles away..such an undertaking.
But, boy.......the guilt