Guys shouldn't get so mad when we tease them, Its just cute to see you get all flustered
The other day I was joking around with some dudes online about kidnapping them and tying them down and they got all up about double standards and how its ok for women to "abuse" men. But I wasn't trying to do any of that I was just trying to fluster them a bit like I always do. I'm one of those teasy people I joke and kid and play.
I don't know Janet. Are you really? Sometimes your intensity on hating men is extreme, scary, even....of course, I haven't walked in your shoes - so I should just shut up and say nothing.
Something I've learned about teasing lately is: there might be more to it then what it is.
I've taken a new look at things I (used to) make jokes about (mocked?) and whatever I tease...even if it seems to be lighthearted.
I wish there was a way I could mock and make jokes about let's say: religion...but then I realized I could be hurting people while I was doing that. I have to thank Maze for my insight. And everyone else who contributed in leading up to it.
FYI: that doesn't mean I'm perfect.
I don't hate men. I hate men who are sexist. There is a vast difference. Also like I said here I joke a lot on men but that's because I'm kinky and I hang out with a lot of submissive guys so I'm used to it. OzSurfer can tell you there is a certain type of male that I'm always referring to when I say anything that may be interpreted as misandric and that is the kind who think women are secondary, the kind who would hit a girl to prove he's stronger, the kind who'd stay home doing meth while the girl does all the work, you know, scumbags.
The thing is that sometimes I overhear a lot of sexist things in the breakroom at work because sometimes I'm mistaken for male, so I encounter a lot of sexism that's supposed to be meant for male ears only, and It does make me nervous. I just hope that this is a minority of guys who act like that.
But I have no problem with guys who are nice to women, who smile at me, who high five me, who play football with me and not hold back, who coach derby, who do male roller derby/co-ed and I love sexy emo guys with soft hair and glowing eyes.
But the fact remains I'm still kinky lol. And hey I've subbed to guys in bed, I've had guys tie me up and train me like a puppy girl and all kindsa things.
Yeah like Angela in my dream lol. But yeah there are a lot of girls who harassed me for being raped and there are a lot of girls who betrayed me.
Harassed for being raped?! WTF It's like making fun of a cancer patient for being bald what the hell is wrong with people
I'm happy you've taken this as a chance to express yourself....thanks.
Part 2 of your comment: Nobody's perfect. I don't try to be, that's setting myself up for failure. Instead I play by ear. I surround myself with people who can take my sometimes intense humor and persona, and it does me well.
You also have to realize sometimes I say things for shock value to get a rise out of people. I'm just like that. Going back to the point, when I was in High school I had sooo many male friends. I would eat with the cute skaterbois and punky girls and gender wasn't a dividing line for us. We were just people. Boyish people, but people. We'd have rude humor and we'd burp on eachother and play fight, and play loud music and those in relationships would make out and that was life for me. That's how I grew up and thus It's shaped me. Now I did get assaulted and that has jaded me a little bit. I have changed because of that and some things I used to laugh at are no longer funny. But I wanna be the same ole Jan again. So I tease guys like I always have. But some people just got a bit crankier as they got older it seems. And everything now adays is a hot button issue. PC goes both ways I can tell you, and it's hard not to step on anyone's toes
Yes, again, thank you, Janet.
Sometime one has to be careful about their jokes because often it can go both ways. When trying to ruffle some feathers we can't get mad when our feathers get ruffled over the same thing.
I guess it's weird when you're kinky like me because If someone said I'm gonna tie you down I'd be like ooo my play or yours? I wouldn't like take offense. If someone said beat me then yeah that's weird, or rape thats too far.
Anymore it is hard to tell what will offend someone and what won't. I used to say well how would I feel but then I realized not everyone is like me. I agree there is somethings that should never be joked about that just cross the line.
But you have to agree, if men did something like this as a joke feminists would have their balls on a spike, it personally doesn't bug me, but it's true that if we dont react badly then the feminists should not react badly which would never happen.
MFff MMfff -wiggle to escape the rope-