There is no such thing as a true nice person.
Some of the nicest people I've ever known are those who have faced the most tragic and challenging test in life.
Nope. I know people who I consider nice and they won't stop being nice just because they have a hard choice to make. The way to know is on the reaction. A nice person will feel guilty or regret or just bad over having to make a choice they wouldn't make if they had the chance.
There's no such thing as being nice 24/7..
Nobody's perfect, but there are genuinely pleasant people out there.
A nice person is someone who just doesn't feel like hurting someone, who prefers to avoid conflict because it's not nice
Yes sure, why wouldn't it be? When a person says to themselves - Why shouldn't I punch this guy straight in the jaw? The nice person thinks to themselves - Naaaaah
The even nicer person says: why don't we sit down and talk about this dissension between us.
What i want to say is that the nice person doesnt enjoy hurting others and has no desire for it
Moot point but...from your previous example I took it to mean you meant that a "nice person doesn't enjoy hurting others" in a physical manner... You never referred to emotional hurt. Amirite?
I meant both
So why was your example illustrating just a physical hurt, then? If you meant both...you sure didn't express it.
Well you're right, my example was about physical, but in truth I should have included the wish not to hurt anyone be it physically or mentally.
What, in your opinion, are the "right" tests?
Tests that help see human nature clearly.
Possibly rape...other abuse...being victimized...things of that nature.
So human nature, in your view, is abusive? While certainly that is one aspect, I do not believe it to be the primary aspect, or even one of the top aspects of human nature. Methinks your view of humanity is a bit skewed, Sukie.
I like how you presume to jump to conclusions.
I neither presumed anything nor jumped to conclusions, Sukie. I asked, you answered.
Conclude all you wish.
I made no conclusions, Sukie. Read your own words above.
Methinks your view of humanity is a bit skewed. is either a presumption or a conclusion.
Why do you do this?
You are the one who likened human nature to rape, abuse, and victimization.
Yes...there can be a shady aspect to human nature.
As I clearly stated above, it is but one aspect...it was was the only aspect you used to define human nature.
I don't recall saying it was the only aspect I used to define human nature.
Reread the entire conversation, Sukie. FFS, you made it about "the right tests", when asked, you said they were needed to "see human nature clearly", and when asked to further clarify, you defined that as"rape...other abuse...being victimized...things of that nature."
You ended that with a period. Therefore, you defined "human nature" within those limitations.
Good night, Sukie.
I did not define that as an absolute.
Good night. See ya later.
I'm not Nice 24/7 but I'm considered to be a Nice Person.(someone People trust and turn to) You know I've been tested to my limits by those I should of been able to trust , those who should of been Protecting me when I was Vulnerable because I've shared certain Painful experiences on here.
If someone is Lucky enough to be given a Loving Role model in Life . like I was Blessed with my Grandad then maybe you don't turn out all Bad.
We're graded on a curve. Some of us are considered relatively nice and some of us are not.
There are plenty of nice people around, who try to treat others like they want to be treated.
I consider myself nice, I had good parents that set a good example for me and my siblings.....no one can be nice 24/7..... that would be impossible.
If anything, being nice, kind, empathetic, can only come from tests and adversity.
I've been through many tests which made me a nicer person.
Totally disagree. It is often the trials and tests of life that make a person nice.
So all people that pass these 'tests' become twisted and evil yeah?
No...but they do become ''clearer'' and possibly less nice.
I don't really see the point in " My life has been shit to me so I will be shit to this random person who's totally irrelevant and innocent just because I can" . I'd never take my anger on someone else, even if I do I'd do my best to apologize. I've been heavily bullied in elementary school, that doesn't stop me from being nice to people who didn't do anything to me.
After seeing life more clearly...it's possible though that one can see life with less trust. But that doesn't mean you can't be nice to people.
True, it does make it much harder to trust people
or is someone who's faced those tests and has chosen to be nice, regardless.
They could be nice because they don't want to reciprocate wrongs done to them, because they know how it feels when someone is not nice.