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As far as etiquette, I would ask him if he plays golf anymore or not. If not, I'd explain that I would like to have my daughter play with them for a while any see if she is going to stick it out before investing in new clubs for her. If your daughter gets serious about playing she is going to want a set made for her and with newer technology. If the guy says he plays with them every week I would not ask for them back. I'd look for a used set on ebay or something.
I like the idea of simply asking him if he plays golf anymore. He and I get along well, so I can see the conversation moving along fine from there.
Thanks Will!
I don't see any problem casually asking him...especially since golf clubs are so expensive.
I gave an orange juicer to a friend - who took it but didn't really want it - then I got the flu and bad colds and wanted it back...so I suggested she give it back to me... Ha ha... I never did get it back...so I dropped it...and bought a new one.
Thanks Sukie. My ultimate fear is losing the respect of any family member. The good news is that he's my wife's niece's husband. That is, it's only my wife's side of the family.
Not likely to happen; and generally the ones who might sneer and cast judgement will have done this about you anyway...
I think you are a jerk for using the racist term "Indian Giver", you Nazi lover.
Other than that, Will is on the right track. Or simply mention that she is in the market for clubs and you had remembered that dad had those vintage clubs and what brand they were and would he recommend the same brand for her ... see if he offers them up.
I would have felt better had you had taken exception with the "Nazi lover" slur, but okay.
Anyway you are correct. I got my dad's hand-me-downs. Whenever he bought a new set I would get the old ones. One of the benefits of my sister's not playing.
If you didn't realize that I was kidding you're not alone. I apologize for miscommunication.
You can't say anything anymore. People are a bunch of overly sensitive pussies anymore. "Indian Giver" is a term used as long as I can remember.
Zinc is my friend in reality (as opposed friend on the internet). He was just busting my balls. And then I was trying to be funny.. It tends to go downhill from the start with Zinc and I. I'm sorry for the miscommunication.
Well then, I take it back.
Ha Ha!
Et tu, Brute?
I.. I hope that wherever you are.. that it's no longer your birthday!
I thought he was kidding you, but you may be right. There's no telling with text. 🤔
Zinc was kidding and so was I. Sorry for the miscommunication.
I would do as Will said.
As long as you make it clear that there's no pressure and you want that relative to keep the clubs if he is enjoying them, I think it makes perfect sense. If he's simply storing them for sentimental reasons, it gives him the chance to feel good about passing the gift along to your daughter.
Yes. Thanks! I want to emphasize that the golf clubs are his to do with as he pleases. That said, if they're just collecting dust in his basement, I will ask him to consider lending them to my daughter.
I hope it goes well! I think it will.
Good answer
Don'r ask for them back. Bring up the subject of golf. Ask him if he still plays. Eventually get around to the fact that your daughter is starting to play and you are looking to get her a set of clubs. (If he offers the clubs back great, if not, I wouldn't ask) Most women use shorter clubs than men....
So.. then.. they were never his golf clubs either!
And it's now time for him to pass them on to my daughter.
Phil, I see that you have a sentimental attachment to the clubs, but can your daughter even use them? My wife's clubs are quite a bit shorter than mine.
Sometimes what we want for our kids, isn't really what they want.
I didn't disregard your point about the clubs. My daughter is fairly tall (5'8"), but your point was well taken. Right now she borrows her boyfriend's clubs, so she might be able to get by with men's clubs.
After more thought, I'm not going to bring it up until next Spring if at all. My daughter started her junior year in college, so she'll probably be too busy drinking to play another round this year. 😀
Thanks for the input!
Thanks everyone!!!
If he doesn't use them, you're not being an Indian giver. I like Will's answer too.