Etiquette question: Several years ago, when my father died, I inherited his golf clubs. Not needing two sets of clubs, I offered my clubs to a relative. I wasn't sure whether he played golf, and when he took them I got the impression he played maybe once or twice in his life. Fast forward to today. My daughter has started playing golf. Can I ask him if he still has the golf clubs and if so, whether he uses them? If they're not being used I would like to let my daughter use them. I would feel awkward even asking, but it seems a matter of practicality. What do you think?

As far as etiquette, I would ask him if he plays golf anymore or not. If not, I'd explain that I would like to have my daughter play with them for a while any see if she is going to stick it out before investing in new clubs for her. If your daughter gets serious about playing she is going to want a set made for her and with newer technology. If the guy says he plays with them every week I would not ask for them back. I'd look for a used set on ebay or something.

I don't see any problem casually asking him...especially since golf clubs are so expensive.

I gave an orange juicer to a friend - who took it but didn't really want it - then I got the flu and bad colds and wanted it back...so I suggested she give it back to me... Ha ha... I never did get it back...so I dropped it...and bought a new one.

I think you are a jerk for using the racist term "Indian Giver", you Nazi lover.

Other than that, Will is on the right track. Or simply mention that she is in the market for clubs and you had remembered that dad had those vintage clubs and what brand they were and would he recommend the same brand for her ... see if he offers them up.

I would do as Will said.

As long as you make it clear that there's no pressure and you want that relative to keep the clubs if he is enjoying them, I think it makes perfect sense. If he's simply storing them for sentimental reasons, it gives him the chance to feel good about passing the gift along to your daughter.

Don'r ask for them back. Bring up the subject of golf. Ask him if he still plays. Eventually get around to the fact that your daughter is starting to play and you are looking to get her a set of clubs. (If he offers the clubs back great, if not, I wouldn't ask) Most women use shorter clubs than men....

Thanks everyone!!!

If he doesn't use them, you're not being an Indian giver. I like Will's answer too.