Successful people find ways to cope without dragging other people down.
Some people delight in dragging others down to their level. Low self esteem, etc.
I agree Will....but I kind of want to change out successful for responsible.
That works too. :)
It was a vast right-wing conspiracy.
It was misogyny.
It was the Russians.
It was Comey.
No. It was this guy.
It was Zack Morris...?
I think it was Bill. Hillary would have had a half-dozen Secret Service agents watching him 24-7 if she had become President.
Damn right it was Zack Morris. Biggest douche bag ever.
Um... I would venture to say 2nd biggest.
But I admit it's close.
Lol, photo finish.
It's nothing else than lying to yourself, just take responsibility and admit you screw up.
That's why I do my best to not do that. I do a lot of self-reflection when things are going wrong.
Me too Sofia, I'm my own worst critic.
I try to call what I do self reflection but usually it looks more like self loathing.
Responsible people usually expect more from themselves than others. :)
I can relate.
Exactly. Some just can't justify what they themselves are doing to others, so they play the victim.
They do....I've been guilty of it myself. And there's no getting past it until you focus inwards and stop bringing others into your own emotions. All they can do is influence. We are the only ones that can control.
Amen to that.
My attitude is that, if you're the the one who will ultimately suffer because of something, then it's your responsibility to change it. Obviously there are many things we cannot change, but it's better fight than to accept the role of the victim.
Having said that though, there have been times in my life where I was accepting the role of the victim and didn't even know it.
Of course. Because it's obvious we are a species that is unable to produce its own negativity. We can only create it and dish it out or receive it from others.
Maybe you need to write a post asking for some new ones so you can update your list.
I'll stick with the tried and true. My dog ate my homework. Ha!
Too many people these days don't accept responsibility for their own situation in life. It's easier to blame someone else for our failures, and sadly, the culture we are living in today, encourages that.
No doubt. Sometimes it's just pathetic.
I've seen a few people on here promoting this redistribution of wealth Will. I wrote a story that outline their mindset.
There are two women, Sally and Jane.
Both get a job in a small company and start at $15 an hour.
They both rent small apartments.
Sally goes out and buys a new car for $20,000.
Jane buys a serviceable older car for $5,000.
5 years later, Jane has saved $15,000 more than Sally because she wasn’t making car payments.
Jane now has enough for a down payment and buys a house. Sally is still in the apartment.
After 5 more years, Jane trades in her older car and buys another used car for $7,000.
Sally trades hers in and buys another new car for $25,000. (Inflation)
1o more years pass and Jane sells her home for a $300,000. Sally still lives in an apartment.
Sally says life is unfair and believes she is entitled to half of what Jane sold her house for, because she claims Jane is wealthy and there needs to redistribution of wealth.
That is the mindset of too many people these days.
And I look at it this way.. wealth is constantly being redistributed. The uber wealthy have been having most of the success lately, and the divide between the haves and the have-nots is ever-widening. In my opinion it's partly because wealth begets power which begets wealth, and partly due to other economic factors - automation, globalization, etc..
I have seen images of cities where there is only a few meters between shining high-rises and shanty towns with no running water. I can't help but fear this is where we're heading.
I usually have a grim outlook on such things, so I could be wrong.
Phil, What would we do without the uber wealthy? Take Bill Gates. He started Microsoft which currently employs 124,000 people world wide. Warren Buffet's company's employ over 367,000. Would those jobs exist without the uber wealthy? Would those companies exist? How many billions does it take to even start some of these new companies?
We definitely need "job creators", and there will always be some people doing better than others. I just don't like the current trend of growing wealth disparity.
How can a representative style government work when the wealthy have unlimited access to politicians while the rest of us are scrimping and saving, simply in an attempt to maintain our current standard of living?
And why does it take millions to win a seat in Congress?
To me this means money somehow equates to votes. The the more money you have, the more say you have in who gets elected.
I don't have any answers, but I do believe we have a problem.
Gronk, I think we have all been indoctrinated into believing this group or that group should be paying more taxes, instead of saying the government is spending and wasting too much money. If you can imagine something, the government is spending money on it.
Hey Gronk. I'm directing this response not only to you, but to Jim as well (Hey Jim). I thought it would be cleaner than starting multiple threads. Of course anyone is free to chime in.
My concern is that the standard of living of most Americans is going down, and has been for awhile. Furthermore I see no reason to believe this will end anytime soon.
Disclaimer: this is just my opinion, based mostly on personal observation. I don't like the generally accepted standard of living measurement, which is basically Real GDP over the number of adults. The reason being is that wealth is far from evenly distributed, so an average like this does not represent most of us.
I don't believe economics is a zero-sum game. That is, just because the rich are getting richer doesn't mean the rest of us are getting poorer. They could be pulling the rest of us along with them. That being said, I believe most of us are indeed getting poorer these days, once the cost of things like health care, food, automobiles are taken into account. Same disclaimer as above.
Do you agree that the standard of living of most Americans is going down? Do you believe we all have the right to become as wealthy as possible, or would there be a point at which you would feel wealth has become too concentrated?
Thanks for the reply.
I give you credit for persevering after having a child at such a young age. I suspect many people in your situation would not have finished HS.
You and I probably have similar work ethics.
I'm proud to never have used any form of welfare, unemployment benefits, etc.. Just recently I had carpal tunnel surgery on both of my hands. Being a software developer who sits at a keyboard all day, I believe I was entitled to workers compensation from my employer. I chose not to.. barely gave it a thought really. Why should my employer have to pay for something like that? It didn't seem right to me.
Phil, You sound like you are more sensible than a lot of people I hear complaining about life in this great country today. You are correct about economics is not a zero sum game. The people who are more successful at making money are not taking it away from those who are making less money. When the economy expands, the opportunity improves for everybody to make more money. But the kicker is that taking advantage of those increased opportunities requires ambition and willingness to work harder to take advantage of those new opportunities. Therefore, you are also correct when you state that "we all have the right to become as wealthy as possible". And the beauty of living in this great country is that because of our constitutionally guaranteed individual liberty and freedom, each person can pursue whatever he wants to take advantage of the unlimited opportunities available to him to improve his financial situation.
Thanks GoBlue. Let's see how reasonable you think I am after this reply.
The problem though as I see it..
To get elected to Congress, (which takes millions of dollars) you need to either a) be independently wealthy, or b) rely on campaign contributions from wealthy individuals and special interest groups. Naturally the concerns of these two groups are given weight over the interests of others.
I see a similar issue when it comes to policy setting. Public opinion is influenced and manipulated by large media corporations. I believe this is why there is strong support for policies that are not, in my estimation, in their best interests.
This affects the people of every political leaning. Conservatives are more likely to believe liberal universities have undo influence, whereas liberals are more likely to believe groups like the NRA have it. I question whether my own viewpoints and biases are the result of such manipulation.
So like I often say, I don't have any answers other vagues ideas like campaign finance reform and ending gerrymandering.
I just throw this stuff out here.. I guess with the hope that I'll maybe learn something.
Phil, You still sound reasonable even after reading your reply to me because I agree with everything you said.
The campaign financing system will never be reformed because the people who benefit from the current system are the ones who make the laws that would be needed to change it.
Policy setting, on the other hand, have a better chance of shifting because most politicians are super-focused on public opinion polls, especially during election years. Those who are going to be on the ballot concentrate more on being on the correct side of controversial issues so they watch the polls to make sure that they please the majority of voters with their speeches and voting on legislation.
My brother from another mother..
Your comments couldn't have been more true Phil. I don't think we have had "representatives", in a long long time.
I think a lot people talk about the 1% ers. It is hard to argue that someone needs a 100 billion dollars because they once owned a monopoly in tech, but they never say what the number is that is too much. Like usual it is a lot of complaining without a firm idea of how to fix it. Hell they can't even agree on what a living wage is, yet that is the buzz word for businesses.
With the push for socialism Will, it affects us all. Even if they took 100% of everything those 1%er's have, what happens in a couple years when there are no more 1%er's and that money is gone? Remember that the tax base from the ultra rich would also be gone. Then they would want it from the 10%ers, and then the 30%ers. The people who still had their money by that point would all be living overseas.
That's the way it would trend. I agree.
I think it's just another means to push socialism by telling some people they are entitled what those who have earned more, have. What happens after they have taken it and there are no more wealthy to take it from? At some point the teat runs dry.
I couldn't say, for sure. I've wondered what it would be like, though, to be able to blame anyone else but me, for how I feel.
As far as excuses to myself to not get a chore done today, or something...I'm not even very good at that. I just admit that I failed, and try and forgive myself...
Beter to just take responsbilities for your own actions
Apart from being bullied at school, I can't really think of any time when I've blamed anyone or even anything for the way I've felt. Probably blaming a physical health issue would be the closest.
We have an in-law drama queen who thrives on blaming everything on everyone else. According to her, she is always right and has never, ever done anything wrong. It is ALWAYS someone else, and even on those rare times when she knows she's at fault, she will justify her actions/behavior until the moon turns blue listening to her.