Attractive people telling unattractive people that looks don't matter is the same as rich people telling poor people that money doesn't matter, amirite?
"Money isn't that important", he said between bites of his gourmet lobster tail.
Rising from the chair at the VIP table of this beach-front property on Bali's southwestern coast, he makes his way to the car waiting for him. On the 15-minute drive back to the 10,000sq foot villa he calls his second home he thinks to himself, "I can't believe people care so much about money. It's not like it can buy you happiness."
His wife and three children meet him as he arrives.
It is not the same, because attraction and attractiveness lie in the eyes of the beholder. Beauty is defined differently from person to person.
Whereas with money, you either have it or you don't.
Long story short personality matters more than anything. If it doesn't, you're with someone shallow you shouldn't waste your time trying to impress anyway.
money cant buy you happiness it cant buy you friends and it cant fix a broken mind. the opportunities provided in life by money are opprotunities for more money so how would that get you anywhere but richer in wealth.
Tbh I think attractiveness is determined by each person, there isn't a single person in the world who is attractive to every person or unattractive to everyone. The world would be a lot less toxic if people realized this. Everyone can be attractive, just take care of your physical and mental health!
Looks really aren't as important as a solid personality. My best friend is maybe 5/10. He's like 5'5" and hella overweight and without a hair cut, it's hard to tell if he's Hispanic or Asian. Dude still pulls girls like it's nobody's business, because he's just cool to be around. He's not an asshole and makes jokes about himself. Not in that annoying constantly self deprecating way, but just to show he's okay with how he is.
I'm poor and unattractive, and I can honestly say that neither of those things matter. If you're happy with yourself, then that's all you need. Video games help too.
I think money can bring things that attractiveness cannot. Beauty also fades. Being valued only for your beauty can definitely be depressing. Money is itself valuable and transferable, being pretty isn't.
I see what you mean but I don't think its a fair comparison. One is far more valuable than the other.
Also, like conventionally attractive? I see plenty on of non attractive dudes get all the ladies, why, because they rock!
Maybe this does apply more to guys than girls, but I've known a decent number of unattractive dudes who have beautiful partners inside and out. I never met a poor dude with a house in the Hamptons and Porsche, and a 25MM stock portfolio.
This is definitely true in the case of Russia. There were many guys who had been hit hard by the ugly stick and then you'll see their girlfriends/wives and they were gorgeous. Like day and night.
Appart from good looking folk can't share their "meaningless" good looks with people who need it. That and people dont need good looks to survive. So actually the money one is way worse lul.
Unfortunately it needs to be quite a lot, at least according to some studies. Like I saw one that said that a 5'6" guy needs to make about $150k more per year than a 6' guy to be equally attractive, all else being equal.
These stats are generalizing about attractiveness to the whole population of women. That "fact" should be irrelevant to any given individual because it's based in a perspective of getting a vast quantity of women to like you. That's dumb. Unless you're goal is some kinda jersey shore fantasy version of a life or people magazine's nonexistent list of hottest civilians.
Oh absolutely. Like some women will like you even if you don't make that much, and some will never like you no matter how much you make. It's not like it's game over. But I don't think it necessarily means that you're unaffected unless your goal is a Jersey Shore fantasy - if you have a larger pool of potential partners, then you'll have an easier time finding the one that's right for you. You can only meet so many people in your life.
Except that "right for you" is only partly a matter of chance. The other part is your and your partners desire and commitment to make it work. I feel like people are too caught up in the idea that there's only one true love out there and you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get one prince/princess. If it was that hard, nobody would ever find a long-term partner.
I also think that if you have a smaller pool of potential partners, you're going to be a helluva lot less picky. You might fall for that gal with the broken nose who makes the world's greatest lasagna, and she'll fall for you, even if you lose your keys every five minutes and can't pronounce "foliage," because you listen to her and make her feel wanted. If you have 500 choices, you'll never be satisfied that you made the right decision.
True true. Looks is definitely a part of the package of attraction. I guess my perspective is coming from that idea of as long as you end up finding the one right one, what does the rest ultimately matter. But I'm also not a dude and I don't imagine that's the most common viewpoint of guys.
I guess I just want to try convince men of the fact that for women, the appearance of romantic partners is not as universally prioritized as seems to be their impression.
If some people don't think money matters and have a boat load of it but others have very little and money matters so much that it means the difference between eating today or not, why the heck aren't the folk who don't care about money sharing it with the folk who need it? this pisses me off so much :(
Honestly, when you're unattractive AND poor and your rich, attractive friend tells you neither of those matter is such a verbal slap in the face. Of course it doesn't matter FOR YOU!!!
That's because it's the people who have these things that realize that it's not the great. When you don't have it your under the impression that having attractiveness or money would make your life better, but the people who do have that know otherwise, yet they are mocked for trying to tell people that.
"Money isn't that important", he said between bites of his gourmet lobster tail.
Rising from the chair at the VIP table of this beach-front property on Bali's southwestern coast, he makes his way to the car waiting for him. On the 15-minute drive back to the 10,000sq foot villa he calls his second home he thinks to himself, "I can't believe people care so much about money. It's not like it can buy you happiness."
His wife and three children meet him as he arrives.
All you have to do is walk through a mall and look at all the ugly-ass guys with hot girlfriends. Confidence is king.
It's like an ugly-ass guy with confidence telling my awkward ass I need more money.
Or maybe it's money
Pretty people privilege is a real thing
What if I'm unattractive and I tell it to another unattractive person
Everything they claim doesn't matter, DOES matter.... times 10
It is not the same, because attraction and attractiveness lie in the eyes of the beholder. Beauty is defined differently from person to person.
Whereas with money, you either have it or you don't.
Long story short personality matters more than anything. If it doesn't, you're with someone shallow you shouldn't waste your time trying to impress anyway.
Or rich people saying money can't buy happiness to someone who is stressing out about feeding their children
It's the same as my girlfriend telling me dick size doesn't matter.
Either you're small and they say size doesn't matter or you're big and they praise you for it.
Or they just say "eh, you're not small"
Looks like someone jealous of their girlfriend's massive slong
PSA: when women take enough testosterone their clitoris will grow to the size of a tiny slong. Most often bigger than a micro-peen.
"The next step up from an oversized clit is an undersized dick" -Randall Graves
What's wrong with an oversized clit?
What's wrong with an undersized dick?
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She's been struck by a smooth criminal
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Idk just feeling a little down...
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I've seen it! It's fricking huge!
Odd, she tells me the opposite.
Right. It's all she talks about.
It's the same as you're girlfriend telling me that dick size does matter.
How big is her cock?
Pffft, my ex blatantly told me I was small.
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I'm slighlty bigger than average and it happened to me...sucks
money doesnt fix all your problems. a lot of them sure. but not all of them
All of them.
It's not just the money itself, it's the opportunities that come with it.
money cant buy you happiness it cant buy you friends and it cant fix a broken mind. the opportunities provided in life by money are opprotunities for more money so how would that get you anywhere but richer in wealth.
or that "money won't make you happy"
Same as my telling my girl friends their ass size doesn't matter
who ever said money dont matters
wow
What else do you want us to say?! Not trying to be mean but a legit question
Tbh I think attractiveness is determined by each person, there isn't a single person in the world who is attractive to every person or unattractive to everyone. The world would be a lot less toxic if people realized this. Everyone can be attractive, just take care of your physical and mental health!
and the lucky ones are born into either
Looks really aren't as important as a solid personality. My best friend is maybe 5/10. He's like 5'5" and hella overweight and without a hair cut, it's hard to tell if he's Hispanic or Asian. Dude still pulls girls like it's nobody's business, because he's just cool to be around. He's not an asshole and makes jokes about himself. Not in that annoying constantly self deprecating way, but just to show he's okay with how he is.
Looks do matter
I'm poor and unattractive, and I can honestly say that neither of those things matter. If you're happy with yourself, then that's all you need. Video games help too.
That's not true. Money does matter, while as evidenced by your mother managing to produce you, looks do not.
Neither matters
It isn't because rich people made something while attractive were born that way.
I think money can bring things that attractiveness cannot. Beauty also fades. Being valued only for your beauty can definitely be depressing. Money is itself valuable and transferable, being pretty isn't.
I see what you mean but I don't think its a fair comparison. One is far more valuable than the other.
Also, like conventionally attractive? I see plenty on of non attractive dudes get all the ladies, why, because they rock!
This sounds whiny.
You're not ugly you're exotic 🐯
Doesn't everyone get a small loan of a million dollars from their dad? It's your fault if you're poor.
humongous dicks don't matter, guys
Wow thanks, I was really worried
Most women would be very happy with a nice sized 8" guy.
It must be rough. I can't believe someone said that to you :(
It's also the same thing when people who are in relationships or frequently get lucky, say that sex isn't a big deal.
That's confidence and appearance
Except ugly people get laid a lot more often than poor people get rich...
Maybe this does apply more to guys than girls, but I've known a decent number of unattractive dudes who have beautiful partners inside and out. I never met a poor dude with a house in the Hamptons and Porsche, and a 25MM stock portfolio.
This is definitely true in the case of Russia. There were many guys who had been hit hard by the ugly stick and then you'll see their girlfriends/wives and they were gorgeous. Like day and night.
I'm unattractive but rich. What does that get me?
While they do matter, they are not the end-all. Look at all the ugly ass celebs.
Updoots do not matter.
Money is in the hands of the account holder. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Confidence and not being a sucky person I believe is more valuable with people. Attractiveness can only get you so far.
In shape person: im so fat
Obese me: are you trying to say something?
Exposed me
Maybe then it only matters when you don't have it.
True
Money DOESN'T matter.
Nope didn't work. Still not rich.
looks don't matter THAT much, but your personality isn't a prize either
Appart from good looking folk can't share their "meaningless" good looks with people who need it. That and people dont need good looks to survive. So actually the money one is way worse lul.
"It's ok to lose your hair, bald is a good look," I hear constantly, from people with hair.
Attraction is relative , do you mean pretty face . Or a extremely fit . Or a massive IQ ? Or a deep bank account .
But realistically if you have enough money neither looks or money matter.
Maybe reread that one
I think it still makes sense. If you have enough money, money doesn't matter
Unfortunately it needs to be quite a lot, at least according to some studies. Like I saw one that said that a 5'6" guy needs to make about $150k more per year than a 6' guy to be equally attractive, all else being equal.
I would be really, really interested to know how that study measured this.
lol. I'm really curious to see what parameters they used to come up with this precise mathematical conclusion
Can confirm. My bf is 6'5' and makes very little. Haha
Wow! I've never heard anything like that and it's sad if it's true. But I'm 6' 3" and broke so I'll never know.
Hmm you should hit up a nightclub with some short lawyers or something and see who gets more interest, for science.
Maybe I will. For science.
Just make sure Tacko Fall doesn't show up at da club.
It's over for everyone, especially when they turn the lights on
Y'all have to wear the same outfits though. For the science.
Should have said doctors, not sure if lawyers still get a fraction of the same respect they did 60 years ago.
Also lawyers are more douchey
Testing average tall guy vs douche rich boi isn't really proving anything.
It would be a better test to compare tallness value vs richness value since you're isolating the richness by counteracting it with douche.
I wasn't sure if doctors might make too much though, gotta make sure it's fair.
Surgeons typically make at least 250 a year
These stats are generalizing about attractiveness to the whole population of women. That "fact" should be irrelevant to any given individual because it's based in a perspective of getting a vast quantity of women to like you. That's dumb. Unless you're goal is some kinda jersey shore fantasy version of a life or people magazine's nonexistent list of hottest civilians.
Oh absolutely. Like some women will like you even if you don't make that much, and some will never like you no matter how much you make. It's not like it's game over. But I don't think it necessarily means that you're unaffected unless your goal is a Jersey Shore fantasy - if you have a larger pool of potential partners, then you'll have an easier time finding the one that's right for you. You can only meet so many people in your life.
Except that "right for you" is only partly a matter of chance. The other part is your and your partners desire and commitment to make it work. I feel like people are too caught up in the idea that there's only one true love out there and you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get one prince/princess. If it was that hard, nobody would ever find a long-term partner.
I also think that if you have a smaller pool of potential partners, you're going to be a helluva lot less picky. You might fall for that gal with the broken nose who makes the world's greatest lasagna, and she'll fall for you, even if you lose your keys every five minutes and can't pronounce "foliage," because you listen to her and make her feel wanted. If you have 500 choices, you'll never be satisfied that you made the right decision.
True true. Looks is definitely a part of the package of attraction. I guess my perspective is coming from that idea of as long as you end up finding the one right one, what does the rest ultimately matter. But I'm also not a dude and I don't imagine that's the most common viewpoint of guys.
I guess I just want to try convince men of the fact that for women, the appearance of romantic partners is not as universally prioritized as seems to be their impression.
If some people don't think money matters and have a boat load of it but others have very little and money matters so much that it means the difference between eating today or not, why the heck aren't the folk who don't care about money sharing it with the folk who need it? this pisses me off so much :(
More like "You only need to work hard to get rich, like I did"
Then you find out he inherited all his fortune.
Just a small loan of a million dollars from his dad
And lawyers. Lots of expensive lawyers.
sometimes becoming the sole inheritor comes from hard persistent persuasion or "hard p.p." if you are so inclined
I am also very motivated by that same philosophy.
You only said that because you're ugly and poor.
I mean an ugly person telling anyone looks dosnt matter isn't any better
Your so pretty
... yes.
you do more work to maintain your appearance than you do when youre rich tbf
Right you are
Honestly, when you're unattractive AND poor and your rich, attractive friend tells you neither of those matter is such a verbal slap in the face. Of course it doesn't matter FOR YOU!!!
That's because it's the people who have these things that realize that it's not the great. When you don't have it your under the impression that having attractiveness or money would make your life better, but the people who do have that know otherwise, yet they are mocked for trying to tell people that.
They aren't wrong.
Nice.
Imagine there's no possessions..
Attractive people don't always see themselves as attractive.
The problem is that ugly people telling you that looks don't matter just gets looked on as someone who is delusional.