I cant be suprised. I mean, i dont feel anything when someone "suprises" me with a present or anything. Whats wrong with me? I would always stand there and fake smile or reaction
Interesting premise. We were very poor all through my childhood, but I think I had a pretty good childhood. As a child, I loved surprises, but as an adult I don't mind small surprises but hate big surprises. My wife knows this, and that I'd walk out of a surprise party. I love entertaining, but then I'm in control, but I am most certainly not a control freak. What does this say about me?
For me it's asking for stuff or help. I didn't have a bad childhood, just a really poor one and I learned at an early age to not ask for anything because the answer would be no. That translated in my adulthood to never asking for help.
I had a fairly poor childhood and i refuse to ask for help on things unless i've spent almost a hundred hours on it because i don't want to be a burden.
Not OP but don't like surprises in general. I mean, partner coming home with some flowers is okay, but often suprises tend to put you in a spotlight when multiple people are around and I don't like that if I haven't had time to prepare myself.
Not the person your responding too but i had a great childhood and pretty much hate all surprises, even good ones from people i like. I dont even like recieving gifts
I'm the same way. My family was incredible, but also super plan oriented, so I was always taught that plans were better than surprises, and still very much feel that way. If you don't tell me you're taking me out to dinner, how will I know not to eat early, which would be accidentally rude
my experience with surprises are mainly bad, not just childhood, but even now.. I almost never receive a pleasant surprise... so might be true
I cant be suprised. I mean, i dont feel anything when someone "suprises" me with a present or anything. Whats wrong with me? I would always stand there and fake smile or reaction
I don't understand why, someone care to explain?
Tell us you had a good childhood without telling us you had a good childhood
lol
Interesting premise. We were very poor all through my childhood, but I think I had a pretty good childhood. As a child, I loved surprises, but as an adult I don't mind small surprises but hate big surprises. My wife knows this, and that I'd walk out of a surprise party. I love entertaining, but then I'm in control, but I am most certainly not a control freak. What does this say about me?
That you were very poor through your childhood, but had a pretty good one
I like to think I'm a rounded adult, and even though she died three years ago, I know my mum was proud of what made of my life.
I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm certain that you're a great person, so I belive so too ^^
No. You probably cannot.
I had a messed up childhood and I love surprises
For me it's asking for stuff or help. I didn't have a bad childhood, just a really poor one and I learned at an early age to not ask for anything because the answer would be no. That translated in my adulthood to never asking for help.
I had a fairly poor childhood and i refuse to ask for help on things unless i've spent almost a hundred hours on it because i don't want to be a burden.
I do that as well. I didn't realize how absurd it was until you put it in words.
Yeah it hadn't hit me either till i put it into words eother
It's OK to ask for help with that, too.
I had a good childhood, still hate surprises.
Now do you hate surprises from certain people or just surprises altogether
Not OP but don't like surprises in general. I mean, partner coming home with some flowers is okay, but often suprises tend to put you in a spotlight when multiple people are around and I don't like that if I haven't had time to prepare myself.
Not the person your responding too but i had a great childhood and pretty much hate all surprises, even good ones from people i like. I dont even like recieving gifts
I'm the same way. My family was incredible, but also super plan oriented, so I was always taught that plans were better than surprises, and still very much feel that way. If you don't tell me you're taking me out to dinner, how will I know not to eat early, which would be accidentally rude
Nah. I love surprises. I just think i am not good enough.
And by if they are funny
Depends in the surprise.
Gift card?! Sweet.
That isnt a fart running down your leg... not cool.
I hate surprises, if you don't tell me what's happening, it's likely I'll have a breakdown from anxiety, what's my childhood like?
I had a great childhood and hate surprises
In my case this is true. Just ask the last person who tried to hug me from behind. I broke their nose.
Surprise can prise your heart
True