Insufferable how?

by Jamie18 2 months ago

They give me villain energy 🦹

by Anonymous 2 months ago

You sure do like your very vague answers don't you? Can you give an example? or a few?

by Present_Confusion 2 months ago

My guess is no

by Tillmantiffany 2 months ago

Think you are right, all we are getting is villain energy, which i'm not really sure what OP means by.

by Present_Confusion 2 months ago

^ The type of person OP talks about

by Mayertyolanda 2 months ago

Lol xD I hope that's true, because then OP might be the strange one.

by Present_Confusion 2 months ago

😂😂

by Anonymous 2 months ago

You sound like you were a bully.

by Mcdermottmireya 2 months ago

I got bullied a lot when younger, so not sure if I can say if im insufferable or not, but the people around me don't seem to think so. Can you explain what you mean by insufferable? Like because they are shy? Introverted? Or have they been mean in your experience? Or what? saying they are insufferable doesn't say much, please give an example or something at least.

by Present_Confusion 2 months ago

I just get villain energy from them, maybe I've just had some weird interactions but idk 🤷🏻‍♀️ and I've been bullied before don't get me wrong, but I was considered cool/nice growing up despite that.. so I feel that I didn't have it as rough as others.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

And what does that mean? Does that mean they just want to be mean to others? And how do you know they were bullied?

by Present_Confusion 2 months ago

Op don't really want to explain more than that, I have asked them a few times, and so have others, so all they can say is that very vague answer. When I think of villain energy, I think of someone who just wants to ruin the world, but that just seems extreme, I don't think I have ever meet someone like that.

by Present_Confusion 2 months ago

Same I know of some people I would call close to insufferable, as all they did was talk down to me, and make me feel like I wasn't worth it, but how everyone who has been bullied is insufferable I dunno. I don't really have a good idea what they mean by villain energy either, the thing I said is the only thing I could think of, but I just don't think OP really knows either, in which case I dunno how they can even come to this conclusion.

by Present_Confusion 2 months ago

What interactions are you referring to?

by Anonymous 2 months ago

So how do you determine that people were bullied? When they tell you their "origin story"? And once you find out they've been bullied, THEN they seem insufferable? You have no idea who was bullied UNLESS they tell you their story, correct? So you're almost certainly meeting people who are NOT insufferable but who have been bullied.

by Rare_Can 2 months ago

this screams trying to come to terms with what you did when you was younger. if you was a bully when you was younger, that's not great obviously but you're an adult now and we all do stupid stuff as kids, you should learn to cope with it, without further demonizing victims. If you are still a bully as an adult then shame on you The fact that you use childish terms like "giving __ energy" to justify your dislike for victims could suggest you are still bullying.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

You're jumping to conclusions I didn't partake in bullying nor do I condone it I'm just stating my observation, I feel like you're attacking me for my Unpopular opinion! Calm down buddy 😂

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Oh yes! We are villains and always scheming ways of seeking revenge twists chin hair menacingly

by Spirited_Chip 2 months ago

Weird. I find people who were bullies as children turn into asshole adults. More annoyed that their victims are still dealing with trauma than remorseful about their own actions.

by zblock 2 months ago

I wasn't talking about the bullies tho, I think everyone knows that

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Possible. I was bullied because of my autisme, and I'm now a misanthrope. But it's not a problem because I don't care if you find me insufferable. Not a problem at all, for me. So, what are you going to do? If you want to fix that, you need to fight against bullying.

by Esatterfield 2 months ago

Assuming you are right, your wording says a lot about your view and where you place the blame. I think better wording would be something along the lines of, "Bullies tend to traumatize their victims such that, as adults, they are not fun to be around." For the record, I was neither bullied or a bully.

by Tillmantiffany 2 months ago

What counts as insufferable? A lot of the people I know in roles that involve supporting kids and teens (youth workers, kids councillors, my group of teachers in the learning support and wellbeing unit) were bullied as teens ourselves. I find many of them want to support young people

by Less-Luck 2 months ago

I'll never respect my bullies but I am thankful. They gave me motivation and drive to better myself, while they stay in their hometown sweating for pennies or welfare checks.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Rolling this over in my head and would like to learn more about where this is coming from. When I was growing up, it was the weird, weak kids who got bulled. Kids I feel bad for in retrospect. But in my kid's class so far, it's actually been the kids who fit in fine yet are kind of a-holes to other kids, without having the charisma or confidence to keep others close.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

You clearly were bullied

by Anonymous 2 months ago

More likely the bully

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Well yeah, they spent most of their childhood in an environment where their emotions and feelings didn't matter, and, especially if they were a man, they were expected to bury it all. Their need to be liked either becomes so strong they do whatever it takes, their drive to prove the bullies wrong increases, and they usually become something really cool to shove it in their faces, or they lose their drive (more likely if their parents weren't emotionally available or their presence was irrelevant due to a lack of strong connection, which is more common than you'd think). If you lose your drive, you generally absorb your time in self centered ways. Not by focusing on bettering it, but by focusing on distracting yourself from it. When it comes down to it, your drive is what makes you valuable and if you have none, well you have no value, and that's tough to process for someone who's already felt like they've held no value for so long Then as you get older you're expected to hold yourself in more responsible ways, but you were too busy distracting yourself that you didn't form any healthy habits or patterns that would help you become an adult, you are still expected to be one though, so you're kinda thrown into it. You're trying to play catch up, while also feeling like your childhood and personal growth were stripped from you. You desperately need help, but it's difficult to feel responsible for yourself when you spent so much time away from yourself, and you start to blame others for your upbringing. While you may be right, you're still responsible for your life and how you handle it all, life isn't fair, and that might piss you off so much you fall back into the routine of distracting yourself from it all, hoping it'll get better tomorrow. Distracting yourself from the bullies and the hurt, distracting yourself from your adult responsibilities, distracting yourself from the people who are being hard about your lack of drive. They all think you're someone who doesn't care, who is lazy, who is a burden to deal with, and they're also right... All because some assholes decided you were an easy target back in middle school.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Sounds like a sampling bias to me. Consider this: the kind of people who fixate on any aspect of their childhood are insufferable. It's not the "bullying" that made them insufferable. They just happen to be insufferable people who are vocal about their bullying (or their homeschooling, or the time they threw the winning touchdown pass, or the prestigious music camp they attended, etc.) Don't let yourself be fooled by correlation fallacies.

by Savings-Remove 2 months ago

OP and I never got bullied but we're obviously pretty insufferable so seems like there has to be another root cause for adult insufferability.

by Ok_March 2 months ago

Please provide one example of the interactions you've had that illustrate "villain energy."

by Brief_Project 2 months ago

And then you grow up and realize that everyone got bullied. This opinion isnt wrong, its pointless.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

This person has the personality of a mid housewife.

by cecile54 2 months ago

Probably the people who make it their whole personality 20 years later are the insufferable ones, not every single person who was bullied.

by Live-Parsnip 2 months ago

If it's been at least a decade since you were bullied, you never need to bring it up again. Yet, I keep running into adults, in their 30's, who've made it a major part of their identity and bring it up often. Why do that? I think it's just a symptom of people not wanting to grow up, and carrying their infantile habits and hobbies with them for as long as possible.

by Hauckorland 2 months ago

Extremely unpopular opinion I actually agree with (despite the hyperbole title). My theory is that it's because bullies are generally pretty popular and thus tend to develop better social skills which are noticeable in adulthood.

by Towneaniya 2 months ago

Bullies aren't popular. Other people fear them and that's why they have so many "friends". It's not because they are liked, it's because they are feared. They don't have connections with people and don't have better socialization. If they had better socialization they wouldn't be a bully. People who are bullies in adolescence most often don't become successful adults. They are the definition of "peaked in high school". They live their life chasing their "glory days". They become the Karen's in adulthood. They still expect everyone to kiss the ground they walk on and when people don't, we get to watch their melt down go viral on the internet.

by prince57 2 months ago

That's a good theory & makes a lot of sense as to why it could be!

by Anonymous 2 months ago

Well do you blame them….yep

by jrenner 2 months ago

I don't like liberals either.

by Anonymous 2 months ago

They're the ones buying that POS CyberTruck. They were weird then and they're (still) weird today...

by bgraham 2 months ago

LMFAO 😂

by Anonymous 2 months ago