Socializing is unpleasant. amirite?

Why do people phrase these like this applies to everyone? "Socializing just leaves you leaving drained and stressed." Mate not everyone feels that way. Many people are the opposite and feel energized after socializing. Nothing is wrong with feeling that way, but it's weird to act like this is some universal truth

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Because empathy, critical thinking and being self aware is at an all time low.

by sporercharity 5 months ago

People can say "you" in general terms.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

In the language they use, it is common to use "you" in general terms.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

They proclaimed their personal opinion as universal truth

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Sounds to me like the OP has no personality. Socializing is fun if you are capable of talking.

by DoughnutBeginning797 5 months ago

I've learned things, but much of the time it's things I didn't want to know. You spend almost an hour with a guy who keeps running at the mouth about his kids, you start to ask questions too.

by Miserable-Room-9947 5 months ago

Those of us who don't like socializing really have a hard time understanding why anyone would or could enjoy it.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

because most people don't know about introversion, extroversion and ambiversion

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I'm an extrovert and definitely need time to myself too. It's almost like extrovert/introvert mainly pertains to energy gain, and is a spectrum.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

It feels like after the pandemic people decided that introvert now means "I have debilitating social anxiety and avoid people". to use the social battery analogy, introvert used to be seen as folks who "got their battery depleted" by social interaction so had to recharge for a while after. Nowadays a concerning amount people's social batteries are just dead.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

No, it was like that before too. Especially on social media.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Tomorrow: "there is zero downside to social distancing and isolating, we really should go back to that for the good of humanity" Then call anyone "wrong" who mentions how difficult mental health was during that time. From the site that is "a mental health safe space" (quotes because that apparently means giving bad to actively toxic advice on how to deal with depression)

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Do they not? I feel like introverts won't shut up about it.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I swear half of the reels I get on instagram are about being "so quirky because I want to stay in and watch reality tv"

by Anonymous 5 months ago

True that. Might delete.

by No_Watercress_5089 5 months ago

It's unpopular opinion but they're literally said it "leaves YOU drained". It's one thing to just say "I'm drained after socializing" but they phrase it in a way that implies everyone is feeling drained after socializing.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

True that. Will probably delete.

by No_Watercress_5089 5 months ago

The Introversion/Extraversion continuum conceptualizes people as batteries. The batteries of introverts are drained by social interaction whereas the batteries of extraverts are charged by it. Extraverts will tend to describe themselves as "fading" without social interaction. But yeah, I feel you. What you are saying is not so outlandish, you're probably just very introverted.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

My BIL is simultaneously a massive introvert and a very successful tech sales executive. We always joke that we're inverted - I'm massively extroverted and on the development side of the house. Introverts can absolutely enjoy and talk to people at a very high level.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Lol

by No_Watercress_5089 5 months ago

You've got problems that need to be addressed or you'll hate your life in twenty years

by Margaritabrakus 5 months ago

Found the adult haha

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Stay in, game, smoke weed, don't talk to people; then ask "why am I depressed" and make fun of anyone who says to do something outdoors or claim they can't for incredibly ridiculous reasons. Like they were caused by a dog once as a child, so they are unable to walk at a park.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Going through that whole hating my life thing now. Being an awkward 35 yo isn't cute

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I'm incredibly extroverted, but also have pretty decent social anxiety. Learning to deal with that has really helped me feel like me.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

That's called being a human. Every one with half a brain has anxiety

by Margaritabrakus 5 months ago

What are the problems, exactly?

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I don't think this person wants to avoid human contact their entire life, they're just saying they prefer to spend time alone than being social.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Do you have autism?

by Anonymous 5 months ago

If I had a penny every time someone claimed us introverts have 'autism' or 'aspergers' or any other type of 'mental illness', God- I'd be rich.

by Loose-Leadership 5 months ago

Why do they want so badly for those of us who don't like socializing to be labeled with a mental illness?

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Well, there is a difference between introversion and this guy's extreme avoidance of socialization. He doesn't really seem to get the point of it, how to do it, or why people do it.

by Spinkalaurine 5 months ago

Question for ya! I do like to chat, but I don't socialize often. What I do prefer when socializing is doing an activity at the same time. Whether that's going to the cinema, watching a sport, playing a sport, going for a hike.... the list goes on! Have you tried doing activity based socializing instead of 'standing or sitting around' and doing nothing while socailizing?

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Socializing is just standing or sitting around with people and yapping about this and that in an awkward way. you got everything wrong about socializing.... 😂🤣

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I hate small talk. I wanna talk about atoms, death, aliens, sex, magic, intellect, the meaning of life, far away galaxies, the lies you've told, your flaws, your favorite scents, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears… I like people with depth, who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't want to know "what's up". OP, probably

by Little_Tomato_83 5 months ago

Bro, we're just trying to watch football and catch up, because at least a few of us had some pretty stressful work weeks

by Anonymous 5 months ago

lol.

by No_Watercress_5089 5 months ago

yes i was 17 once too. you'll get over it, just hang on.

by Powerful_Swimming 5 months ago

Yikes

by Immediate-Athlete 5 months ago

Socializing in an integral part of being a human being. I would think of it like exercising, or any other chore.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

this is how i started feeling after having no choice but to hangout by myself. after all the times of being alone, socializing with people i'm not super close to feel draining. i started feeling annoyed and drained when they start talking too much and can't much my pace in doing things cuz i'm used to doing things alone according to my likings.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Bro you're just introverted

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I agree 100%. Look, I know it's part of life. But most people don't remember why we socialize anymore. We socialize because we care. We want to know how someone is doing, we want to share info, knowledge, experience. But now socializing, especially in online and group setting feels so perfomative and fake. I would rather spend time on myself, doing things that matters to me, that only I understand and never have to justify myself to a bunch of strangers who don't matter. But of course, it's always nice to check in with a fellow introvert.

by forrest98 5 months ago

As an introvert I don't disagree. I like to limit my socializing but I still acknowledge I need it. My partner and I have game nights with friends once a month. Other than that we prefer to be dead to the world.

by martareynolds 5 months ago

I mean this is just a personality trait lol.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Socialising is draining until you realise the person you're talking to seems to understand you and connect with you. In a sea of people out there, I'm always waiting for those people who I instantly connect with.

by InfamousAd 5 months ago

I'm like that too because I'm an introvert. But for extroverts its the opposite.

by dickimarta 5 months ago

Me too man I hate people

by Feisty_Yoghurt_3252 5 months ago

Pov - introvert learns about extroverts

by Anonymous 5 months ago

You must be an introvert. Extroverts get energized after socializing

by Snicolas 5 months ago

I've said this before and it's been proven true time and time again. Some people are not meant for being closely involved in society. Some people are born loners.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Oh look another social anxiety hermit. Shocking... If you think this is unpopular you really haven't gone outside in a very very long time.

by Lreichel 5 months ago

At this point I'm socializing just to keep the conversation going while looking for an opening to leave

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Geez, someone is a grumpy catloaf

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Talking with people is far more entertaining to me that most other things in the extreme. I'm an introvert for sure, but I get more than enough alone time.

by Which-Crow 5 months ago

In my opinion socializing with the right people when you choose isn't so draining but I understand your point and I agree

by PartyWild225 5 months ago

The perfect amount of socializing for me is going to CrossFit, saying hi to the people I know, working out, joking about what hell the workout was, then going home. Five minutes of chatting max.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Sounds like you're starting to realize you have introverted tendencies.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Socializing is not for everyone, especially not for introvert. But, you can't deny it is not productive. I personally is an introvert and I like alone time, but I also happen to picked up the skill to socialize. Sure, it is still draining but I usually leave with in a good mood. Also it depends on the crowd. If you go to a club, you can't expect to have some soul-searching talk with someone.

by ayanaleffler 5 months ago

It's not normal to not want to socialize. You have a problem.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Not every introvert 'has a problem'. If I use your same logic, I can say that everyone who likes socializing... who likes being the loudest one in the room, has the problem.

by Loose-Leadership 5 months ago

"Let me, an extrovert, explain all the problems with introverts!"

by Loose-Leadership 5 months ago

It's called introversion. You have a psychological condition that millions of others share.

by lucinda73 5 months ago

More of a preference than an opinion really. Just like I prefer to not do cardio but then again theirs people that just enjoy running like for fun. Just a preference

by Lost-Lifeguard2268 5 months ago

No, I totally get it. Meaningless conversations are uncomfortable.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

It doesn't leave me feeling drained out6 stressed

by Anonymous 5 months ago

OP: Everyone who isn't an socially anxious introvert who needs to be medicated is WRONG!

by Anonymous 5 months ago

socializing with multiple people yes. but just hanging out with one other person is great imo.

by robertsleola 5 months ago

Imagine people feeling/ being different than you 😂

by Fragrant-Dingo-4897 5 months ago

People are complex. Not everything good for one person works for another. Just to say, that while you and I could go several days without interacting with others, others may explode without talking to anyone.

by Rashadgrady 5 months ago

I really hate socializing overall, but if it's with ppl you can actually have an interesting convo with it's not that bad. Especially if you limit the length of time you're engaging. It doesn't have to be awkward.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I like my alone time for hobbies and I also like socializing. I only feel awkward under very limited circumstances, like working alongside a coworker I don't like or something.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

It's called being an introvert and it's great! Why pay $8 for a beer at a bar to be with people when you can buy a 24 pack and relax in lawn chairs. People say that it's good to go out and be with people. It leaves some of us drained and sometimes even unwanted to be there in the first place. Socializing isn't unpleasant. It's just doesn't come as easy to us as others.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

There is that aspect to it, yep. Don't leave out the happenstance times of forced socialization with someone who really needs a bath. That's another reason to detest it. After answering, I don't feel drained now, I'm refreshed. 😁

by East_Context 5 months ago

your around the wrong people , that's why you feel that way . I like to be by myself but if i meet someone who's cool and down to earth then i'll have a good time doesn't happen all the time though

by Anonymous 5 months ago

I am this way but it doesn't mean all people are. There are people who are opposite to this.

by Open-Cartographer 5 months ago

Think of it as exercise. It's not fun for you but it's good for your future self.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

OP - how old are you ?

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Seems you just figured what an introvert is

by Bright-Zombie 5 months ago

100% agree. Unless it's someone you actually vibe with them no socializing is great

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Get some therapy for your social anxiety

by Gregoryzboncak 5 months ago

I don't typically get anxious in social situations. More bored and stressed.

by No_Watercress_5089 5 months ago

Such a weird outlook

by Anonymous 5 months ago

many philosophers and literary authors said the similar things about socializing.

by Howenedra 5 months ago

Many philosophers were drunk rich kids who happened to be decent writers. Thoreau was actively attending high society events while "in isolation" at Walden Pond.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

It's wild to call it "animalistic" when the depth and breadth of communication humans are capable of is unmatched in the animal kingdom, to the point where socializing as we practice it is a uniquely human activity. God, imagine being so miserable that you see a group of people talking to each other and think "YOU ANIMALS!" %80 of dialogues are actually unnecessary from logical perspective. This just sounds like you're arrogant and don't think you have anything to learn from other people's experiences and perspectives.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

other people's experiences and perspectives. It is in %20. We have predictable lives. When you learn general context it becomes repetitive, all human beings from different social classes have similar values and struggles in the context of their class and way of life. We are much more creative than other animals but I believe our basic experiences and emotions are not much different than other animals (survive and reproduce, obey social hierarchy...etc.). I don't see myself above others, I'm one of these hairless monkeys.

by Howenedra 5 months ago

Such edge.

by Spinkalaurine 5 months ago

Hearing people talk isn't overrated...

by Adamsjulio 5 months ago

You're just introverted and that's ok. I am the same way. Extroverts THRIVE in social gatherings.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Go to therapy, OP

by coltenthiel 5 months ago

Oh look- yet another person who equates being an introvert to a 'mental illness'!

by Loose-Leadership 5 months ago

I mean, most people don't have these visceral reactions to speaking to other human beings. Introverts prefer to be on their own but are perfectly capable of talking to another human being.

by Spinkalaurine 5 months ago

This is why people hate introverts

by jada93 5 months ago

Believe it or not socializing is actually inherently part of human nature. Health is composed of 3 main pillars. Physical, mental, and social.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Unironically relatable

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Yes. Amd i just want to socialize in a way we cooperate in doing. Not let each other down. Look to help each other. Most people look to use others. No point.

by Anonymous 5 months ago

Watch this person

by Key_Confidence 5 months ago

Spoken like a true introvert. I think this is a popular opinion among us introverts, but probably very unpopular to extroverts who are rejuvenated & recharged by being around people.

by Leda29 5 months ago

Rage bait ?

by Micaela70 5 months ago