It's NOT better to have loved then lost than to never have loved at all. amirite?

We are all entitled to our opinions of course but I'd rather have 5 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special. The greatest risk in life is never taking any.

by Ordinary-Arrival 1 month ago

Depends on what you value in life

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I do.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

So do you just do nothing?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Basically. I'm too uncertain about what I should do, nothing feels right or worth doing.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

There are some things worse than death.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Like breathing in mustard gas probably

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Which would lead to death

by Cody45 1 month ago

I love this opinion. Its unpopular but I agree with it. My mother lost her child(my brother). And it destroyed her. I cannot imagine living with the pain she goes through every day. Obviously its hard losing a brother but I would have to think losing a child is the worst pain imaginable. And I kindof would rather never have children at all, than lose one. I feel like I'm going to need therapy even when my dog goes.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

To quote a character from a TV show: "The bad part is when you forget her, when you don't care about her, when you don't care about anything. The bad part is coming, so enjoy the heartbreak while you can, for gods sakes."

by Basic-Bodybuilder832 1 month ago

We deal with loss, grief, and death so atrociously here in the west it is no wonder people have opinions like this. Life, love, relationships, and everything else are beautiful because they are impermanent. Watch a group of monks work for months on a piece of art made from sand enjoy the process and a few moments after and then dump it all on the floor. It is not the same as losing a loved one but clinging to things having to last is what keeps us down.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I felt that way once. A guy I'd dated several months and then broke up with ended his life. He'd had some mental health issues, but I was wracked with guilt. I went into a tailspin and didn't date for over a year. It occurred to me that there IS no such thing as Happily EVER After. At some point, it's going to end, and it's going to hurt. Then a guy came along and swept me off my feet. I did worry about the "lost" part, but we ended up getting married and, eventually, divorced. Yep, that was painful. But then I met the love of my life. The blissful, bubbly feeling never went totally away, and we never ran out of things to say. A few years later, he died of liver cancer. So I get why someone might believe it's NOT better to have loved and lost. And yet, and yet, IS it, really? We can't escape the pain of loss completely: friends die, parents die, pets die. If I had no friends, no parents, no pets, my life would be dreary and seem pointless. Every person I've lost has meant a lot to me. I'm glad I got to love them. Each of them was worth the pain of loss.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

It's more zen to have the opinion: "Doesn't matter, had sex"

by Anonymous 1 month ago

loss is part of the fabric of life on earth. you will never live a life without loss. so why live one without love? then all you'll have is cryptic and stunted losses. the human experience is understood in its myriad opposites - i'm not rejecting my own humanness to this degree. i'm committed to the love even knowing i must one day grit my teeth through the invaluably transformative lessons that come with the excruciating, inevitable grief.

by Framicraig 1 month ago

this is a dumb take, so you should never let yourself love over fear of losing it? also heartbreak, as painful as it is, can be a growing process and is natural and everyone should experience it

by jacobigeo 1 month ago

Loss is a part of life whether you want it or not. Being married to someone I truly care about is amazing. I know at some point one of us will no longer be around and will have to deal with that loss. But the idea of never having her in my life is more depressing than anything. The same with being alone.

by Louiedach 1 month ago

Loss is part of life. Let it be love, death, etc. To deny that is to deny your own condition and what's unavoidable.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yeah well it's supposed to help you cope dude, and in retrospect it usually is better to have loved n lost. May not feel that way when things are recent, but nostalgia is lovely

by russelhackett 1 month ago

Why do anything then? just going outside increases your chance of dying so just stay inside and do nothing so you don't die doing something you might enjoy.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You can't possibly know this to be true because the fact that you've experienced having "loved then lost" means you can't possibly have experienced never having loved at all.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

As someone who has never seriously dated, I agree. And as someone whos been betrayed by her own family, I agree.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I HATE learning and growing as a person!!!!!

by Silly_Concentrate 1 month ago

The pain does pass eventually, and you learn to cherish the next relationship afterwards. You will eventually get better OP. It is better to have loved them lost than to never have felt that love in the first place.

by DifficultBudget 1 month ago

I have never taken it to mean a specific person, but I think it's better to have experienced love at least once in your life than to go your entire life not knowing what it's like. Even if you're like, "oh wow, that sucked, but at least now I know!"

by Mattierice 1 month ago

Completely dependent on context. I've had relationships where I've definitely lost more then I gained... But I had to get my dog pts a few months ago, and despite the pain, I'm so glad we had her in our lives.

by Appropriate_Fun6157 1 month ago

If we take the saying to the ultimate application: Is it better to live and eventually die, than to have never lived at all?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That's only true if you don't want love. The idea of going through a whole lifetime without experiencing it sounds far worse than grieving through a breakup

by Anonymous 1 month ago